# Please stop confusing me...

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-confusing-me/161280>\
**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [March 14, 2003, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-confusing-me/161280 "2003-03-14T06:56:40Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 6\
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**Author:** ![Duke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)\
**Post date:** [March 15, 2003, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-confusing-me/161280/21 "2003-03-15T04:09:27Z")

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> \*Originally posted by flood \*  
> \*\*I think I’ll go dig up that article about becoming a eunuch.:smack: \*\*

Well, I guess since you’ve already read the very informative piece by **Manda JO** , it’s safe for you to read [Cecil’s very informative piece on how to become a eunuch](http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a1_058.html). 😛

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**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\
**Post date:** [March 15, 2003, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-confusing-me/161280/22 "2003-03-15T20:29:52Z")

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> Maybe the general opinion that women like men who are only assholes to them has some truth to it after all. Perhaps that’s what I have to start doing.

Instead of acting like an asshole, maybe you should just stop dating them.

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**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\
**Post date:** [March 15, 2003, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-confusing-me/161280/23 "2003-03-15T20:57:05Z")

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> \*Originally posted by CanvasShoes \*  
> **I don’t know what the answer is, but maybe if you have a similar incident with her, flat out ask her “honey? are you thinking that my tone of voice sounds angry with you, because I’m not, I’m just bored/tired”?**

Jeez, _there’s_ a statement likely to start a row. She’ll just accuse you of patronizing her.

As always, one can always consult [Dave Barry](http://www.humorcentral.com/humor/hcjoke064.html) for suitable words of wisdom.

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**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\
**Post date:** [March 15, 2003, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-confusing-me/161280/24 "2003-03-15T21:03:10Z")

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I started reading this to my wife, because I thought she would find this amusing. Halfway through the second sentence, she says, “Okay, stop right there. Are you reading this to patronize me? Because you’ve got that _tone_…” :smack: 😛

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**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\
**Post date:** [March 15, 2003, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-confusing-me/161280/25 "2003-03-15T22:26:48Z")

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> \*Originally posted by jr8 \*  
> \*\*I started reading this to my wife, because I thought she would find this amusing. Halfway through the second sentence, she says, “Okay, stop right there. Are you reading this to patronize me? Because you’ve got that _tone_…” :smack: 😛 \*\*

\<-------Meekly raises hand…

Guilty.

My bf is VERY matter of fact, and when he gets tired, he sounds mad, at least to me. Even though I try to make myself believe him when he says “no, I’m just tired”.

I still think that he’s just “trying to be nice” and really I’ve done something to piss him off, and he’s just not saying.

I guess for a lot of us, it’s “a girl thing”.

But, I don’t give him grief for it, as the OP’s gf did, if he says “I’m tired,” even if I don’t believe him, I go off and do my own thing and leave him alone, regardless of how it makes me feel.

The OP doesn’t say how old he or his gf are, but maybe she’s/they are just young, and haven’t gotten to the “oh, well” stage yet?

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**Author:** ![flood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@flood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flood)\
**Post date:** [March 16, 2003, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-confusing-me/161280/26 "2003-03-16T03:51:49Z")

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> \*Originally posted by CanvasShoes \*  
> [BThe OP doesn’t say how old he or his gf are, but maybe she’s/they are just young, and haven’t gotten to the “oh, well” stage yet? \*\*

Her and I are both 17 years old. I’m at the oh well stage, and I think that that’s the problem. Oh well…

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