# Please explain todays woman and "50 Shades of Gray".

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**Created:** [April 3, 2017, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-explain-todays-woman-and-50-shades-of-gray/783693 "2017-04-03T23:22:12Z")\
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**Post date:** [April 4, 2017, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-explain-todays-woman-and-50-shades-of-gray/783693/27 "2017-04-04T23:44:43Z")

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> [@Brooky](#):
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> I don’t agree with any of you, men. Sorry. It isn’t any of the particulars in the film or book. It’s very simple really. We Women got off on the attention the desire the passion. Didn’t have a darn thing to do with whips & chains. That is why the book was so popular~~~We Woman could tap into that perverse attention or desire (he was grooming only her) and twist the spanking into hot passion! We Women are so much more craftier & creative in our minds than visually watching, which is why most of We Woman found the movie anti-climatic. No movie made by a man could come close to capturing what was lurking behind our eyes.~~Hope this clears it up for you fellas~It was my pleasure.

You know that actually got me thinking about when I was younger.

I could be pretty cool on the first couple of dates with a woman. I had some good jokes, stories, etc… I could make a woman laugh, shower her with compliments and fun, really show her a good time.

But then, I hate to admit it but I only had so much of that. Only so many funny stories. Only so much energy. Only so much money. That after awhile I just couldnt keep up that same level of energy into the relationship.

Which to me is basically saying, after dating a person for awhile, things get real. Peoples true selves really show and maybe they are good but maybe not. Who knows will christian and the woman break up later on?

Could she handle being just a wife to him if he couldnt keep up this intensity?

Will fantasies cause them to break up or at least seek other relationships?

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