# Poll: Do you regret getting a divorce?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [January 10, 2006, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360 "2006-01-10T19:44:37Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 13\
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**Author:** ![MadPansy64](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/dc4da7/32.png) [@MadPansy64](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MadPansy64)\
**Post date:** [January 11, 2006, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/21 "2006-01-11T05:30:21Z")

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Smartest thing I have ever done, and should have done it at least 5 years sooner. 8 years total, and I tried to “stick it out” because of his three kids and two grandkids. I don’t have biological children.

Just for the record – his kids and grandkids are still very much in my life, but not his, by their choice. The situation makes (current) Mr MP’s and my extended family twitch, but since he and all 8 kids and 5 (so far) grandkids are happy with our unusual blended family . . .

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**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\
**Post date:** [January 11, 2006, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/22 "2006-01-11T05:33:20Z")

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Let-me-think-about-it-NO!  
My thanks to the OP for the best chuckle I’ve had all day.

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**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\
**Post date:** [January 11, 2006, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/23 "2006-01-11T05:49:11Z")

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4 years marriage, 3.5 living together before.  
No kids (just pets…that’s bad enough).

No regrets. I knew it was a bad idea from the beginning, but was tired of spending holidays alone. :rolleyes:

Stranger

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**Author:** ![TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tellmei_mnotcrazy/32/3419_2.png) [@TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TellMeI_mNotCrazy)\
**Post date:** [January 11, 2006, 7:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/24 "2006-01-11T07:58:09Z")

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No regrets whatsoever.

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**Author:** ![TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tellmei_mnotcrazy/32/3419_2.png) [@TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TellMeI_mNotCrazy)\
**Post date:** [January 11, 2006, 7:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/25 "2006-01-11T07:59:13Z")

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Forgot: Married 7 years, 3 children.

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**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\
**Post date:** [January 11, 2006, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/26 "2006-01-11T12:53:45Z")

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I didn’t make the decision, he did, I beleived marriage should be stuck out. He didn’t give me a lot of choice (moved in with his girlfriend). Note to myself, send Bimbo flowers to thank her. No regrets.

Together five years, married and lived together 18 months, took another year to finish the divorce. No children.

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**Author:** ![racer72](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/racer72/32/3075_2.png) [@racer72](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racer72)\
**Post date:** [January 11, 2006, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/27 "2006-01-11T12:55:50Z")

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Absolutely no regrets, 4 years, 1 child. The sad part for me is I still have to interact with her, she is living with her older sister who happens to be married to my older brother.

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**Author:** ![mrklutz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ebca7d/32.png) [@mrklutz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mrklutz)\
**Post date:** [January 11, 2006, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/28 "2006-01-11T18:43:16Z")

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I _really_ didn’t want to get divorced at the time. Despite everything, I didn’t want to let go. Looking back, I can definitely say it was for the best.

Just shy of 6 years  
No kids  
No regrets

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**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\
**Post date:** [January 11, 2006, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/29 "2006-01-11T19:01:28Z")

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I’ve never been divorced.

However, my parents (finally) got divorced and it was the best possible thing they could have done for their three children. They stayed together “for the kid’s sake” and it was horrible. They were officially married for 22 years, three kids aged 16 to 20.

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**Author:** ![Whack-a-Mole](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/whack-a-mole/32/141_2.png) [@Whack-a-Mole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whack-a-Mole)\
**Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/30 "2006-01-12T01:16:54Z")

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5 years married (and near 5 years dating including 1 year engagement). No kids (we both wanted them but at first wanted to just enjoy being married without them and later knew better than to bring kids into what was clearly becoming a not so great relationship).

I am bummed it did not work out. We both tried (and I mean really tried many, many things from books to all sorts of counseling to drug therapy for depression]). Just wasn’t happening.

I do not regret getting divorced at all. Sad it failed though. No need for anti-depressants once divorced if that tells you anything.

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**Author:** ![Salad\_Fingers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a87d85/32.png) [@Salad\_Fingers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Salad_Fingers)\
**Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/31 "2006-01-12T05:00:00Z")

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I’m not divorced, but my parents are. My mother (who instigated the divorce) has several times expressed regret over leaving my father.

I think, though, she might be missing the financial security and the (what’s the word I want? logistical?) support she had when they were married – my father took care of _everything_, and my mom is definitely someone who prefers to leave the decision-making to someone else. Their marriage wasn’t very happy, but she was safe, at least.

Strangely, my father was devastated when my mother left him – he was severely depressed for nearly a year. Now he’s doing wonderfully…he’s a much happier person.

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**Author:** ![Salad\_Fingers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a87d85/32.png) [@Salad\_Fingers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Salad_Fingers)\
**Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 5:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/32 "2006-01-12T05:02:00Z")

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> [@Salad Fingers](#):
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> Strangely, my father was devastated when my mother left him – he was severely depressed for nearly a year. Now he’s doing wonderfully…he’s a much happier person.

Err, I meant that it’s strange that my father’s the happy one after the divorce, when he certainly didn’t want it when it happened.

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**Author:** ![Lao\_Tsu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e79b87/32.png) [@Lao\_Tsu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lao_Tsu)\
**Post date:** [January 12, 2006, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-do-you-regret-getting-a-divorce/339360/33 "2006-01-12T22:08:59Z")

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Nope, nope, nope. I’ve even thanked her for it a couple of times. 🙂

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