# Please recommend me gay romantic movies? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [October 29, 2010, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801 "2010-10-29T18:35:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/1 "2010-10-29T18:35:08Z")
Not porn. _Not_ porn, I tell you. And I really don’t want to watch any where one person is dying of AIDS and I must cry through the whole movie, or anything like Brokeback Mountain, where the sex scene is practically rape (albeit avoided by the other’s timely compliance), a few minutes long, and the rest of the movie is one angsty heartbreaking scene after another. No, I want to watch some plain old romantic movies, with hot male leads. I understand these are few and far between but there’s got to be some, right? Independent movie makers maybe? Softcore sex is welcomed and even encouraged, but also a good look at the intimacies and romances involved. I watched Shortbus - something like that would be acceptable, except it was still focused on the (straight) female lead. Do I have any chance of finding anything like this? I am flexible. I have a Netflix account. Entertain me! Please? ---
**Author:** ![kath94](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/67e7ee/32.png) [@kath94](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kath94)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/2 "2010-10-29T18:38:58Z")
I’ve seen a few that I thought were cute. Not sure on the titles, but I think “Mambo Italiano” and “The Lonely Hearts Club” ring a bell. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Mapp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miss_mapp/32/369_2.png) [@Miss\_Mapp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Mapp)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/3 "2010-10-29T18:39:17Z")
My personal favorite in this category–and among my favorite movies generally–is “Maurice.” An Edwardian romance by Merchant-Ivory based on a novel by E.M. Forster (as the best Merchant-Ivories often are). It’s got a happy ending, is beautifully filmed, and James Wilby looks like a terrific kisser. ---
**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/4 "2010-10-29T18:44:10Z")
I second The Lonely Hearts Club. It’s a really fantastic movie that’s not _quite_ a romance, but at the same time has several beautifully realized romances in it and isn’t heavy on the angst. I also second Maurice. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/5 "2010-10-29T18:45:18Z")
Both _Mambo Italiano_ and _Lonely Hearts Club_ (gay Dean Cain!) are great! Good call, **kath94**. Also, try _Trick_. You’ll fall in love with it. Incidentally, if you’re Italian-American (or Italian-Canadian), _Mambo Italiano_ will have you on the floor gasping for breath from laughing so hard. We watched it with my mother and neither of us could stop laughing at some parts…too close to life. ---
**Author:** ![alphaboi867](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alphaboi867/32/3898_2.png) [@alphaboi867](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alphaboi867)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/6 "2010-10-29T18:45:45Z")
[Beautiful Thing](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0115640/). It was one of the first gay-themed movies I saw as a teen. ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Amazing](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/6de8d8/32.png) [@Captain\_Amazing](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Amazing)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/7 "2010-10-29T18:46:09Z")
Trick was pretty good, if you like romantic comedies, and so was Jeffery, but that’s got AIDS in it. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/8 "2010-10-29T18:54:32Z")
Ooh…Jeffrey’s good! It DOES have AIDS in it (hell, it’s _about_ AIDS), but it’s not a sobfest. It’s definitely on the Comedy side of “Romantic Comedy”. And it has (gay!) Tim Daly and (gay!) Patrick Stewart! No, they’re not the main couple. That involves (gay!) Michael T. Weiss. ---
**Author:** ![Glory](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7cd45c/32.png) [@Glory](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Glory)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/9 "2010-10-29T18:56:22Z")
woops - my first contribution didn’t have male leads! What about Love, Valor, Compassion? ---
**Author:** ![stpauler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@stpauler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stpauler)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/10 "2010-10-29T18:56:51Z")
[Nina’s Heavenly Delights.](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0435706/) Synopsis: Shelley Conn plays Nina, a young woman who ran away to London to avoid an arranged marriage. She returns to Glasgow three years later (after her father dies unexpectedly of a heart-attack) to find his gambling problem means the family restaurant has to be sold. To save it Nina decides to compete in a TV curry competition. What’s nice is the gay romantic part is just a PART of the movie and the movie doesn’t revolve around it. ---
**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/11 "2010-10-29T18:58:53Z")
There’s [_Edward II,_](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edward_II_(film)) but it **is** a tragedy. As is [_Wilde._](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wilde_(film)) ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/12 "2010-10-29T18:59:53Z")
> [@Glory](#): > > woops - my first contribution didn’t have male leads! What about Love, Valor, Compassion? That movie depressed me. I mean, it has some light parts, but it’s so AIDS-centric and infidelity-centric and the ending is just…:(. I wouldn’t really consider it a romantic comedy. ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/13 "2010-10-29T19:00:30Z")
[QUOTE=jayjay] Also, try _Trick_. You’ll fall in love with it. [/QUOTE] “Did you ever get c\*m in your eye, JayJay? It burrrrrrrrrrrns!” Probably my favorite gay romantic comedy. [LATTER DAYS](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0345551/), about the romance between an openly gay man and a closeted Mormon missionary, isn’t that great as a movie but has some wonderful eye candy and gratuitous nudity. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/14 "2010-10-29T19:02:03Z")
> [@Sampiro](#): > > “Did you ever get c\*m in your eye, JayJay? It burrrrrrrrrrrns!” > > Probably my favorite gay romantic comedy. Love me some Miss Coco Peru! ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/15 "2010-10-29T19:04:32Z")
OMG I love you guys. I expected to hear I was asking for something that was too difficult. I am writing all of these titles down and I’ll throw them on my netflix. Thank you! Oh, and I am not Italian-American but Indian-American families and Italian-American families actually aren’t that different. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/16 "2010-10-29T19:08:35Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Oh, and I am not Italian-American but Indian-American families and Italian-American families actually aren’t that different. 🙂 From stories I’ve heard about Indian families you will probably get at least as much out of it as we did. ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/17 "2010-10-29T19:09:59Z")
_The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert_? One of the leads gets involved with a local by the end. ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/18 "2010-10-29T19:12:48Z")
And of course the entirety of QUEER AS FOLK on DVD. Last time I checked the U.S. version was the only one available, but the Brit (original) version may be by now; the first episodes have the same plots but after that they diverge. LOTS AND LOTS of gratuitous gay sex and lesbian sex scenes. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/19 "2010-10-29T19:24:34Z")
I should add, I am not averse to tragedies. I don’t always need a happy ending. What I demand is a _complete_ ending. By this I mean: [ul] [li]No depressing ending shoehorned in because that’s the way life is or something[/li][li]No constant barrage of upsetting, heartbreaking scenes, full of angst and pathos[/li][li]No grinding the main characters into dust just cause.[/li] [/ul] Good tragedies are some of the best things in the world. But it seems like way too many directors just like angst for the sake of angst. I think there needs to be a reason. if at the end of the movie, all of the plot endings are wrapped up satisfactorily I will be content even if there isn’t a happy ending. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801/20 "2010-10-29T19:25:37Z")
> [@jayjay](#): > > From stories I’ve heard about Indian families you will probably get at least as much out of it as we did. it’s remarkable how some things stay the same across so many cultures. For example, when I watched My Big Fat Greek Wedding, I laughed, but it was also uncomfortable since so much of it was familiar. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-recommend-me-gay-romantic-movies/558801.md?page=2)