# Poll: Non-Violent Movie Scene You Still Cringe At
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076
**Category:** Cafe Society
**Created:** [May 24, 2006, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076 "2006-05-24T20:16:10Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Malienation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malienation)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/1 "2006-05-24T20:16:10Z")
What non-violent scene in a movie do you still cringe at (I think this poll is more interesting with the “non-violent” issue)? Ooooh, ooooh, me first!
The scene in **Monster’s Ball** in which Halley Berry verbally abuses her son for sneaking candy and being fat. If you haven’t seen it, trust me, it’s tough to watch.
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### Author:  [@Birdmonster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Birdmonster)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/2 "2006-05-24T20:17:53Z")
That scene in Swingers where John Favreau keeps calling the woman he met, getting cut, recalling, getting cut off, recalling…just painful.
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### Author:  [@DxZero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DxZero)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/3 "2006-05-24T20:20:08Z")
> [@Malienation](#):
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> What non-violent scene in a movie do you still cringe at (I think this poll is more interesting with the “non-violent” issue)? Ooooh, ooooh, me first!
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> The scene in **Monster’s Ball** in which Halley Berry verbally abuses her son for sneaking candy and being fat. If you haven’t seen it, trust me, it’s tough to watch.
Well, if we’re talking about Monster’s Ball…
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“Make me feel good!!”
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Oh man…not cool at all.
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### Author:  [@teela\_brown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/teela_brown)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/4 "2006-05-24T20:26:47Z")
In _Zorba The Greek_, I can’t stand the scene when the poor old courtesan/landlady is dying, and the peasants are filing into her room to rob her the instant the breath leaves her body. She’s right in the process of dying, and here are these horrible old harpies closing in on her and scaring her to death. Extremely cringeworthy.
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### Author:  [@BlackHeart](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlackHeart)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/5 "2006-05-24T20:32:51Z")
John Travolta doing the aerobic shwing in “Perfect”. Crriiingee. And I kinda like the guy but… Ugghh…
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### Author:  [@Hampshire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hampshire)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/6 "2006-05-24T21:02:48Z")
Any of Patrick Swayze’s dance moves in **Dirty Dancing**.
As a heterosexual male how can they not make you cringe.
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### Author:  [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/7 "2006-05-24T21:07:12Z")
**The Hand That Rocks the Cradle** when Rebecca DeMornay’s character pushes the mentally challenged guy around and calls him something like a “fuckin’ retard.” I made the lemon face at that one.
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### Author:  [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/8 "2006-05-24T21:13:25Z")
When Nurse Rachet belittles Billy about pitchin’ woo with the floozies. That horrid bitch.
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### Author:  [@Tuckerfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tuckerfan)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/9 "2006-05-24T21:16:34Z")
The chest shaving sequence in _The Wall_.
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### Author:  [@WOOKINPANUB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUB)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/10 "2006-05-24T21:17:47Z")
> [@Malienation](#):
>
> What non-violent scene in a movie do you still cringe at (I think this poll is more interesting with the “non-violent” issue)? Ooooh, ooooh, me first!
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> The scene in **Monster’s Ball** in which Halley Berry verbally abuses her son for sneaking candy and being fat. If you haven’t seen it, trust me, it’s tough to watch.
Good example, though I would consider that scene violent, but I know what you’re getting at. The whole movie, while very good, was for me one long cringe fest.
I tend to cringe during masturbation scenes. Judge Reinhold in Fast Times at Ridgemont High, Tom Cruise in Risky Business, Kevin Spacey in American Beauty. . . shudder. I don’t know why, but I only find it cringeworthy if it’s a guy in the scene. Maybe because it looks so awkward or something?
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### Author:  [@Birdmonster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Birdmonster)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/11 "2006-05-24T21:19:56Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#):
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> When Nurse Rachet belittles Billy about pitchin’ woo with the floozies. That horrid bitch.
Nurse Rachet!!! ARRGHGHGHHH!H!!! I cringed just at the thought of her. (Louise Fletcher, in case you care, is her name. She’s had a pretty prolific, working-actress type career too. I don’t think I could find her believable as a sympathetic character though—just too good in Cuckoo’s Nest)
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### Author:  [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/12 "2006-05-24T21:23:01Z")
I cringe at misunderstanding-based comedies, since I don’t find it particularly funny to be on either end of a misunderstanding-based embarassment, but thankfully it’s more common in sitcoms than in movies.
OTOH, I don’t cringe at true awkwardness, such as in a lot of Coen-brothers movies: only when it’s played for laughs. (I guess the premise that we’re supposed to laugh at them rather than sympathize is cold-hearted to me.)
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### Author:  [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/13 "2006-05-24T21:36:46Z")
Deliverance?
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### Author:  [@lissener](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lissener)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/14 "2006-05-24T21:45:08Z")
> [@Least Original User Name Ever](#):
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> Deliverance?
And that’s nonviolent by exactly whose standards?
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### Author:  [@Push\_You\_Down](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Push_You_Down)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/15 "2006-05-24T21:47:17Z")
> [@Least Original User Name Ever](#):
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> Deliverance?
Which scene? Because the violent rape of Ned Beatty doesn’t really fit the op… Or do you mean Reynold’s accent? Ba-dum-ching.
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### Author:  [@Loopydude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loopydude)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/16 "2006-05-24T22:00:45Z")
_Silence of the Lambs_, the scene where Jame Gumm plays dress-up, muttering “Do you wanna fuck me?” while applying lipstick, and culminating with him tucking his willy between his legs and stepping back from the mirror to strike a resplendent pose.
Gaaaaah!
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### Author:  [@Malienation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malienation)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/17 "2006-05-24T22:05:27Z")
> [@Push You Down](#):
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> Which scene? Because the violent rape of Ned Beatty doesn’t really fit the op…
Really? Why’s that, because the victim is a man? Do you consider the scene to be one played largely for laughs, as many people do when this scene is mentioned (think about this…ever hear of scene of a woman being raped in a movie in which the popular culture views it as funny?).
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### Author:  [@Wee\_Bairn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wee_Bairn)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/18 "2006-05-24T22:09:58Z")
**Malienation** , **Push You Down** is not saying the rape scene is Deliverance is not violent, he/she is saying it _is_ violent, and therefore
specifically excluded wording of the OP.
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### Author:  [@Bear\_Nenno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bear_Nenno)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/19 "2006-05-24T22:10:20Z")
> [@Malienation](#):
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> Really? Why’s that, because the victim is a man? Do you consider the scene to be one played largely for laughs, as many people do when this scene is mentioned (think about this…ever hear of scene of a woman being raped in a movie in which the popular culture views it as funny?).
Are you asking why a violent scene doesn’t fit your OP requirement of being nonviolent?? Now my head is spinning.
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### Author:  [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/20 "2006-05-24T22:20:02Z")
There’s a scene in _Gone With the Wind_ that gets me every time.
Scarlett has just told Rhett she doesn’t want any more children. Presumably this is because she can’t fit into a dress with an 18 1/2 waist anymore.\*
Rhett realizes this means no more sex, and he storms out of the room, slamming into Pork, who is carrying something, and nearly knocks him over.
Pork turns and very meekly says, “'Scuse me, Mistah Rhett,” and is ignored as Rhett makes a beeline for the bar.
The whole subservient carryover from the war of Massa/Slave makes me want to run up and hug Pork and tell him Mister Rhett is just being an asshole.
\*In the book, Scarlett comes back from a visit to the mill and Ashley where he has hinted he still wants her. Due to Melanie’s health, he unable to enjoy marital relations for fear she will get pregnant again. Scarlett gets some silly notion that although they are married to other people, they can remain faithful to each other.
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