# Poll: Have you had a homosexual experience? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 2, 2006, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211 "2006-06-02T22:18:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 9
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/161 "2006-06-07T16:58:19Z")
_“several makeout sessions with female friends where clothes were off”_ See, to me this qualifies as “a homosexual experience”. Unless the definition of “makeout” has changed drastically. I think of makeout as involving kissing, and kissing (aside from stuff like kissing your great-aunt’s cheek or whatever) is sexual. ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/162 "2006-06-07T17:02:59Z")
[QUOTE=LunaV] 1. No, not according to the definition put forth by **ambushed** although I have had several makeout sessions with female friends where clothes were off. It wasn’t sexually naughty, it was just having fun. [/QUOTE] I think this _definitely_ counts as a homosexual experience. Think about it: If a future boyfriend told you that he has had “several makeout sessions with male friends where clothes were off, but it wasn’t sexually naughty, it was just having fun”, would you consider him to have had a homosexual experience? ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/163 "2006-06-07T17:15:56Z")
OK lets be clear to **Opal** here When I said No to #1, that includes no kissing, touching, or anything similar with a male. I would have no problem answering yes to #1 if it were in any way true, but it isn’t. 1. 36 I invite anyone who answered #1 not to **Opal** ’s liking to similarly come back and be precise. ---
**Author:** ![psycat90](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@psycat90](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psycat90)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/164 "2006-06-07T17:30:43Z")
[QUOTE=psycat90] 1. Yes 2. Female 3. Bisexual [/QUOTE] I am 35. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/165 "2006-06-07T17:48:41Z")
[QUOTE=Bippy the Beardless] OK lets be clear to **Opal** here When I said No to #1, that includes no kissing, touching, or anything similar with a male. I would have no problem answering yes to #1 if it were in any way true, but it isn’t. 1. 36 I invite anyone who answered #1 not to **Opal** ’s liking to similarly come back and be precise. [/QUOTE] Oh please. :rolleyes: I’m not the bad guy here. ALL I HAVE DONE is express the possibility that not everyone is on the same page with regards to what does or does not qualify as a “homosexual encounter”. I’m not saying everyone Has To Agree With My Definition. I have not said that anyone’s answers were “not to my liking”. I simply pulled out LunaV’s answer as an example to illustrate that, just maybe, not everyone was defining it the same here. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/166 "2006-06-07T18:14:09Z")
> [@](#): > > 1. Have you had a homosexual experience? No. I have briefly smooched another man, not a family member, on the lips, but no tongue, and all clothes on. Just for the record. In my view, that’s not a “homosexual experience.” YMMV. > [@](#): > > 1. What is your gender? Male. > [@](#): > > 1. Are you gay or straight? Straight. ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/167 "2006-06-07T18:37:03Z")
[QUOTE=Bricker] I have briefly smooched another man, not a family member, on the lips, but no tongue, and all clothes on. Just for the record. In my view, that’s not a “homosexual experience.” [/QUOTE] What do _you_ classify it as? What was the purpose of the kiss? ---
**Author:** ![Yookeroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yookeroo/32/323_2.png) [@Yookeroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yookeroo)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/168 "2006-06-07T19:41:53Z")
[QUOTE=LunaV] 1. No, not according to the definition put forth by **ambushed** although I have had several makeout sessions with female friends where clothes were off. It wasn’t sexually naughty, it was just having fun. We’re a very friendly group. 2. Female 3. Straight 4. 25 [/QUOTE] I love this definition of “just having fun”. I’ll have to see if I can talk some girls into asexual naked makeout sessions. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/169 "2006-06-07T20:27:24Z")
[QUOTE=Yookeroo] asexual naked makeout sessions [/QUOTE] It has a certain ring to it… Maybe Band Name, or at least Album Name. ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/170 "2006-06-07T21:14:35Z")
[QUOTE=Polerius] What do _you_ classify it as? What was the purpose of the kiss? [/QUOTE] Not answering on behalf of Briker, but a smootchy kiss between same sex people could be done as a joke, for a bet, or to cause embarissment without being a homosexual experience. If there was no form of attraction between the people. Would you say that smooching a cross dresser thinking they were members of the gender they outwardly show could be considered homosexual experience? ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/171 "2006-06-07T21:21:55Z")
[QUOTE=Bippy the Beardless] Not answering on behalf of Briker, but a smootchy kiss between same sex people could be done as a joke, for a bet, or to cause embarissment without being a homosexual experience. [/QUOTE] I agree, context is important. The cases you sighted above would make it a non-sexual thing. That’s why I asked the purpose of the kiss. > [@](#): > > Would you say that smooching a cross dresser thinking they were members of the gender they outwardly show could be considered homosexual experience? No. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2006, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/172 "2006-06-07T23:35:57Z")
1. Entirely technically, yes. One session of over the clothes petting when I was about 12. 2. male 3. gay 4. 30 **NOTE** The following is NOT a commentary on the answers provided by anyone else, it is simply relating my experiences. Just wanted to mention that experimenting seemed to be quite common where I grew up also (central Ohio). I fooled around with guys from my neighborhood, church, a few cousins. All the ones that I’ve seen since then are straight, married and very likely would never admit to the things that happened. Several of them have refused to admit anything happened, it hasn’t come up with the others. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Carter_of_Mars)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2006, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/173 "2006-06-08T03:42:51Z")
[QUOTE=LunaV] 1. No, not according to the definition put forth by **ambushed** although I have had several makeout sessions with female friends where clothes were off. It wasn’t sexually naughty, it was just having fun. We’re a very friendly group. [/quote] 😕😕😕😕😕😕😕 How can a makeout session NOT be a sexual experience? Thus, a same-sex makeout session a homosexual experience? How can you state that you’ve engaged in the above, and still answer “No” to question 1? You’ve accomplished something besides confusing several posters, however. You’ve proved **OpalCat** ’s point: That not everybody thinks a sexual experience is a sexual experience… ---
**Author:** ![Cowgirl\_Jules](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@Cowgirl\_Jules](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cowgirl_Jules)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2006, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/174 "2006-06-08T03:59:45Z")
1. No 2. Female 3. Straight 4. 37 ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2006, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/175 "2006-06-08T04:04:23Z")
1. I’m not sure how to answer based on the way this thread is going so I’m just gonna say that I’ve snogged with a few women, and some groping happened, but the cootchie was strictly avoided. 2. woman 3. straight I get what Opal is saying, and don’t think she’s being confrontational about it either. I know I was wondering how to answer question one - I mean, I haven’t had full blow _SEX_ with a woman, but I’ve been cozy with one (well, more than one, actually.) 33 ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2006, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/176 "2006-06-08T04:38:23Z")
[QUOTE=InternetLegend] Yes. Female. Bi. I don’t think that the sexy parts of a woman’s body (which I define as “most parts of a sexy woman’s body”) _are_ messy. Hence the “bi” identification. 😉 [/QUOTE] As an addendum: I’m 45. I don’t recall having lesbian experiences being particularly “in vogue” back when I was having them - if anything, my girlfriends and I were rather circumspect about it unless among people we knew we could trust. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2006, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/177 "2006-06-08T04:57:48Z")
[QUOTE=Polerius] It has a certain ring to it… Maybe Band Name, or at least Album Name. [/QUOTE] It’s not often talked about, but John Peel was born John Asexual-Naked-Makeout and had his name changed by deed poll as part of his first contract with the BBC. ---
**Author:** ![Walloon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/fbc32d/32.png) [@Walloon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Walloon)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2006, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/178 "2006-06-08T06:37:55Z")
[QUOTE=OpalCat] First, it isn’t really an anonymous message board. Huge numbers of the members here meet each other in real life [/QUOTE] I’ll bet more than 90% of those in this thread have never met another member face to face. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2006, 9:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/179 "2006-06-08T09:00:22Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] Does making out with a girl while drunk count? Then yes. (straight female) [/QUOTE] 1. To expand a bit, I’m not usually attracted to other girls, but sometimes, in certain situations (that include a lot of alcohol) I’ll feel turned on by other women. I suppose that means I’m straight with bi tendencies. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2006, 11:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-have-you-had-a-homosexual-experience/359211/180 "2006-06-08T11:11:49Z")
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