I’m not sure that I do it that often, but I’m comparing it to how often my husband and his (Italian) family do it, and it’s all the time for them. He made a funny video just panning around the room at a wedding recently and everyone is gesticulating wildly throughout their inaudible conversations.
The only time this truly annoys me is when my husband is giving me a backrub and he starts getting into the conversation so much he stops rubbing my back so he can gesticulate. It’s a challenge finding the right subject matter that is not too boring for us to talk about but not so exciting he stops rubbing my back.
I didn’t move to NJ (home of many Italian-Americans) until my 20s, and I was already using my hands for gesturing while talking. My mother has asked me to put down a knife while talking at the dinner table.
Living in Switzerland hasn’t helped. I gesture when speaking in English and German.
My husband says he knows when I’m thinking by my hand gestures and moving lips.
By percentage, we’re the most Italian-American State. And by a small margin Italian-Americans are the most represented group in NJ. Then German and Irish. Unless you lump all Hispanics together, than they’re #1. We’re also have the second highest percentage of Jewish people after NY.