…what? The woman just wants to make sure (I’m guessing) that the house is clean and a safe environment for the dog. You see this as not “knowing her place”?! No no, you’re right, every person ever that wants to look at your home is either a social misfit who doesn’t know the rules that no one can ever see another person’s house, or they want to rob you blind.
Seriously, WTF is wrong with letting someone in your house for a few minutes while you are there with them the entire time? Presumably, you’ve met this woman already, so when does she stop being “a stranger”? (what are we, all five years old and can’t talk to strangers or let them in the house?)
IMO, you’re being unreasonably paranoid. What do you think will happen? She’ll bean you over the head with a crowbar the second she gets in the house and steal your good china?
This lady isn’t a cable guy or a repairman that Khadaji got out of the yellow pages. This is a private citizen that Khadaji later mentioned was from Craigslist. It seems an appropriate amount of caution to meet this gal in a neutral location.
I can’t imagine having to give up my dog. If Khadaji’s situation was reversed, I’d probably advocate visiting the lady’s house before surrendering my beloved pet to her care.
There’s plenty of room on both sides of the issue but I’m glad Khadaji played it safe.
I wouldn’t let her in my house either. Craigslist? Nope. A safe place for the dog is good, but I don’t need someone with a story off Craigslist casing my place.
I hope you find a dog. I hope she finds a home for her dog. I think you’ll have an easier time than she will.
I certainly understand your point of view. I hate letting people into my home too. But I can say that as responsible breeders neither of my parents ever placed a dog without a home visit first. Of course, the new owners would have been to our homes first, and seen the kennels and the dogs, and possibly even the licenses and certifications belonging to the businesses.
But yeah, anonymous CraigsList folks in the house? NO!
Asking to see your home is an entirely reasonable request. The level of privacy you’re insisting on for a scenario where she is entrusting her beloved dog to your care is (to be frank) irrationally paranoid on your part.
If I may make a suggestion, since you’re looking for a dog, I would encourage you to look for animal rescue organizations in your area. There are often rescue associations for specific breeds of dogs, even.
You can go to them, check out the dogs, find one that you get along with, and also meet the people who run the rescue. They will almost certainly ask for a home visit, and at least this way you have a chance to meet them and size them up before they come to your house.
I would hope that you wouldn’t resort to buying a dog simply because many sellers won’t ask to visit your home. Comparing giving hundreds and hundreds of dollars to someone who raises dogs in god-knows-what kind of conditions, vs. those saved from being abandoned or whatever, I think the choice is a no-brainer for pulling on one’s heartstrings.
Right, you are guessing. At this moment the OP does not know that this is a woman nor that s/he owns a dog. When the OP suggests meeting a complete stranger off Craigslist in a public place, s/he responds with a demand to come to inspect his home in order to determine if it is a good enough place for the alleged dog. Sure, I think lots of normal people who are trying to get rid of inconvenient pets want to see your place before ever so much as showing you the dog. Happens a lot, I’m sure.
Even assuming this is on the up and up (which I have no reason to believe), the OP does not even know whether or not this will be a dog he is interested in. A sight unseen home study – conducted by a person who can’t be bothered to care for a dog – does indeed strike me as well over the top given that the OP can certainly get a mutt which somebody decided was too much trouble to care for almost anywhere with considerably less trouble.
I didn’t read it that way. I read it as “after we meet, I need to see your home before you can have the dog.” Like an FYI. Who knows how she meant it though – perhaps the OP should seek more information.
So, in your view, a person who can no longer afford to responsibly keep a dog (vet, vaccinations, heartworm, decent feed, etc) should do what exactly?
Your insistence that this person is somehow morally at fault in seeking a new home for the dog, I find peculiar. If anything, she is being a lot more responsible than the average bear.
This is not wisdom. This is “Won’t somebody think of the doooggeeeeee?” Because after all anybody who claims to have a dog they want to get rid of must be a good and moral person.
Seriously, you can get a mutt somebody doesn’t want with considerably less trouble.