# Poll for engaged, married or formerly married dopers: **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 24, 2005, 7:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193 "2005-09-24T07:57:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![middleman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9a140/32.png) [@middleman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/middleman)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2005, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/61 "2005-09-25T01:06:13Z")
A) How long did you date before getting engaged? About a year. After we got engaged, I told her we could get married whenever she wanted. We got married like two months later. B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? I was 25 and she was 22. I had just finished law school and she had just finished her second year. We’ve been married five years. Side note: after our first anniversary, we visited New York City. A few months later, 9/11. For our fifth anniversary, we went to London. Shortly after, subway bombings. We take trips for significant anniversaries, and terrorists follow. Pray that for our 10th Anniversary, we don’t come to your town! ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2005, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/62 "2005-09-25T01:30:18Z")
1. About four years, going on five. 2. I was 28, she was 26. ---
**Author:** ![inkleberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f17d59/32.png) [@inkleberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/inkleberry)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2005, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/63 "2005-09-25T01:51:42Z")
a) In general, I dated around for 14 years. DrLoveGun in specific, I dated 1 year the first time around, and 2 months the second. b) 27 (DLG was 29) ---
**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2005, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/64 "2005-09-25T03:32:12Z")
1. We didn’t ‘date’ as such. We were a long distance relationship. He in the UK, I in Aus. We met in December '02, he came and stayed with me for three months from June-August '03. Then 12 months later, after much emailing and phoning, he returned to Australia (June '04). We lived together for just over seven months, getting married in January this year. 2. He was 23, I was 20. ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2005, 7:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/65 "2005-09-25T07:02:59Z")
We dated for a year and 10 months before getting engaged and got married 3 months later. I was a child bride - 19 when we got engaged and barely 20 at the wedding. He was 24. We’ve been married over 24 years now (it’ll be 25 in May). ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2005, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/66 "2005-09-25T07:19:07Z")
1. We got engaged after 6 months together. We moved in together a month after things turned serious, so we hardly even “dated.” We got married 7 months after the engagement. 2. We were both a month shy of our 24th birthdays on the day of our wedding. We’ve been married 7 years. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2005, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/67 "2005-09-25T19:00:57Z")
A) How long did you date before getting engaged? First time: Six months, and we only saw each other on the weekends! (It lasted six months) Second time: Eight months but we were practically living together from the second month anyway. (divorced after seven very long years) Future number three and I have been together over two years. We started talking marriage after almost a year, went to get the license last December but didn’t have the proper paperwork…maybe in another year we’ll try again? 😉 B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? First time, 18. Second time 22. I’m 35 now. ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2005, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/68 "2005-09-25T22:34:36Z")
A) about four months B) I was 38, he was 36 ---
**Author:** ![ic8spots](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/4491bb/32.png) [@ic8spots](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ic8spots)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2005, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/69 "2005-09-25T22:44:54Z")
We dated for 2 1/2 years, then eloped when I was 20 and he was 24. And I made him wait til we were married to get any! Bwwaaaaa haaa haaaa! I’m evil! ---
**Author:** ![Nutty\_Bunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d07c76/32.png) [@Nutty\_Bunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nutty_Bunny)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/70 "2005-09-26T13:55:04Z")
> [@Garfield226](#): > > A) How long did you date before getting engaged? > B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? A) 7 months (we married 2 months later) B) 29 (he was 28) ---
**Author:** ![Walkabout](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/46a35a/32.png) [@Walkabout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Walkabout)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 2:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/71 "2005-09-26T14:11:25Z")
A) About a year. B) I was 21 and he was 22. We’ve been married for 23 years, but we probably should have waited longer before getting married. ---
**Author:** ![yellowval](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/919ad9/32.png) [@yellowval](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yellowval)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/72 "2005-09-26T14:39:23Z")
1. 4 years, 11 months. We got married 11 months later. 2. We were both 22, almost 23. We celebrated our fifth anniversary last month. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/73 "2005-09-26T15:07:38Z")
> [@Garfield226](#): > > A) How long did you date before getting engaged? > B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? 9 years 40 years old me and 50 years old him ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Bird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Little\_Bird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Bird)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/74 "2005-09-26T15:45:20Z")
> [@Garfield226](#): > > A) How long did you date before getting engaged? > B) How old were you when you were married (or, for the engaged, how old will you be when you get married)? **Little Bird/Bird Man** timeline. June 2003 Met October 2003 Dating November 2003 Living together July 2004 Engaged November 2005 Bought house June 2005 Married We would have married a lot sooner, but I wanted an outdoor wedding and we didn’t have time to do it in the fall. Aaaah, whirlwind romances. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Bird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Little\_Bird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Bird)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/75 "2005-09-26T15:46:50Z")
Whoops! Forgot ages! I was, and am, 24. He was 25 but turned 26 a month later. ---
**Author:** ![dasgupta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e56c9b/32.png) [@dasgupta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dasgupta)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/76 "2005-09-26T16:11:34Z")
a) Dated 17 months before popping the question. b) When we get married next year, I’ll be 27 (one month shy of 28), she’ll be 31. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/77 "2005-09-26T16:22:18Z")
1. Dated 5 years ( engaged 1.5 year) ( woulda married sooner but future inlaws were in a horrific accident. 2. 26 and 27 respectively. 3. Married 12+ years this past May. 4. Known each other 17 years. We are like a pair of comfortable jeans. ---
**Author:** ![stargazer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eb8c5e/32.png) [@stargazer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stargazer)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/78 "2005-09-26T16:31:04Z")
We met & started dating during my freshman year of college, his sophomore. We got engaged almost 3 years later, on my 22nd birthday. We were engaged for 20 months\* – I was 23 when we got married, he was 24. It’ll be 4 years this October. 🙂 \*Man, I had to eat so much crow over that long engagement – I’d always thought that they were a bad idea, and had been somewhat vocal about that. But for us, it was the right time to get engaged, but not quite the right time to get married. So we did it in our own time, and I learned that the “right time” can be very different for everyone. ---
**Author:** ![billfritter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/54ee81/32.png) [@billfritter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfritter)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/79 "2005-09-26T19:26:18Z")
Dated 18 months, got married after a 6 month engagement. That seems stupid to me now. If I marry again, it will be within a month of the engagement, or what’s the point? Seems wrong to commit to each other and then intentionally live apart. Moving in during the engagement also seems pointless. Why bother with a big virignal ceremony, like that’s still a turning piont in your lives, when you’ve already been living as married for months? ---
**Author:** ![butler1850](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/779978/32.png) [@butler1850](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/butler1850)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2005, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193/80 "2005-09-26T20:01:20Z")
Dated for a year, living in seperate apartments (and states, though NH/MA and only about 30 minutes apart) Lived together for 6 months before we were engaged. Engaged for 6 months (still living in “sin”) Now married for 6 years, and have a 5.5 month old daughter. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-engaged-married-or-formerly-married-dopers/323193.md?page=5)