# Poll: Non-Violent Movie Scene You Still Cringe At
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076
**Category:** Cafe Society
**Created:** [May 24, 2006, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076 "2006-05-24T20:16:10Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@PoorYorick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PoorYorick)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/21 "2006-05-24T22:23:20Z")
> [@Ludovic](#):
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> I cringe at misunderstanding-based comedies, since I don’t find it particularly funny to be on either end of a misunderstanding-based embarassment, but thankfully it’s more common in sitcoms than in movies.
I’m with you here. A variation of this are movies/scenes where the protagonist is telling the truth and no one believes him/her. An example would be Jodie Foster in _Flightplan_ (spoiler in case it hasn’t already been spoiled for you by the advertisements).
It probably says something deep and dark about my childhood or something, but I just can’t stand 'em. _The Fugitive_ with Harrison Ford was about the only exception I can think of.
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### Author:  [@Malienation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malienation)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/22 "2006-05-24T22:33:58Z")
> [@Wee Bairn](#):
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> **Malienation** , **Push You Down** is not saying the rape scene is Deliverance is not violent, he/she is saying it _is_ violent, and therefore
> specifically excluded wording of the OP.
:smack: Oops, forgot to look before I leapt…
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### Author:  [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/23 "2006-05-24T22:39:13Z")
There’s a scene in Todd Solotz’s HAPPINESS that’s like, the worst thing I’ve ever seen. Bill Maplewood is sitting on a bed next to his 11-year old son, Billy, and is about to confess that he’s a pedophile who’s had sex with Billy’s friends.
[spoiler]Billy: You, um… uh… with… Johnny Grasso and Ronald Farber?
Bill: Yes.
Billy: What… did you do?
Bill: I touched them.
Billy: What do you mean, exactly, touched?
Bill: I fondled them.
Billy: What for?
Bill: I couldn’t help myself.
Billy: What else?
Bill: I… I unzipped myself.
Billy: You… you mean, masturbated?
Bill: No.
Billy: Then what?
Bill: I… made love.
Billy: What do you mean?
Bill: I fucked them.
Billy: What was it like?
Bill: It was… it was great.
Billy: Would you do it again?
Bili: Yes.[/spoiler]
Just when you think this conversation couldn’t possibly get any worse, we get this gem:
Billy: Would… would you ever… fuck me?
Wait for it…
Bill: No! I’d jerk off instead.
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### Author:  [@Push\_You\_Down](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Push_You_Down)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/24 "2006-05-24T22:48:32Z")
…Yeah… That’s probably the winner right there.
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/25 "2006-05-24T23:16:51Z")
**Train Spotting**
Spud.
Sheets.
Kitchen.
Is that what you mean by cringe?
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### Author:  [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)
#### Post date: [May 24, 2006, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/26 "2006-05-24T23:44:18Z")
> [@Loopydude](#):
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> _Silence of the Lambs_, the scene where Jame Gumm plays dress-up, muttering “Do you wanna fuck me?” while applying lipstick, and culminating with him tucking his willy between his legs and stepping back from the mirror to strike a resplendent pose.
I was going for SOTL as well, but for me it is the scene where he has the girl in the well. He continually refers to her in third person neuter: “It rubs the lotion on its skin.”. When he finally has to talk to her as a person instead of an object, he totally loses control.
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### Author:  [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/27 "2006-05-25T00:58:17Z")
_Remains of the Day_. The bit where Lord Darlington is debating democracy with his friend, and the guy proves his point by interviewing Stevens.
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### Author:  [@Wee\_Bairn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wee_Bairn)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/28 "2006-05-25T01:13:18Z")
Yep, **Askia** wins! Just when you thought\*\* Happiness \*\* couldn’t get any more depraved after Philip Seymour Hoffman’s perverted phone call/masturbation scene, we get that gem of an exchange that all fathers have with their ten year old sons.
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### Author:  [@RealityChuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityChuck)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/29 "2006-05-25T02:25:08Z")
The most cringeworthy scene I can remember was in **The Secret of Santa Vittoria**. Anthony Quinn’s daughter is complaining about her being a virgin (something about her juices flowing) and I cringed as I heard the godawful dialog.
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### Author:  [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/30 "2006-05-25T03:08:40Z")
The scene in The Bad Lieutenant where Harvey Keitel gives a ticket to that pretty young girl.
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### Author:  [@The\_Long\_Road](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Long_Road)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/31 "2006-05-25T03:56:15Z")
\*\*One Hour Photo \*\* where Robin Williams breaks into the people’s house and proceeds to use the bathroom. I still don’t know exactly why it made me cringe, either him doing that in their house or expecting them to walk in and see him doing that.
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### Author:  [@congodwarf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/congodwarf)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/32 "2006-05-25T05:26:10Z")
[Three Extremes](http://imdb.com/title/tt0420251/) - more specifically… **Dumplings**.
I’m no lightweight and I’ve seen enough Asian horror films to know that they’re much more disturbing than any American filmmaker could ever manage. However, when Mrs. Li first bites into a dumpling and it _crunched_ , I just about hurled. Ugh, just the thought still makes me shudder. I didn’t know what was in the dumplings and didn’t want to know. I watched the rest because I’m a masochist. I was massively grossed out when I found out what was in the dumplings and even more so when Mrs. Li continues eating them at the end. But, that first crunch was still worse.
The dumplings are made from
aborted human fetuses
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### Author:  [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/33 "2006-05-25T14:10:27Z")
> [@saoirse](#):
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> _Remains of the Day_. The bit where Lord Darlington is debating democracy with his friend, and the guy proves his point by interviewing Stevens.
Oh damn- I so wanted Stevens to pwn him by rattling off a totally learned analysis of the geo-political-economic situation… and to sneak a bit of animal product into the old vegan fascist’s meal.
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### Author:  [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/34 "2006-05-25T14:13:18Z")
> [@FriarTed](#):
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> Oh damn- I so wanted Stevens to pwn him by rattling off a totally learned analysis of the geo-political-economic situation… and to sneak a bit of animal product into the old vegan fascist’s meal.
I actually read a negative review of the movie (in Newsweek, I think), where the critic complained that Evelyn Waugh’s Jeeves would have put those aristocrats in their place, and Stevens should have done the same thing.
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### Author:  [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/35 "2006-05-25T20:26:25Z")
> [@Biggirl](#):
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> The scene in The Bad Lieutenant where Harvey Keitel gives a ticket to that pretty young girl.
That was violent.
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### Author:  [@Morbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morbo)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/36 "2006-05-25T20:51:07Z")
**In The Company Of Men**.
[spoiler]Aaron Eckhart (Chad) and his buddy (Howard) are playing a cruel joke on a deaf woman to get back at other women who mistreated them.
Howard falls for her, but she falls for Chad, completely believing his line.
Finally Howard tries to tell her, and gets pissed off at her:
(Paraphrasing) “Are you so desperate you can’t see it? Chad? He doesn’t like you. He LOATHES you. He DETESTS you and your pathetic “retard” voice. That’s what he calls it. You bought that shit? It was meant to be a SPORT. Fun to watch you fall apart. You are fucking handicapped! You think you can get men to fall at your feet?”
She doesn’t believe him, so she later confronts Chad…
(Paraphrasing)“It turned into sort of a contest because we both wanted to…shit. (Starts to smile) I was gonna let you down easy, but I can’t keep a straight face… so fuck it. SURPRISE!!! (laughs) So how does it feel? I mean right now - this instant? How do you feel inside, knowing what you know? Tell me!”
And she breaks down weeping. Ugh.[/spoiler]
Neil LaBute is great, but…damn.
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### Author:  [@Push\_You\_Down](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Push_You_Down)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/37 "2006-05-25T23:39:23Z")
Ohhh Dooku’s name reminded me… I cringed at the whole “Nooooooo!” scene in ep. 3
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### Author:  [@YaWanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YaWanna)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/38 "2006-05-25T23:44:52Z")
> [@Tuckerfan](#):
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> The chest shaving sequence in _The Wall_.
Yep - I still remember watching that since with a feeling of dread and horror.
I could also mention, most of _Leaving Las Vegas_.
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### Author:  [@Morbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morbo)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/39 "2006-05-25T23:53:35Z")
> [@Push You Down](#):
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> Ohhh Dooku’s name reminded me… I cringed at the whole “Nooooooo!” scene in ep. 3
Wait - we can include cringe-worthy crappy love scenes?
In that case, I nominate: “You’re not like sand…you’re soft…and smooth…and…”::vomit::
Or the entire movie **Love Story**. “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Um, what? That’s some spectacularly bad advice right there.
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### Author:  [@NDP](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NDP)
#### Post date: [May 25, 2006, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-non-violent-movie-scene-you-still-cringe-at/358076/40 "2006-05-25T23:55:43Z")
> [@Dooku](#):
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> Or the entire movie **Love Story**. “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Um, what? That’s some spectacularly bad advice right there.
“That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.” 😛
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