# Please pray for my Sweetie Pie **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 22, 2005, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096 "2005-01-22T16:32:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/61 "2005-01-23T15:11:22Z")
Call the hospital social worker (call the main phone number and they can connect you) and calmly (\*\*calmly \*\*is the key word here!) find out what their policies are around parental visitation. From my own experiences with several hospitals, unless you have a restraining order against you for the patient, if you are the parent, custodial or otherwise, they cannot stop you from seeing her. If Pie’s mother has a restraining order against you barring you from being within X feet of herself, then the social worker can help you work out visits when Pie’s mother is out of the room. If there’s no restraining orders involved and you are Pie’s legal parent, I don’t think they have much of a leg to stand on unless you become so upset that you’re interferring with medical care. If a doctor believes that your presence is upsetting the patient and interferring with recovery, then you will be asked to leave. If you are beligerent to the staff and prevent them from treating your daughter or other patients, you will be asked to leave. This is why you must do your best to stay calm here. Trust me, call the social worker. This is not the first time he’s dealt with this problem, and it won’t be the last. At the very least, he can find out for you what it was you did that got you barred. ---
**Author:** ![brachyrhynchos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brachyrhynchos/32/376_2.png) [@brachyrhynchos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brachyrhynchos)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/62 "2005-01-23T15:44:34Z")
**Trisk** , I’m so sorry to hear this. You and your daughter are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Indyellen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/indyellen/32/4176_2.png) [@Indyellen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indyellen)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/63 "2005-01-23T16:03:35Z")
I just read all the posts, **Tris** , and I realize you don’t know me from Adam, but my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. And yes, try to find out WHY they’ve restricted you. My suggestion, too, would be to find someone you trust to talk out the emotional stuff before you go back to the hospital, whether it’s a friend, minister, or whatever so that you’ll be calm enough to be effective. Thank you for taking the time to keep us posted, and again, thoughts, prayers, & positive energy headed your way. ---
**Author:** ![Guy\_Incognito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guy_incognito/32/3920_2.png) [@Guy\_Incognito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guy_Incognito)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/64 "2005-01-23T21:51:12Z")
Your daughter and your family are in my prayers tonight. Try to keep cool and see if you can contact the hospital’s administrative staff to find out why you’re being barred from seeing Sweetie Pie. Hopefully you’ll be back at your daughter’s side in no time, giving her the love and support she needs. Good luck and best wishes… ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/65 "2005-01-23T23:18:33Z")
**Tris** , my prayers and thoughts are with you. May God give you strength and peace, and help your girl through this difficult time. ---
**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/66 "2005-01-24T00:21:41Z")
My thoughts and prayers are with you, **Tris**. My mother was recently released from the hospital after a serious bout with pneumonia. I hope your Sweetie Pie comes away from this well. ---
**Author:** ![Flamsterette\_X](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/41988e/32.png) [@Flamsterette\_X](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flamsterette_X)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/67 "2005-01-24T00:59:49Z")
Eek! How scary! Thoughts and prayers for you! ---
**Author:** ![Gr8Kat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gr8kat/32/18668_2.png) [@Gr8Kat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gr8Kat)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/68 "2005-01-24T01:40:03Z")
You and Pie are in our thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/69 "2005-01-24T01:54:45Z")
What a terrible time for you! I thought of you and Sweetie Pie all day. ---
**Author:** ![zoogirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b9bd4f/32.png) [@zoogirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoogirl)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/70 "2005-01-24T02:34:42Z")
I just want to add my prayers. I wish I had some profound word of wisdom for you but I just can’t find 'em. Sympathy is the best I can do. If it helps, I had a profoundly handicpped child too and I know a little of what you’re going through. You _will_ get through this. Everone’s right on one thing. Take care of youself. You’re no good to her if you’re in pieces. Tale time to just sit and catch your breath. Then get after that social worker. Can you talk to Pie’s mother at all? She must be pretty torn up as well and probably not thinking too clearly. Might it be that she’s looking for someone to lash out at and you’re the most available? I’ve seen both the pictures and even with the profound handicaps, her personality shines through. That smile just glows. It’s plain that wherever she is in her own little world, she’s happy. ---
**Author:** ![Triskadecamus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b19c9b/32.png) [@Triskadecamus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Triskadecamus)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/71 "2005-01-24T03:53:46Z")
To everyone here who has been supportive, and caring for my daughter and me, I assure you it has been a source of much needed strength. I have not had any news today, at all. Tomorrow I will be contacting Hospital Administrators, my lawyer (ongoing suit for guardianship based on interference with court ordered “liberal, and generous visitation” over the last seven years.) and Rachel’s lawyer (court appointed, re the suit.) The rage I have been experiencing all day has . . . I cannot express what I am feeling. No amount of vituperation will release the hate, and hate is not what I want to feel right now. I only want to see my daughter. I will come back and tell you all what happens tomorrow. Thank you all again. Tris ---
**Author:** ![Hedda\_Rosa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hedda_rosa/32/1204_2.png) [@Hedda\_Rosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hedda_Rosa)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/72 "2005-01-24T03:56:34Z")
Blessings on you and yours. ---
**Author:** ![DeVena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/dec6dc/32.png) [@DeVena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeVena)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/73 "2005-01-24T04:37:26Z")
Add my prayers to the list. ---
**Author:** ![FaerieBeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e95f7d/32.png) [@FaerieBeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FaerieBeth)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/74 "2005-01-24T04:50:58Z")
**Stonebow** and I would like to add our warmest thoughts to all those expressed, here. Hang in there. FB ---
**Author:** ![trupa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/aeb1de/32.png) [@trupa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/trupa)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/75 "2005-01-24T05:12:48Z")
Prayers for healing for your daughter, and courage, hope, faith and peace for you. This bears repeating: by taking care of yourself, you are making sure you can be there for her. Remember to sleep some and eat some. If you have difficulty getting feelings of hostility and anger out of your mind, try praying for peace & grace to change your heart. The Lord can do that for you, just let him in and ask for help. God be with you, your daugher and your family in these harrowing times. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/76 "2005-01-24T05:17:18Z")
My thoughts are with you and your beautiful daughter. I hope you have good news very soon. ---
**Author:** ![thirdwarning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecccb3/32.png) [@thirdwarning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thirdwarning)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/77 "2005-01-24T05:55:23Z")
Still praying. Somehow, somewhere, Pie knows you love her. And wherever you are, and however you are, the Lord loves you both. Try to lay that anger at his feet. He understands it and he’s big enough to carry it for you. His peace and strength are there for you. And we’re here for you, too. God’s peace be with you. ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 9:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/78 "2005-01-24T09:28:22Z")
I’m sorry you all have to go through this. Praying for you both. ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 9:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/79 "2005-01-24T09:37:50Z")
I hope you and Sweetie Pie end up doing OK. And you should get to see her, since she’s your daughter. My thoughts are with the both of you. ---
**Author:** ![yosemite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/3ab097/32.png) [@yosemite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yosemite)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 9:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096/80 "2005-01-24T09:40:04Z")
Still praying for you too, Tris. God is very mindful of you and Sweetie Pie right now. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-pray-for-my-sweetie-pie/286096.md?page=5)