# Poll: Asking about ladies underwear **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 13, 2009, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311 "2009-05-13T17:07:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Litoris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9f8e36/32.png) [@Litoris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Litoris)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/21 "2009-05-13T21:20:12Z")
You do realise that he should totally take her one of [these](http://www.laptopbride.com/2009/02/05/hanky-panky-thong-panty-bouquet-very-unique/)if she doesn’t cancel this date, right? ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/22 "2009-05-13T21:21:34Z")
Welp, she gave him the old heave-ho. She told him “sure I’m an open person, but your question was creepy” and said not to text her again. Poor guy is crushed. I mean, obviously it’s good to know she’s a f’n flake before he makes time to go out on a date with her, but going from “I have sexual thoughts about you” to “you’re creepy” is actually quite mean. Ah well. He’ll never ask another girl about her underwear again, that’s for sure. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/23 "2009-05-13T21:23:20Z")
Either she’s had a terrible and unfortunate pantie incident in her past, or she’s found someone else and this is a convenient out, or she’s a bit of a nutter. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/24 "2009-05-13T23:25:19Z")
> [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > Either she’s had a terrible and unfortunate pantie incident in her past, or she’s found someone else and this is a convenient out, or she’s a bit of a nutter. Ya think? She can talk about blowjobs w/o batting an eyelash, but undies are too personal? Christ, I’m glad I’m old. Dating mores today make no sense to me. He’s better off w/o her. Take him out for a beer and commiserate about the fickle cold hearts of women. Where’s a wet trout when you need one? She sounds like a complete tool. ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/25 "2009-05-14T02:43:20Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > He’ll never ask another girl about her underwear again, that’s for sure. While as **I** on the other hand…! Actually, it’s interesting how quickly conversation can devolve into conversation on a woman’s underwear depending on her flirt-level. But of course flirting and dating can also be mutually exclusive, and perhaps that’s what happened here. Once things get serious, the conversation is supposed to get serious? ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/26 "2009-05-14T03:22:48Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > Welp, she gave him the old heave-ho. > > She told him “sure I’m an open person, but your question was creepy” And yet, she did answer it, before complaining about it. :rolleyes: I can only guess that she has Underwear Issues. Like maybe some creepy guy in her past had inappropriate underwear discussions with her, and somehow your friend’s (relatively innocent) question got him put into their category in her mind. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/27 "2009-05-14T03:25:01Z")
> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > I can only guess that she has Underwear Issues. Like maybe some creepy guy in her past had inappropriate underwear discussions with her, and somehow your friend’s (relatively innocent) question got him put into their category in her mind. Yeah, I told him this was probably the issue yesterday. No one can get that worked up about such a thing unless it’s a monster from their past. He’s still taking it pretty hard. Artists - sheesh! ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/28 "2009-05-14T03:50:43Z")
She’s nuts, he should run in the opposite direction. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/29 "2009-05-14T04:11:21Z")
It was a gross and stupid question. Nothing “gentlemanly” about it. Your friend sounds like a creep. How old is he, 12? You’re also only getting a second hand account of what she supposedly had said to him before that. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/30 "2009-05-14T09:32:59Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > It was a gross and stupid question. Nothing “gentlemanly” about it. Your friend sounds like a creep. How old is he, 12? You’re also only getting a second hand account of what she supposedly had said to him before that. Only got his word for it about the underwear question too. Are you getting therapy for these issues you have? :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/31 "2009-05-14T13:13:42Z")
I wouldn’t let her have the last word on this. If I were him I’d have to send one final text pointing out how she had no problem discussing BJ’s, porn and pubic hair, but shutting him out for merely mentioning underwear reflects a real disconnect, and maybe she should have her head examined. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/32 "2009-05-14T13:44:38Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > It was a gross and stupid question. Nothing “gentlemanly” about it. Your friend sounds like a creep. How old is he, 12? You’re also only getting a second hand account of what she supposedly had said to him before that. How do you type with boxing gloves on? ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/33 "2009-05-14T14:42:34Z")
Yeah, I’m the crazy one. It’s perfectly normal to ask strange women what kind of underwear they have on. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/34 "2009-05-14T14:46:28Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > I wouldn’t let her have the last word on this. If I were him I’d have to send one final text pointing out how she had no problem discussing BJ’s, porn and pubic hair, but shutting him out for merely mentioning underwear reflects a real disconnect, and maybe she should have her head examined. There are ways to discuss BJ’s and porn without making it personal or flirty. We don’t have any context for how those subjects came up. And he didn’t just mention underwear, he asked about HER underwear, which is creepy and inappropriate without any kind of previously established foundation for that kind of intimacy. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/35 "2009-05-14T14:57:59Z")
> [@Death\_of\_Rats](#): > > Porn Pubic hair and BJ’s are fine topics of conversation, but underwear type makes him a perv?!?! > [@Litoris](#): > > It’s ok to talk about her pubic hair but not her underwear? What they said. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/36 "2009-05-14T15:14:04Z")
> [@](#): > > “so, what kind of underwear do you sport?” Is this _really_ how he phrased it? Sounds… sort of off. If it really did go down like this, yeah, she got cold feet and didn’t want things to progress any further (think of the _Seinfeld_ episode where Jerry goes awry with dirty talk), or she was looking for a reason to flake anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/37 "2009-05-14T15:29:49Z")
> [@](#): > > It’s ok to talk about her pubic hair but not her underwear? The OP didn’t say they talked about HER pubic hair. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/38 "2009-05-14T15:31:50Z")
I think one kind of takes that as read. You’re being silly. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/39 "2009-05-14T15:44:02Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > I think one kind of takes that as read. You’re being silly. I don’t think that’s a given whatsoever. Why _should_ it be taken that way? There are any number of ways “we talked about pubic hair” can mean somthing other than “she told me about her vag.” For instance, we are talking about pubic hair in this thread, and no one is talking about their own. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311/40 "2009-05-14T15:54:59Z")
So, you think they talked about how her friend likes to give blowjobs and keeps herself shaven? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-asking-about-ladies-underwear/496311.md?page=3)