# Polls only: No discussion **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 1, 2021, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/polls-only-no-discussion/953642 "2021-11-01T18:21:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 6630
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2026, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/polls-only-no-discussion/953642/6630 "2026-03-12T15:35:45Z")
> [@What is a "lie" in a relationship?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-a-lie-in-a-relationship/1028380/5): > > The personal/professional “bleedthrough” on Blue Bloods was simultaneously one of the most captivating things about the show as well as one of the most aggravating. The Jamie/Eddie dynamic was over-the-top obnoxious and not typical of what people encounter in real life. So I don’t think an example from that show does justice to the OP’s provocative and worthy-of-discussion thread title. I’m not someone who is committed to no-holds-barred 100% truthfulness and transparency in any one situation… > [@What is a "lie" in a relationship?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-a-lie-in-a-relationship/1028380/5): > > I’m thinking of an episode of M_A_S_H_ where BJ has a one-night dalliance with one of the nurses and he immediately wants to sit down and write a letter to his wife Peg back home and confess **to make himself feel better.** Hawkeye talks him out of it. BJ’s penance is to live with this secret and not seek absolution at the cost of his wife’s broken heart. Maybe he will confess sometime in the future after he is back home. Or maybe not. > > That’s why they call it being _grown up._ Read the rest of the discussion as the pros and cons of telling the spouse in question are gone over in depth. Note he almost cheated with ANOTHER woman, a war correspondent played by Susan St. James. [![](https://img.youtube.com/vi/eY5bWYQc47s/maxresdefault.jpg "Mash- Hawkeye and BJ Talk about Carrie") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eY5bWYQc47s) _Poll ([view on site](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/polls-only-no-discussion/953642/6630))_ [There are other vids on YT from this ep. but don’t want to tempt the wrath of the No Embeddeds Discourse Ghod.] --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/polls-only-no-discussion/953642)._