# Poor email etiquette or avoidance?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
**Created:** [October 28, 2005, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344 "2005-10-28T18:23:20Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/1 "2005-10-28T18:23:20Z")
Okay you know-it-alls… 'splain this to me.
A new friend and I exchange emails daily. Usually a couple or so. Nothing heavy, just “Hey! What’s up?” or “G’night. Talk to you tomorrow.” Every now and then I’ll ask a question like… “So how was your dinner out last night?” or “What have you got going on Friday evening?”. Eight times out of ten, these kinds of questions go unacknowledged let alone unanswered. What’s up with that?
I mean, this is a person who claims to have a romantic interest in me. Calls me almost daily. Emails me. Volunteers pretty intimate business and financial details of her life. Asks me for my opinions. I mean, we’ve snogged fer chrisssakes. Exchanged spit and everything.
I’m not thinking anything sinister is up. I think it’s more like a reluctance to answer questions because they may lead to… what? I don’t know?.. It’s not like I’m asking her to go steady and forsake all others. We are just scratching the surface here. Is it fear of commitment? Lack of attention to detail? Poor email manners? Some kind of affliction that makes one treat all written questions as being rhetorical? … What?
I’m a bit annoyed, I can tell you. :dubious:
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/2 "2005-10-28T18:27:21Z")
Well, it would be helpful if you’d at least tell us what kind of car she drives.
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/3 "2005-10-28T18:46:49Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#):
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> Well, it would be helpful if you’d at least tell us what kind of car she drives.
Fucking comedian in every bunch… :mad: 😃 :wally
…just answer the bloody question, okay!
\ lotus \
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### Author:  [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/4 "2005-10-28T18:50:50Z")
Do you discuss this daily minutae over the phone?
Maybe she is just leaving these details out because she wants phone topics. I have been known to make a “mental list” of things I want to talk about on the phone - not heavy topics, just stuff I want to tell my guy about my day.
If it all gets said in email well then I just sound like a boring idiot on the phone.
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### Author:  [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/5 "2005-10-28T18:51:23Z")
I fucked a comedian once, back when it was fashionable.
What, this isn’t the “hijack this thread” thread?
No really, this isn’t accidental. The ones she’s not responding to are not being responded to quite deliberately. Anything at all that might go on to a discussion of the ‘couple-ness’ of you is being obliterated.
Maybe she needs another good snogging? That’s what I think. 😉
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/6 "2005-10-28T18:58:59Z")
> [@mr bus guy](#):
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> I fucked a comedian once, back when it was fashionable.
Easily in the top ten of all time for opening lines in a post. LOL! 😃
> [@mr bus guy](#):
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> Anything at all that might go on to a discussion of the ‘couple-ness’ of you is being obliterated.
It’s true then, we (almost always) already know the answers we seek.
> [@mr bus guy](#):
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> Maybe she needs another good snogging? That’s what I think. 😉
Don’t we all. 😉
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/7 "2005-10-28T19:03:46Z")
> [@mr bus guy](#):
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> Maybe she needs another good snogging? That’s what I think. 😉
If she’s not interested, and if snogging means what I think it means (damn Canucks) then I’m game.
And just so this post isn’t entirely flirting, yes she’s avoiding those topics. I am ashamed and embarrassed to admit I’ve done it, too…but usually people will just flat-out call me on it.
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/8 "2005-10-28T19:07:02Z")
Sounds like she’s a well-disguised dominatrix.
No wait! Hear me out on this!
Could it be that she’s doing what she can to **control** the flow of information? Not in an effort to be deceptive, necessarily, but to minimize ripples in what could possibly be a highly organized and structured existence over which she exercises 100% control? I hear certain high-end British sports cars are noted for their handling, the control so to speak, the driver feels over the object that gets them where they’re going. Which is to say: “There.” Do any of her cars have a cupholder armrest by any chance?
Only being partly silly. Maybe she’s not big on sharing control. Also, if I were a dating man, and I’m not–more of a sniper than a Thompson gunner, personally–I might feel a little :dubious: about a recent development taking a notable interest in my own dating achievements.
But I’m prolly way off base.
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/9 "2005-10-28T19:22:43Z")
Y’all probably right and I’ve called bullshit a few times. To her credit she owns up or claims she’s pondering. I don’t ask twice though. Maybe I’m not that interested in the answers either. :dubious:
Fuck it anyway for tonight. I’m prolly having ex-sex this evening. Not ex-wife, ya mongrells! Lola. The most recent and highly memorable ex-gf. 🆒
Just thought I’d brag. It’s been months. I think we’re both overdue. 😃
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/10 "2005-10-28T19:47:51Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#):
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> Not in an effort to be deceptive, necessarily, but to minimize ripples in what could possibly be a highly organized and structured existence over which she exercises 100% control? I hear certain high-end British sports cars are noted for their handling, the control so to speak, the driver feels over the object that gets them where they’re going. Which is to say: “There.” Do any of her cars have a cupholder armrest by any chance?
I liked you better when you were being a smart ass. :dubious:
Yeah, we’ve had talks. Her sports cars are all about an effort to control something dangerous. Having control. Losing control. It’s all a tightly wrapped white knuckle ride.
I think Offspring said it best: “_Man, she’s got issues and I’m gonna pay…_”
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/11 "2005-10-28T19:53:54Z")
> [@Anaamika](#):
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> If she’s not interested, and if snogging means what I think it means (damn Canucks) then I’m game.
snogging = kissing/necking
But hell, for all you knew… 😉 … now you gotta doooo it! I’m gonna hold you toooo it! 😃
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### Author:  [@lorinada](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorinada)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/12 "2005-10-28T19:58:01Z")
Maybe she’s like me - I’m a little ADD when it comes to email. Sometimes I’ll get a mail asking three questions. I only remember to answer two of them.
Sometimes I go through my mail, but since I’m tired I only read them, intending to actually answer them later. Well, then I forget about them until several days go by and I notice with horror I still have 30 read mails sitting in my inbox. By then several days have gone by and I don’t really see the use of answering the more trivial mails.
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/13 "2005-10-28T20:17:14Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#):
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> I’m prolly having ex-sex this evening. Not ex-wife, ya mongrells! Lola. The most recent and highly memorable ex-gf.
Dude.
Lola? L-O-L-A, Lola?
La-la-la-la-Lo la-ha…?
:eek: :eek: :eek:
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/14 "2005-10-28T20:35:33Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#):
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> Dude.
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> Lola? L-O-L-A, Lola?
> La-la-la-la-Lo la-ha…?
Yeah, Lola. Blonde. 5’5". 105 lb. Great ass. Likes girls. Lola.
You know her?
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### Author:  [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/15 "2005-10-28T20:37:46Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#):
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> Yeah, Lola. Blonde. 5’5". 105 lb. Great ass. Likes girls. Lola.
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> You know her?
Except for the height, weight, gender, hair color, and ass-ness, she sounds just like me. Lola and me, we’re two of a kind.
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/16 "2005-10-28T20:43:25Z")
Hey… **QuickSilver** knows what his is and he’s glad he’s a man. And so is Lola.
😃
Or is this a different Lola? The one who was a showgirl…?
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/17 "2005-10-28T20:43:27Z")
> [@mr bus guy](#):
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> Except for the height, weight, gender, hair color, and ass-ness, she sounds just like me. Lola and me, we’re two of a kind.
So you getting ready to jump out of the closet and declare you’re lesbian trapped in a man’s body? Is that what you’re saying?
\*Jesus, I’m giddy this afternoon. I seem to have recovered with a vengence from that 48 hour cancer earlier in the week. \*
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/18 "2005-10-28T20:48:34Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#):
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> Hey… **QuickSilver** knows what his is and he’s glad he’s a man. And so is Lola.
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> 😃
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> Or is this a different Lola? The one who was a showgirl…?
Nah man, naaah… she don’t walk that way… this Lola is the girl who stands by the stage just a-shakin’ her ass. The one that gives love on an elevator.
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/19 "2005-10-28T20:52:15Z")
Oh. I thought she was Lola Granola.
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2005, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poor-email-etiquette-or-avoidance/328344/20 "2005-10-28T20:54:14Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#):
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> Nah man, naaah… she don’t walk that way… this Lola is the girl who stands by the stage just a-shakin’ her ass. The one that gives love on an elevator.
Oh! I see.
Back! Back!..
too easy, man. 😉
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