# Poll for engaged, married or formerly married dopers: **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 24, 2005, 7:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193 "2005-09-24T07:57:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Garfield226](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Garfield226](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Garfield226)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 7:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/1 "2005-09-24T07:57:30Z")
A) How long did you date before getting engaged? B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? ---
**Author:** ![C3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/c3/32/3108_2.png) [@C3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/C3)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 8:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/2 "2005-09-24T08:07:00Z")
A) Two years and about 4 months B) 27 (and my husband was 31) ---
**Author:** ![Coil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bb73d2/32.png) [@Coil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coil)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 8:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/3 "2005-09-24T08:14:09Z")
A) 5 years B) 27 for me and my wife was 32 ---
**Author:** ![Millit\_the\_Frail](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/51bf81/32.png) [@Millit\_the\_Frail](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Millit_the_Frail)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 8:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/4 "2005-09-24T08:14:40Z")
I got engaged after dating my (now) husband for 4 years, 3 months. We were married 14 months later, right after I turned 24. He had just turned 27. (That was about six weeks ago.) ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 8:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/5 "2005-09-24T08:20:35Z")
A) Two and a half months of dating, then we got married (however, we were good friends for two years prior to dating) B) I was 25, he was 23. We will celebrate our two year anniversary in February. ---
**Author:** ![Seven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Seven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seven)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 8:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/6 "2005-09-24T08:41:07Z")
First wife. a) We were high school sweethearts, broke up, got back together about 4-5 years later. Dated for about a year before we got married. b) We were both around 21-22 when we got married. It lasted 10 months. Second and current wife. a) Dated about 7-8 years. b) Married around the age of 30-31. Will be happily married for 9 years on Sept 28th. In both cases there was no long engagement. Once the word “married” came into the picture we tied the knot within a few months. ---
**Author:** ![nonacetone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nonacetone/32/2819_2.png) [@nonacetone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nonacetone)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 8:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/7 "2005-09-24T08:46:09Z")
a) We knew each other for almost 3 months before the wedding. b) I was 22 and hubby was 24. We’ll celebrate our 21st anniversary on Dec. 30th! ---
**Author:** ![metj](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/6a8cbe/32.png) [@metj](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/metj)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 8:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/8 "2005-09-24T08:49:31Z")
A) Eight months B) I was 22, he was 29 ---
**Author:** ![Large\_Marge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/50afbb/32.png) [@Large\_Marge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Large_Marge)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/9 "2005-09-24T09:32:13Z")
a. 2 years b. 18 ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 9:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/10 "2005-09-24T09:39:18Z")
> [@Garfield226](#): > > A) How long did you date before getting engaged? > B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? a) One year (well… 14 months) b) 25 (both of us) ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 9:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/11 "2005-09-24T09:48:42Z")
a) We didn’t have a whole lot of time to be engaged - we eloped 4 weeks after our first date. In December it’ll be 22 years. b) I was 29, he was 27. ---
**Author:** ![NE\_Texan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/e99b99/32.png) [@NE\_Texan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NE_Texan)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 11:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/12 "2005-09-24T11:19:29Z")
A) Five Months. B) Me 22, her 21. We celebrated our 16th anniversary earlier this year. ---
**Author:** ![Theologue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c0e974/32.png) [@Theologue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Theologue)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 11:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/13 "2005-09-24T11:28:38Z")
A) Arranged marriage, no dating before engagement. B) Both 25. (Married over 7 years now, couldn’t be happier.) ---
**Author:** ![fishbicycle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aeb1de/32.png) [@fishbicycle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishbicycle)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 11:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/14 "2005-09-24T11:44:02Z")
a) Special circumstances: separated by 1200 miles. Became friends by mail, fell in love over a period of 6 months by written word and phone. Became engaged at 7 months upon first meeting. So no “dating”, although there was a “courtship” period. Engagement lasted two years. b) 39. ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/15 "2005-09-24T11:50:38Z")
A) How long did you date before getting engaged? about 5 months, and married a month later B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)?34 ---
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/16 "2005-09-24T12:33:42Z")
A) He proposed on the third date (which was also the third day we knew each other) but I didn’t accept until 9 months later. B) 22 ---
**Author:** ![Winkie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/41988e/32.png) [@Winkie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Winkie)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/17 "2005-09-24T12:40:12Z")
1. Dating for just shy of 2 years before the question was popped. 2. I was 24 and he was 27 when we got married. ---
**Author:** ![carlotta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@carlotta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carlotta)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/18 "2005-09-24T12:47:48Z")
1 year of dating, then 4 years of living together, then 1 year of engagement (while still living together) both almost 25 when married. Married 11 years. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/19 "2005-09-24T12:48:41Z")
Dated for 2 1/2 years, throughout our last 2 years of college, before we got engaged. Married at 23 (me) and 24 (him). Celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary last April. (Oh, and though it wasn’t asked, let me offer a bit of unsolicited advice: If, when you get married, the trend is mile high hair and huge shoulder pads, resist the urge to be trendy. Your children will make fun of you.) ---
**Author:** ![NajaNivea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/22d042/32.png) [@NajaNivea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NajaNivea)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/20 "2005-09-24T12:53:29Z")
> [@Garfield226](#): > > A) How long did you date before getting engaged? > B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? We were long-distance for a couple years, because we met over the internet. Two or three years of online/long distance dating, immediately followed by a year of living together, a yearish of engagement, and three months (as of today) of marriage. We’re 24. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193.md?page=2)