# Poll for totally straight people **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 22, 2005, 10:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328 "2005-02-22T10:57:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/61 "2005-02-22T21:45:36Z")
> [@TheBoneyKingofNowhere](#): > > I think that along the lines of the OP is that many more straight women would be “open” to be on the **receiving** end of a female-to-female sexual experience, as opposed to men, who find _all_ aspects of the encounter to be pretty much revolting. Eww, ew, ew, eeeewwwww! NO! What in the _world_ makes you think I’d rather be probed than to do the probing in a distasteful situation??? Not _this_ straight woman! ---
**Author:** ![Mississippienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d2c977/32.png) [@Mississippienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mississippienne)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/62 "2005-02-22T22:02:01Z")
Straight female here. I’ve got a lot of lesbian friends. A lot. I could probably take over a small South American country with my lesbian army. And my friends are all beautiful, sexy, desirable women. Several of them have expressed more than a friendly interest in me. I have a standing offer of the Hottest Lesbian Sex, Ever ™ from one. I’ve sometimes thought that it was a shame that I wasn’t gay/bi, because if I was most of my relationship problems would be solved. But I just can’t get into the idea of having sex with a woman. I can appreciate a woman on an aethestic level, even find her sexy, but once it moves from the realm of the theoretical to the possible, my enthusiasm just dies. _Bluh_. Deader than a doornail. ---
**Author:** ![pasunejen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/58956e/32.png) [@pasunejen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pasunejen)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/63 "2005-02-22T22:05:50Z")
Straight female. Like several other posters, for me women are aesthetically but not sexually appealing. I can get more turned on by the idea of two women together if I’m already partially aroused, but it’s not something I particularly want to observe and definitely not something I want to participate in. There are situations in which I’d participate in sexual activity with another woman, but it really wouldn’t do a whole lot for me outside the purely physical sensations involved. On a couple of occasions I’ve really _tried_ to get interested in the idea of actually doing it, and it just wasn’t possible. If it were to happen, I’d much rather be on the receiving than the giving end. ---
**Author:** ![ITR\_champion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c67d28/32.png) [@ITR\_champion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ITR_champion)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/64 "2005-02-22T22:36:10Z")
Straight male. I have, on occasion, found certain men physically attractive, although in the course of a typical day I’ll notice that a good-looking man is nearby far less frequently than I’ll notice that a good-looking woman is nearby. However, I have not ever during my lifetime desired to have a sexual experience involving another man, nor wanted to see two guys going at it, or anything of the sort. I don’t find it digusting. I don’t find it frightening. But the idea that I might want to do it, or even see it, has never crossed my mind. During college I spent two years in a dorm that was recognized campus-wide as the most gay dorm, with a population that was probably around two thirds gay or bisexual (including one of my roommates). And I chose this living arrangement voluntarily, which I think demonstrates that I’m not repulsed by the idea of gay sex. To me it’s more just like an item at the store that I’d never have the slightest interest in buying. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/65 "2005-02-22T22:51:31Z")
> [@pasunejen](#): > > If it were to happen, I’d much rather be on the receiving than the giving end. I am quite sure I don’t want to go to my grave without trying both at least once, even if I am straight. :o Uh. Not that I will be buried. To my cremation chamber just doesn’t have the same ring, though. ---
**Author:** ![Agonist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@Agonist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Agonist)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/66 "2005-02-22T23:24:20Z")
Straight female. I’m pretty much right where the OP’s hypothesis puts me: not interested, but not bothered by the concept. Not bothered by male-on-male sex either; I read f/f and m/m erotica all the time. (is that TMI?) Actually, it kinda surprises me how many women are disgusted - most women I’ve known seem to have an “I’ve thought about it” attitude. I’ve always thought that the male negative reaction was a society-induced fluke. I guess I’ll have to change my opinion on that. ---
**Author:** ![VarlosZ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d78d45/32.png) [@VarlosZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VarlosZ)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/67 "2005-02-22T23:38:42Z")
Straight male. I’m definitely not interested, but the idea of gay sex doesn’t give me the willies or anything. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/68 "2005-02-22T23:49:50Z")
I’m a straight female. I’m not turned on by guy-on-guy and I wouldn’t watch it. The thought of it is “feh” but watching it would be “Yuck!” As for other women, I would let a woman do me, if I didn’t have to do anything to her. I’d just close my eyes and imagine it was an especially-talented man giving the oral report. I wouldn’t be able to reciprocate, though. My OWN vagina’s okay, of course, but I find other womens’ to be unappealing. Actually, I HAVE let a women do me with no reciprocation. I’m the kind of person that likes to try things before I decide they’re not for me. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/69 "2005-02-22T23:59:41Z")
Straight chick, neither disgusted nor aroused by it. I like the golf analogy given earlier. Did the early teenaged experimental thing, liked it but liked boys better, no soul-searching agony involved. There’s something to the theory that straight chicks can cuddle, non-sexually, for comfort or whatever, whereas with straight guys we get the empty seat between in the theatre zone of comfort. I can share a loveseat and be all squished in with a gf, nothing sexual about it and wouldn’t think anything of it, but most straight guys I know don’t do the same with other guys, for instance. Is that socialization? The whole femme nurturing maternal thing? Is it that fella’s are just hardwired to connect bodily contact with sex in a way we’re not? What _is_ it? ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/70 "2005-02-23T00:06:40Z")
> [@Cervaise](#): > > …and yet it bothered me that I had such a strong negative reaction whenever I tried to entertain thoughts of my own participation in sex with another man. I consider myself as far from homophobic as it’s possible for a straight guy to be, but I still got the skin-crawlies when trying to imagine myself having a gay encounter of any sort. > > […] > > I still don’t know if I should be worried I’m not the one-hundred-percent-progressive metrosexual male I aspire to be, but whatever. If it’s a failing, it’s a minor one. An understandable reaction for someone that strives to be as progressive as possible but one I wouldn’t worry about if I were you. You didn’t seem to have any issue with me when we met (assuming you were even aware of my sexuality… you’d forgotten I was Southern until I mentioned it) and as someone with an interest in both genders, there’re still things that give _ **me** _ skin-crawlies concerning sexual matters – some heterosexual, some homosexual – so it only makes sense that a straight person could (and would) have similar reactions to gay sex. Plus, I seem to remember you posting that you and your wife are vaguely hoping to have a homosexual or bisexual child and that’s an incredibly cool, if a bit odd, desire and made me like you that much more. The world needs more people like you. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/71 "2005-02-23T00:40:29Z")
> [@paulberserker](#): > > And don’t forget your right to use every given opportunity to bore people to death with the fact you’re transgendered/sexual/whatever… If you _must_ post rude nonsense, do so in The BBQ Pit. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/72 "2005-02-23T02:01:07Z")
Straight female here – Back in college, I was once asked to participate in a threesome. My BF was very enthusiastic at the prospect and promised to hook me, er, us up with a “good looking, clean woman.” Never did it, but it’s interesting that we both assumed there would be two women and one man. Had he suggested having another guy in our bed, I admit that I would have been extremely alarmed. First of all, it’s one more penis than I could handle, and secondly, if my BF wanted to make out with another guy, then yuck. Insert usual disclaimer about still being pro gay rights. Who someone finds attractive is something we simply can’t change. In fact, my personal distaste for same sex relationships makes me more tolerant of gays. I certainly couldn’t talk myself into being turned on by another woman. Why would I believe that gay people could talk themselves into being attracted to the opposite sex? ---
**Author:** ![OtakuLoki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ac8455/32.png) [@OtakuLoki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OtakuLoki)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/73 "2005-02-23T02:13:02Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I started a thread some time ago, asking if anyone else ever felt any physical attraction to their own sex. I was quite surprised when the answer came back as a resounding “NO!” Having felt it myself, and not having felt out of the ordinary in any way, I was surprised to realize it was, indeed, a rare thing. To be honest, **Anaamika** , my personal experience leads me to believe that most people are either: [ul] [li]never have been in a situation where they’d feel the attraction[/li][li]lying to themselves[/li][/ul] I used to think I’d never, ever feel an attraction for another man. Then I was stuck in an all male environment, and found that I could find another man’s ass attractive. After about 6-8 weeks at sea. Frankly, I believe that reaction makes the homophobia inherent to the Navy very understandable, since how does one fight such an unwanted attraction, other than by over-compensating? Doesn’t make it right, or unobjectionable. Just understandable. Anyways, I am about 99% straight, and really have never felt a need to have sex with another man, except in very unnatural situations. There may be someone out there who’s ‘it’ for me. But, until then I’ll keep looking for a female partner. ---
**Author:** ![unclviny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e274bd/32.png) [@unclviny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/unclviny)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/74 "2005-02-23T02:17:09Z")
Straight guy here. If I wanted to play with “guy parts” there is no reason for me to leave the house as I am already equipped. I don’t care what other folks do but M+M or F+F does nothing for me personally. Unclviny ---
**Author:** ![Phantom\_Dennis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/51bf81/32.png) [@Phantom\_Dennis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Phantom_Dennis)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/75 "2005-02-23T03:17:04Z")
Straight guy. I used to find the idea of sex with another man revolting, but now that I’ve become a more liberal and tolerant person, I merely find it uninteresting. Actually, it depends on the man – the idea of sex with a more effeminate man like, say, Leonardo DiCapro, is merely uninteresting, whereas the idea of sex with somebody masculine, like say, Russell Crowe, is a little more unnerving. ---
**Author:** ![LorieSmurf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a587f6/32.png) [@LorieSmurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LorieSmurf)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/76 "2005-02-23T07:28:27Z")
Straight girl. The thought of sex with another woman is definitely disgusting to me. But I have lesbian friends that aren’t disgusting to me. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 8:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/77 "2005-02-23T08:20:11Z")
I tried to have sex with a woman, but it just isn’t what I am interested in. I prefer male bodies. If the right girl came along, maybe, but she would have to be a boyish girl, I don’t find huge breasts attractive at all. I love watching guy/guy stufff but het stuff is just okay and girl/girl stuff does nothing for me. ---
**Author:** ![Freejooky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ba8739/32.png) [@Freejooky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freejooky)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 9:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/78 "2005-02-23T09:53:19Z")
Straight male. I’m incredibly revolted by the thought of even touching another guy, but Girl/Girl stuff turns me on even more than hetero stuff. ---
**Author:** ![richardb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/96bed5/32.png) [@richardb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/richardb)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 10:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/79 "2005-02-23T10:13:30Z")
Male, straight. Yes, the idea of me having sex with another male (either giving or receiving) revolts me. But that’s just me. You can feel free to do whatever you want (as long as I don’t have to watch). On the other hand, watching two (or more) lesbians go it it is not revolting at all. Kind of fascinating… as in, I could watch that for hours! ---
**Author:** ![Keapon\_Laffin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e274bd/32.png) [@Keapon\_Laffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Keapon_Laffin)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 10:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328/80 "2005-02-23T10:36:50Z")
Straight male. Yeah, its disgusting to me. But consider that it might be upbringing, rather than any inbuilt gender thingy. I wasn’t exposed to any open gay culture until I was about 19. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-totally-straight-people/291328.md?page=5)