# Poll: Do you find same-sex kissing offensive, blah, or erotic? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 3, 2009, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166 "2009-11-03T15:44:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/1 "2009-11-03T15:44:03Z")
Lotta options here, as I have differentiated between _girl-girl_ and _boy-boy_ and have options for straights, gays, and bisexuals of either gender. For obvious reasons, multiple choices are permitted, but please don’t put in mutually exclusive votes. This poll closes in one week; the results are public. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/2 "2009-11-03T15:51:54Z")
Sorry about that–I thought I had time to edit but did not. I have only included options for men and women and did not break them down by sexual orientation, as that got too damn unwieldy. Also, I wanted to specify that I am looking for Dopers’ reactions to cinematic or televised depictions of such kissing. If a passing mod could adjust the thread title for me, that would be great. I also intended to make the poll public. ---
**Author:** ![Giles](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giles/32/60_2.png) [@Giles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giles)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/3 "2009-11-03T16:10:18Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I have only included options for men and women and did not break them down by sexual orientation, as that got too damn unwieldy. There’s likely to be strong correlation between sexual orientation and whether you like same-sex kissing of the same gender as you erotic or not, but adding that with 3 options for straight/bi/gay would give you 18 choices on the poll. I think the way to do it would be to have a public multiple choice poll: (1) male (2) female (3) straight (4) bi (5) gay (6) erotic (7) blah (8) offensive and do the correlation later, as you could with a public poll. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/4 "2009-11-03T16:11:08Z")
Female here (straight, ftr). Girl-on-girl kissing, unless _one_ of the girls would happen to be Jodie Foster or Ellen DeGeneres, meh. Guy-on-guy, though, especially if at least one of the guys is hot. . .oh, yeah! 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/5 "2009-11-03T16:17:02Z")
> [@Giles](#): > > There’s likely to be strong correlation between sexual orientation and whether you like same-sex kissing of the same gender as you erotic or not, but adding that with 3 options for straight/bi/gay would give you 18 choices on the poll. > > I think the way to do it would be to have a public multiple choice poll: > (1) male > (2) female > > (3) straight > (4) bi > (5) gay > > (6) erotic > (7) blah > (8) offensive > and do the correlation later, as you could with a public poll. NOW you tell me. 😃 The only problem with that is that you still need to differentiate boy-boy kissing from girl-girl. I know plenty of guys who loved the sight of Madonna & Britney making out at the VMAs but would have been repulsed had it been Justin and…um…okay, I don’t actually know the names of a lot of pop singers. Somebody finish the sentence. In fact, I have a lesbian friend who doesn’t like to watch girls kiss, for whatever reason. ---
**Author:** ![Giles](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giles/32/60_2.png) [@Giles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giles)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/6 "2009-11-03T16:22:12Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > NOW you tell me. 😃 > > The only problem with that is that you still need to differentiate boy-boy kissing from girl-girl. Sorry, yes, you need three more questions to separate those. (And I didn’t tell you before because you didn’t ask 😛 ) ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/7 "2009-11-03T16:24:42Z")
> [@Giles](#): > > Sorry, yes, you need three more questions to separate those. > > (And I didn’t tell you before because you didn’t ask 😛 ) The usual feckless threats. ---
**Author:** ![G0sp3l](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c68b51/32.png) [@G0sp3l](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/G0sp3l)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/8 "2009-11-03T16:26:17Z")
I don’t want to see two guys doing anything romantic on-screen. Nor non-hot chicks. Nor non-hot guy/chick for that matter. TBH I’m getting jaded to the hot girls making out as well. Standard Disclaimer: Straight male, could care less what anyone does privately. Does not engage in PDA. ---
**Author:** ![palindromemordnilap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/db5fbb/32.png) [@palindromemordnilap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/palindromemordnilap)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/9 "2009-11-03T16:44:17Z")
I answer “blah” for both f-f and m-m kissing but the truth is more subtle. (FTR, hetero male). I find m-m kissing kind of yucky but not morally offensive; moreover I have kind of gotten used to seeing it. (The first on-screen gay kiss I recall seeing was Christopher Reeve-Michael Caine in _Deathtrap_ and it nearly ruined the movie for me, partly because i wasn’t expecting it, but also because I was young and ‘gay’ was still shocking. The most recent m-m kiss I’ve seen was the _Mad Men_ season opener, which I’m just now watching–didn’t bother me a bit. F-f kissing can be erotic but most of the time it’s somewhere between blah and mildly interesting. in general it’s more exciting when the women do not self-identify as bi or lesbian. So a couple of college girls on a dare at a party is going to be hotter than Ellen Degeneres and her better half. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/10 "2009-11-03T16:50:26Z")
Female/female: blah to erotic, depending. Male/male: blah. I’m male. ---
**Author:** ![Kyla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/eada6e/32.png) [@Kyla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kyla)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/11 "2009-11-03T17:31:53Z")
It kind of depends on who it is, but in general, I like kissing. f/m, f/f, m/m. I’m a straight woman. ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/12 "2009-11-03T17:53:38Z")
Does “blah” mean the same thing as the “meh” of indifference? ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/13 "2009-11-03T17:58:12Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > Female/female: blah to erotic, depending. Male/male: blah. > > I’m male. Ditto, though I tend more to the erotic side of the former, and would simply rather not see the latter. Marked the wrong option on the poll, though. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/14 "2009-11-03T18:10:54Z")
> [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](#): > > Does “blah” mean the same thing as the “meh” of indifference? Yeppers. Contrariwise, repulsivive can mean either “morally offensive” or “aesthetically displeasing.” Or, if we’re talking about Ann Coulter kissing Michelle Bachman, both. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/15 "2009-11-03T18:55:40Z")
I voted for “blah” f/f and “erotic” m/m (I’m a straight female). I don’t know that I find m/m kissing “EROTIC!” in all circumstances, but it does pique my interest more than two chicks. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/16 "2009-11-03T19:08:10Z")
> [@palindromemordnilap](#): > > F-f kissing can be erotic but most of the time it’s somewhere between blah and mildly interesting. in general it’s more exciting when the women do not self-identify as bi or lesbian. So a couple of college girls on a dare at a party is going to be hotter than Ellen Degeneres and her better half. Well, that’s just the ‘blah’ of domesticity, isn’t it? Young hot single man and woman kissing are a lot hotter than a married couple. ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/17 "2009-11-03T19:09:05Z")
There’s no good options for my answer… I don’t find same-sex kissing erotic, unless it’s in an otherwise erotic scene, but I do love to see two guys or two gals making the smoochies in something I’m reading/watching. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/18 "2009-11-03T20:46:35Z")
Girl-girl kissing looks erotic to me. Boy-boy is offensive ( in the yucky sense, not the moral sense; I just don’t look at it ). It’s just the kissing; I’ve seen gay porn, and a close up of a man having anal sex with another man doesn’t bother me; but kissing another man? Yuck. Or for that matter kissing a woman or a dog; there’s just something about a man kissing that gets on my nerves. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/19 "2009-11-03T20:49:36Z")
Well, this is weird. I’m a straight female. I find male-male kissing blah, and female-female kissing erotic. Hmm. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166/20 "2009-11-03T22:26:38Z")
Straight woman. Woman/woman does nothin’ for me, but it doesn’t bother me. Man/man is hot, assuming the guys in question are hot. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-find-same-sex-kissing-offensive-blah-or-erotic/516166.md?page=2)