# Poll: Thoughts of sex with acquaintances **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 5, 2006, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128 "2006-02-05T19:11:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Stuffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f17d59/32.png) [@Stuffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stuffy)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/61 "2006-02-07T04:59:31Z")
Male - G I mean really besides acquaintances there are the women on TV, the women in movies, that girl that just walked by the window, cartoon characters… ---
**Author:** ![roger\_thornhill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d9b06d/32.png) [@roger\_thornhill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roger_thornhill)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/62 "2006-02-07T05:09:55Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > To some degree it is disturbing, knowing that everyone who has met your wife has thought about this. I’d be more disturbed if they weren’t thinking this. Put me down as a b). ---
**Author:** ![Sleel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/73ab20/32.png) [@Sleel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleel)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/63 "2006-02-07T05:57:30Z")
Male: C. Like many others, I’d like to choose a bit lower on the scale. Yes, I do go through an evaluation in my mind about nearly every woman I meet. And some guys too. ---
**Author:** ![monica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a183cd/32.png) [@monica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monica)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 5:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/64 "2006-02-07T05:59:04Z")
Female, C. Sometimes it’s just a very fleeting thought, but it does happen. ---
**Author:** ![AndrewL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3d9bf3/32.png) [@AndrewL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AndrewL)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/65 "2006-02-07T14:35:52Z")
I am completely unsuprised at the near-unanimous response of option C from the men. It’s about what I’d expect. I am slightly suprised at the number of women who answered C. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/66 "2006-02-07T15:28:47Z")
Male, b. Natural horniness ground down by an awareness that it just ain’t gonna happen. ---
**Author:** ![Who\_me\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/958977/32.png) [@Who\_me\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Who_me_1)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/67 "2006-02-07T15:54:10Z")
Male: (B) I’m just way too picky… although it would have been a (C) when I worked part time at a strip club. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![BluePitbull](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e9bcb4/32.png) [@BluePitbull](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BluePitbull)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/68 "2006-02-07T16:19:30Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > a) Less than one or two. > b) With a few of them > c) With most of them Male, B) ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/69 "2006-02-07T16:25:18Z")
Female, extraordinarily C. ---
**Author:** ![Charger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df788c/32.png) [@Charger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Charger)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/70 "2006-02-07T17:07:03Z")
I think there are many more men like me (I’m that one guy who said “a.”), but the pressure to remain a closeted “don’t-think-about-sex-much” guy is pretty intense. We even refer to those with sexful thoughts as “liberated,” implying that those of us who don’t think about sex often as “oppressed.” For me, I enjoy being able to focus on other things, which always seemed kind of natural. Maybe I just don’t have as high of testosterone levels as other guys, which might explain the lack of chest hair and my silky soft skin. Why do I feel like breaking into “Why Am I Such a Misfit?” ---
**Author:** ![6\_6\_6](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e0b2c6/32.png) [@6\_6\_6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6_6_6)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/71 "2006-02-07T17:45:46Z")
Male - c Would probably be a “d” if you gave us that option! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![6\_6\_6](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e0b2c6/32.png) [@6\_6\_6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6_6_6)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/72 "2006-02-07T17:48:42Z")
> [@6 6 6](#): > > d On preview, I see I’m not the first to say that. ---
**Author:** ![mazinger\_z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5f9b8f/32.png) [@mazinger\_z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mazinger_z)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/73 "2006-02-07T18:22:54Z")
> [@polerius](#): > > Consider the number of people from the opposite sex you have met more that a few times: acquaintances, colleagues, etc. > > With how many of them has the thought of sex with them crossed your mind? > [@AndrewL](#): > > I am completely unsuprised at the near-unanimous response of option C from the men. It’s about what I’d expect. > > I am slightly suprised at the number of women who answered C. First off c), male, in general. With this latest gf, I tend more towards a). The girl has to be able to beat my gf on a quick once over before I let my thoughts linger over there. And, here is where I think **AndrewL** won’t be as suprised: Change the question to: With how many of them has the thought of sex crossed your mind and consider the frequency, intensity, and duration, daily, then tell me how often (sorry that’s poorly worded, hopefuly you all get my meaning). When I’m single, especially when I’m tooling around in the city, the answer is quite clearly c), which is understandable. But, then, think of what we guys are like in the office. I work with a bunch of lawyers and higher level execs. We’re supposed to set examples and provide leadership. Guess what I’m thinking about: during a slow meeting; on the phone; walking down the hall to the bathroom; in the elevator; at the water fountain; etc. These are not fleeting glimpses. For most guys, I’d wager, it’s pretty graphic and pretty intense, not so for most women. Look at the replies in this thread for anecdotal evidence. ---
**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/74 "2006-02-07T18:24:36Z")
> [@Stuffy](#): > > Male - G I mean really besides acquaintances there are the women on TV, the women in movies, that girl that just walked by the window, cartoon characters… [red dwarf] I’d **go** with Betty, but I’d be thinking of Wilma! [/rd] ---
**Author:** ![Uncommon\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Uncommon\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncommon_Sense)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/75 "2006-02-07T18:39:10Z")
Male, A). ---
**Author:** ![Uncommon\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Uncommon\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncommon_Sense)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/76 "2006-02-07T18:40:14Z")
Just kidding, Q). :eek: ---
**Author:** ![HMS\_Irruncible](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hms_irruncible/32/7394_2.png) [@HMS\_Irruncible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HMS_Irruncible)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/77 "2006-02-07T18:40:32Z")
> [@AndrewL](#): > > I am completely unsuprised at the near-unanimous response of option C from the men. It’s about what I’d expect. > > I am slightly suprised at the number of women who answered C. It’s useful to remember in these things that a female “c” is a lot more hypothetical than the male “c” probably is. Really, the male options should have been restricted to C through E, and the female should have been A through C or possibly D. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/78 "2006-02-07T18:59:11Z")
Female, C ---
**Author:** ![Hampshire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hampshire/32/4887_2.png) [@Hampshire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hampshire)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/79 "2006-02-07T20:04:03Z")
Male, pretty much any female acquaintance that I find attractive. With the exception of relatives. I won’t let my mind wander there. Everything else is fair game. ---
**Author:** ![YaWanna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/bbce88/32.png) [@YaWanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YaWanna)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2006, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128/80 "2006-02-07T20:11:49Z")
Female (over 40): A. When I was in my 20’s, my answer would have been C. Not that you asked. 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-thoughts-of-sex-with-acquaintances/343128.md?page=5)