# Please stop hurting me. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 14, 2000, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-hurting-me/19483 "2000-05-14T04:44:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![concrete](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bbce88/32.png) [@concrete](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/concrete)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2000, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-hurting-me/19483/21 "2000-05-14T16:14:17Z")
it’s got to be…I keep chuckling everytime I see the title of the post…lol…damn I did it again. Iswote chill out bro…have a cold one with us. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2000, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-hurting-me/19483/22 "2000-05-14T16:39:37Z")
:::Insert violin music here::: ---
**Author:** ![casdave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c6cbf5/32.png) [@casdave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/casdave)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2000, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-hurting-me/19483/23 "2000-05-14T16:56:43Z")
\*\*Diane[/] Scroll back up the thread Beat ya to it ha! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![coosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@coosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/coosa)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2000, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-hurting-me/19483/24 "2000-05-15T00:19:50Z")
Lswote, I’d like to ask you a question. You don’t have to answer me, but I’d like for you to think about the answer. Why is it ‘bad’ that people said things that hurt your feelings, but it is ‘okay’ that you said things that hurt other people’s feelings? I really wish you would think about this. You are so upset about your own hurt feelings that you have started two threads in MPSIMS about it, but you seem totally unconcerned that your remark about ‘hags’ hurt several posters feelings. And when those posters started a thread to make themselves feel better, you started a thread to complain about that! Other people have feelings too, you know. Just because they don’t whine doesn’t mean their feelings weren’t hurt - it just means they deal with it differently. _Your_ feelings were hurt because someone questioned your honesty - do you have any idea how it must have hurt those posters who tried to sincerely offer you helpful advice when you scorned them and called them hags? Sympathy is not one-way, with you the only recipient and everyone else SOL. Perhaps this is the key to your self-confessed failure with women - you are only concerned with your own feelings and don’t care about anyone else’s. It doesn’t work that way. Everyone is looking for the same thing you are - consideration of their feelings from others. Try considering how other people feel when you are interacting with them instead of thinking only of _your_ feelings. You will see a major improvement in your social life. ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2000, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-hurting-me/19483/25 "2000-05-15T03:39:47Z")
Okay, I hate to keep this alive, but I want to respond to zyada. zyada said: > [@](#): > > Irishman - I wasn’t aware that cites were required when quoting from other threads on the board, since anyone can go to the other thread and verify what was stated & the context. The thread in the pit has apparently been deleted; however, I recommend anyone reading this thread to go here first: I learned an expensive lesson yesterday where you can see Shayna being friendly and supportive, and lswote insulting her. No, citing quotes is not _required_, and I didn’t mean to insinuate that it was. I was pointing out that lswote was responding to comments that were about him specifically, whether they were explicitly stated to be about him. Thus anyone who was up to speed already knew that, but many of us didn’t know who the person was, so lswote’s comment in that thread came out of the blue - a bit shocking to see. And I saw that thread after posting here. ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2000, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-hurting-me/19483/26 "2000-05-15T20:35:27Z")
{koff} {koff} {crybaby} {koff} {koff} 'Scuze me. Had a tickle. Esprix [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-hurting-me/19483.md?page=1)