# Poll: Sexual Fantasy Ranking
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [January 5, 2005, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245 "2005-01-05T18:44:48Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/1 "2005-01-05T18:44:48Z")
OK everyone has sexual fantasies (I hope). Often not precisely aligned with our own sexual orientation. Please list your gender and sexual orientation, followed by a score from 0 to 10 of how much you enjoy/have the following fantasies
As a man, anally penetrating another man,
As a man, being anally penetrated by another man,
As a man, getting oral sex from another man,
As a man, giving oral sex to another man,
As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman,
As a man, anally penetrating a woman,
As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on,
As a man, getting oral sex from a woman,
As a man, giving oral sex to a woman,
As a woman, anally penetrating a man using a strap on,
As a woman, being anally penetrated by a man,
As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a man,
As a woman, getting oral sex from a man,
As a woman, giving oral sex to a man,
As a woman, analy penetrating a woman using a strap on,
As a woman, being analy penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
As a woman, getting oral sex from a woman,
As a woman, giving oral sex to a woman.
The fantasy would otherwise be as contrived and to your own liking as you wish. 0 would indicate you would consider such a fantasy unusual for yourself, and feel strange about having it, 10 would indicate a common fantasy theme for yourself.
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### Author:  [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/2 "2005-01-05T18:48:15Z")
So to start myself, as is only fair.
Male Heterosexual
0 As a man, anally penetrating another man,
2 As a man, being anally penetrated by another man,
2 As a man, getting oral sex from another man,
3 As a man, giving oral sex to another man,
9 As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman,
2 As a man, anally penetrating a woman,
4 As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on,
10 As a man, getting oral sex from a woman,
10 As a man, giving oral sex to a woman,
0 As a woman, anally penetrating a man using a strap on,
2 As a woman, being anally penetrated by a man,
2 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a man,
0 As a woman, getting oral sex from a man,
3 As a woman, giving oral sex to a man,
0 As a woman, analy penetrating a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being analy penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
2 As a woman, getting oral sex from a woman,
6 As a woman, giving oral sex to a woman.
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### Author:  [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/3 "2005-01-05T19:34:24Z")
Gay Guy:
10 As a man, anally penetrating another man,
08 As a man, being anally penetrated by another man,
10 As a man, getting oral sex from another man,
10 As a man, giving oral sex to another man,
0 As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman,
0 As a man, anally penetrating a woman,
0 As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on,
0 As a man, getting oral sex from a woman,
0 As a man, giving oral sex to a woman,
0 As a woman, anally penetrating a man using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being anally penetrated by a man,
0 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a man,
0 As a woman, getting oral sex from a man,
0 As a woman, giving oral sex to a man,
0 As a woman, analy penetrating a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being analy penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, getting oral sex from a woman,
0 As a woman, giving oral sex to a woman.
If BDSM is included as a part of the fantasy then the 8 would be a 10 and all the tens would be strong tens.
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### Author:  [@Oregon\_sunshine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oregon_sunshine)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/4 "2005-01-05T19:45:20Z")
Aren’t there any of these with three people in them?
::runs away::
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### Author:  [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/5 "2005-01-05T20:30:20Z")
Bisexual woman.
10 As a man, anally penetrating another man,
10 As a man, being anally penetrated by another man,
10 As a man, getting oral sex from another man,
10 As a man, giving oral sex to another man,
0 As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman,
0 As a man, anally penetrating a woman,
0 As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on,
0 As a man, getting oral sex from a woman,
0 As a man, giving oral sex to a woman,
0 As a woman, anally penetrating a man using a strap on,
8 As a woman, being anally penetrated by a man,
10 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a man,
8 As a woman, getting oral sex from a man,
10 As a woman, giving oral sex to a man,
0 As a woman, analy penetrating a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being analy penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
2 As a woman, getting oral sex from a woman,
0 As a woman, giving oral sex to a woman.
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/6 "2005-01-05T20:39:44Z")
**Bippy** , I thought about answering your poll but this is way TMI for me to share with a bunch of strangers. I just wanted to let you know I didn’t think your thread was bad or anything.
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### Author:  [@El\_Kabong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Kabong)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/7 "2005-01-05T20:51:01Z")
Sorry; some people who read this board know who I am IRL, so, uh, just put me down as 10 for everything. That oughtta keep 'em talking.
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/8 "2005-01-05T21:01:38Z")
Hope no-one is deeply disappointed in me for this…
Zero’s for any guy/guy stuff.
Zero’s for anything having to do with my anus.
High 10’s for the rest.
Yeah, I’m a typical boring heterosexual male but in some ways I envy my best friend who is bi. His chances of getting laid double in almost any social setting. :rolleyes:
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### Author:  [@rowe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rowe)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/9 "2005-01-05T21:03:16Z")
Male Heterosexual
0 As a man, anally penetrating another man,
0 As a man, being anally penetrated by another man,
0 As a man, getting oral sex from another man,
0 As a man, giving oral sex to another man,
10 As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman,
6 As a man, anally penetrating a woman,
0 As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on,
10 As a man, getting oral sex from a woman,
10 As a man, giving oral sex to a woman,
0 As a woman, anally penetrating a man using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being anally penetrated by a man,
0 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a man,
0 As a woman, getting oral sex from a man,
0 As a woman, giving oral sex to a man,
0 As a woman, analy penetrating a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being analy penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, getting oral sex from a woman,
0 As a woman, giving oral sex to a woman.
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### Author:  [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/10 "2005-01-05T21:20:27Z")
Surprised few people fantasize (or admit to fantasizing) about sexualities other than their own basic sexuality. Don’t people fantasize about doing all sorts of things they would never ever consider doing in real life even if they got the chance to do it in real life?
And part of the clause
> [@](#):
>
> The fantasy would otherwise be as contrived and to your own liking as you wish
includes being able to consider multiple other people/animals/toys/goats being involved within the same fantasy.
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### Author:  [@torie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/torie)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/11 "2005-01-05T21:25:56Z")
Straight woman
0 As a man, anally penetrating another man,
0 As a man, being anally penetrated by another man,
0 As a man, getting oral sex from another man,
0 As a man, giving oral sex to another man,
0 As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman,
0 As a man, anally penetrating a woman,
0 As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on,
0 As a man, getting oral sex from a woman,
0 As a man, giving oral sex to a woman,
0 As a woman, anally penetrating a man using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being anally penetrated by a man,
8 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a man,
10 As a woman, getting oral sex from a man,
5 As a woman, giving oral sex to a man,
0 As a woman, analy penetrating a woman using a strap on,
0 As a woman, being analy penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
5 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
10 As a woman, getting oral sex from a woman,
10 As a woman, giving oral sex to a woman.
hmmmm…now I realize how strange I am
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/12 "2005-01-05T21:28:04Z")
> [@Bippy the Beardless](#):
>
> And part of the clause
> includes being able to consider multiple other people/toys being involved within the same fantasy.
At the risk of sounding like I’m bragging… some of us have had the good fortune to… ummm… realize a fantasy or three… 😃
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### Author:  [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/13 "2005-01-05T21:44:01Z")
Straight male:
> [@Bippy the Beardless](#):
>
> 0 As a man, anally penetrating another man,
> 0 As a man, being anally penetrated by another man,
> 0 As a man, getting oral sex from another man,
> 0 As a man, giving oral sex to another man,
> 10 As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman,
> 0 As a man, anally penetrating a woman,
> 0 As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on,
> 2 As a man, getting oral sex from a woman,
> 5 As a man, giving oral sex to a woman,
> 0 As a woman, anally penetrating a man using a strap on,
> 0 As a woman, being anally penetrated by a man,
> 8 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a man,
> 2 As a woman, getting oral sex from a man,
> 1 As a woman, giving oral sex to a man,
> 0 As a woman, analy penetrating a woman using a strap on,
> 0 As a woman, being analy penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
> 0 As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a woman using a strap on,
> 0 As a woman, getting oral sex from a woman,
> 0 As a woman, giving oral sex to a woman.
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### Author:  [@LifeOnWry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LifeOnWry)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/14 "2005-01-05T22:19:49Z")
> [@Bippy the Beardless](#):
>
> OK everyone has sexual fantasies (I hope). Often not precisely aligned with our own sexual orientation. Please list your gender and sexual orientation, followed by a score from 0 to 10 of how much you enjoy/have the following fantasies
1.
I have a vivid and active imagination.
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### Author:  [@LifeOnWry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LifeOnWry)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/15 "2005-01-05T22:20:56Z")
:smack:
Primarily hetero female.
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### Author:  [@Loopydude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loopydude)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/16 "2005-01-05T22:37:39Z")
As a man, anally penetrating another man, 0
As a man, being anally penetrated by another man, 0
As a man, getting oral sex from another man, 0
As a man, giving oral sex to another man, 0
As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman, 8
As a man, anally penetrating a woman, 4
As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on, 0
As a man, getting oral sex from a woman, 11
As a man, giving oral sex to a woman, 7
As a woman, anally penetrating a man using a strap on, 0
As a woman, being anally penetrated by a man, 0
As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a man, 0
As a woman, getting oral sex from a man, 0
As a woman, giving oral sex to a man, 0
As a woman, analy penetrating a woman using a strap on, 0
As a woman, being analy penetrated by a woman using a strap on, 0
As a woman, being vaginally penetrated by a woman using a strap on, 0
As a woman, getting oral sex from a woman, 0
As a woman, giving oral sex to a woman 0
Look: I’m not repressed; I’m not a homophobe; I’ve got healthy sexual appetites and all that; I’m just a pretty standard straight guy with a fairly basic repertoire of Things I Dig In Bed. Since you left out girl-girl-guy threesomes, I’m gonna score low on these things…
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### Author:  [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/17 "2005-01-05T22:56:28Z")
I have no fantasies involving me being a woman, and I’ve done all of the other things (come to think of it, I’ve pretty much been able to live out nearly every fantasy I’ve had - some of us are just lucky that way).
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### Author:  [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)
#### Post date: [January 5, 2005, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/18 "2005-01-05T23:17:28Z")
0: As a man, anally penetrating another man,
0: As a man, being anally penetrated by another man,
0: As a man, getting oral sex from another man,
0: As a man, giving oral sex to another man,
10: As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman,
9: As a man, anally penetrating a woman,
5: As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on,
10:As a man, getting oral sex from a woman,
9: As a man, giving oral sex to a woman,
Not a woman, and don’t fantasize about being one.
You left out all the interesting permutations of more than 2 people… most of my fantasies usually involve several people. And… you left out any kind of mention of bondage, submission, domination, etc… which I imagine figures into LOTS of fantasies.
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### Author:  [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)
#### Post date: [January 6, 2005, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/19 "2005-01-06T00:35:29Z")
> [@bump](#):
>
> You left out all the interesting permutations of more than 2 people… most of my fantasies usually involve several people. And… you left out any kind of mention of bondage, submission, domination, etc… which I imagine figures into LOTS of fantasies.
Well those are implied by the “The fantasy would otherwise be as contrived and to your own liking as you wish”.
So do you ‘very straight’ men never fantasize about sex with a group of women and men involved? No bondage whilst Cindi Crawford whips, and Richard Gere sucks (with or without hamster insertions)? No being captured by pirates both male and female and strapped to the “yard arm” for amusement of the crew?
Maybe I am more pervy than average. Don’t you have any submissive type fantasies involve being forced to do things with someone of the inappropriate gender? Don’t you have dominating style fantasies involving doing things to sex slaves of an inapropriate sexuality or gender just because as their master/mistress you can?
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### Author:  [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)
#### Post date: [January 6, 2005, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-sexual-fantasy-ranking/283245/20 "2005-01-06T00:42:46Z")
Bisexual male:
As a man, anally penetrating another man: 8
As a man, being anally penetrated by another man: 9
As a man, getting oral sex from another man: 8
As a man, giving oral sex to another man: 8
As a man, vaginally penetrating a woman: 10
As a man, anally penetrating a woman: 10
As a man, being anally penetrated by woman with a strap on: 10
As a man, getting oral sex from a woman: 10
As a man, giving oral sex to a woman: 8
I can’t remember ever having fantasized about being a woman other than the idle “I’d masturbate all day if I were a chick” fantasy talks.
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