# Poll for engaged, married or formerly married dopers: **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 24, 2005, 7:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193 "2005-09-24T07:57:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Laughing\_Lagomorph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Laughing\_Lagomorph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Laughing_Lagomorph)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/21 "2005-09-24T12:55:23Z")
> [@Garfield226](#): > > A) How long did you date before getting engaged? > B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? Not really sure of the exact numbers but I think we dated about 18 months before getting engaged (we moved in together during that time) then were engaged for about a year until we got married. I was 29 when we got married. ---
**Author:** ![foxymoron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d26b3c/32.png) [@foxymoron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/foxymoron)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/22 "2005-09-24T13:00:42Z")
A) 7 1/2 weeks from when we met to when we got married. B) I was 21, he was 23. November 12th will be our 11th wedding anniversary, and we’re still glad we did it. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/23 "2005-09-24T14:21:57Z")
Met at 21 and 24. Living together within a week, though I kept paying my half of the rent on my place until the lease expired. Lived together for a couple years before we got around to getting married: no engagement, no ceremony–just “Hey, we need to get married because I’m to old to be ocvered by my parent’s insurance.” “Ok, but I want stainless steel wedding rings” A week passes “Ok, I found some. Let’s go to the courthouse Friday” “Ok”. Married five years. Idyllically happy. ---
**Author:** ![Elza\_B](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Elza\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elza_B)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/24 "2005-09-24T14:28:22Z")
a) We were together for ten months (all in a long-distance relationship), married a year later, we’ve been married for a little over a year now. b) I was 29, he was 27. E. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/25 "2005-09-24T14:30:52Z")
A. Dated before getting engaged… - Short answer: About 7 years. - Long answer: Started dating in college, moved away from him to go to grad school for two years (long-distance relationship), moved back and lived together for a couple years and in no particular hurry to get married. Finally said what the hell and got engaged, married a year later. B. Age at marriage: 27 for both of us. ---
**Author:** ![tnetennba](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7993a0/32.png) [@tnetennba](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tnetennba)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/26 "2005-09-24T14:38:06Z")
(a) Dated for about 18 moths before we got engaged, and it will be about another 9 months before we tied the knot. She moved in after 14 months or so. (b) When we get married, I’ll be 37 and she’ll be 35. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/27 "2005-09-24T14:44:07Z")
> [@Garfield226](#): > > A) How long did you date before getting engaged? > B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? A) 1 year and 9 months B) Hopefully, I’ll be 23. ---
**Author:** ![MsMitey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@MsMitey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsMitey)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/28 "2005-09-24T14:54:55Z")
Similar to **Manda Jo** , A) Friends for a year, non-exclusive (and sometimes long distance) dating for 1.5 years, living in sin for a year, and engaged for a day (Crap hon, I need health insurance. Now!). Now we’ve been married for a whole month, and it’s great. B) I was 25, he was 24. ---
**Author:** ![FilmGeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@FilmGeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FilmGeek)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/29 "2005-09-24T15:12:34Z")
Met when I was 23, he was 27. I moved in a week later. Will have been living together four and a half years, engaged a year and a half before we get married in May 2006. He’ll be 31, I’ll be 27. ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/30 "2005-09-24T15:40:21Z")
We didn’t really date, as I was in Canada and he was in the US. We met in person mid-November 2001 and were engaged mid-February 2002. We married July 2002. I was 31, he was 35. ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/31 "2005-09-24T15:43:56Z")
1. 11 years 2. I was 28, he was 31 ---
**Author:** ![StuffLikeThatThere](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bc8723/32.png) [@StuffLikeThatThere](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StuffLikeThatThere)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/32 "2005-09-24T15:44:36Z")
1. He stated his desire to marry me after about three weeks, but I made him wait 5 months until I was ready to accept. Haven’t been sorry for a second so far (it’s been 3 years). 2. I was 27, he was 41. ---
**Author:** ![Rufus\_Xavier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eada6e/32.png) [@Rufus\_Xavier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rufus_Xavier)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/33 "2005-09-24T15:50:51Z")
A) We got engaged 2 years and four months after we started dating. B) We got married 1 year and 7 months after we got engaged. I was 24, she was 23. ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/34 "2005-09-24T16:02:41Z")
A) We dated for about 2 years before getting engaged A.2) We were then engaged and living together for three years before we got married. B) I was 30, she was 31 ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/35 "2005-09-24T16:10:21Z")
A) 7 years B) 25 ---
**Author:** ![TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tellmei_mnotcrazy/32/3419_2.png) [@TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TellMeI_mNotCrazy)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/36 "2005-09-24T16:10:54Z")
A) 4 years (most of which was spent living together) B) I was 19 when we married, he was 25. * * * A)1 year B) I was 27, he was 28. ---
**Author:** ![Lissla\_Lissar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lissla\_Lissar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissla_Lissar)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/37 "2005-09-24T16:12:12Z")
Dated for a year and a half before engagement. Got married two years later. I was 24 and he was 22 (almost 23), and we’re coming up on our third year anniversary in a couple of months. ---
**Author:** ![soulmurk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b782af/32.png) [@soulmurk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/soulmurk)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/38 "2005-09-24T16:23:06Z")
> [@Garfield226](#): > > A) How long did you date before getting engaged? > B) How old were you when you were married? A) About a year and a half, 6 months or so being long distance. B) 23 C) The divorce was final 3 months before our 3rd anniversary. ---
**Author:** ![LVgeogeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b19c9b/32.png) [@LVgeogeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LVgeogeek)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/39 "2005-09-24T16:58:46Z")
**A)** We were together for 5 1/2 years. Lived together for 1 1/2 years of that and we were engaged about 7 months prior to the actual wedding. So 5 1/2 years is the grand total. **B)** We were both 27. My second anniversary is in 17 days!!! ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2005, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/40 "2005-09-24T17:17:04Z")
We dated for about two years before I found out I was pregnant; that prompted us to live together. Our first daughter was about one and a half when we got engaged. We had a ten week engagement (mostly because my mom was terminally ill, and I wanted to get married while she was still alive to see it). We got married the day after my 27th birthday, he was 28. In November, we will celebrate our 17th anniversary. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193.md?page=3)