# Porn question I may regret asking **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 3, 2010, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452 "2010-09-03T00:44:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/41 "2010-09-03T13:56:49Z")
> [@Chronos](#): > > But wouldn’t it make it harder to identify with his penis if said penis is freakishly large? Not for me. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8c91f0/32.png) [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bam_Boo_Gut)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/42 "2010-09-03T14:49:52Z")
I’m hoping for a reasonably sized and/or feasibly sized porno backlash. I find these huge dongs a bit disconcerting and end up making silly jokes and can’t take it seriously. I’m more of a nice and easy than an ouch and squeezy kind of girl and it seems no one is catering to my reasonably sized fetish. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/43 "2010-09-03T15:09:30Z")
I think a lot of it is imagining yourself having that big of a dick, but also, a lot of straight guys (myself included) are turned on by seeing big cocks. Dan Savage calls it being “gay from the waist down” or something like that. . It’s hard to explain why they turn me on but they do. I don’t consider myself bi because I don’t have any desire to actually play with one, and I have zero attraction what the penis is attached to (I prefer to never see a male pornstar’s face during a scene), but I do enjoy watching a big cock at work. I’ve heard this is pretty common and is a big reason why porn movies for straight men feature so much cock. ---
**Author:** ![Fried\_Dough\_Ho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a88e57/32.png) [@Fried\_Dough\_Ho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fried_Dough_Ho)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/44 "2010-09-03T15:26:49Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > Actually, not only are we women working on our grocery lists while having sex, we’re also wondering what color to repaint the walls of the room and pondering the weather. You’re just not supposed to know we’re multitasking. High-Five, Sistah! :D:D:D ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/45 "2010-09-03T17:11:08Z")
I think that the “identifying with the guy” explanation is the most plausible one I’ve read so far. But I think there might be another reason: A big penis just “reads” better on screen. Just like (legit) actresses need to be super thin just to look normal, because the camera adds 10 pounds. Video is not reality, and distorts everything a little, so certain traits need to be exaggerated just to look right. ---
**Author:** ![PookahMacPhellimey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pookahmacphellimey/32/3175_2.png) [@PookahMacPhellimey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PookahMacPhellimey)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/46 "2010-09-03T17:27:23Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > I think that the “identifying with the guy” explanation is the most plausible one I’ve read so far. But I think there might be another reason: A big penis just “reads” better on screen. Just like (legit) actresses need to be super thin just to look normal, because the camera adds 10 pounds. Video is not reality, and distorts everything a little, so certain traits need to be exaggerated just to look right. Aha, I see. They really have quite small dicks, but the cameras has added ten pounds to them. :eek:😃 ---
**Author:** ![descamisado](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@descamisado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/descamisado)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/47 "2010-09-03T17:35:44Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > I think that the “identifying with the guy” explanation is the most plausible one I’ve read so far. But I think there might be another reason: A big penis just “reads” better on screen. Just like (legit) actresses need to be super thin just to look normal, because the camera adds 10 pounds. Video is not reality, and distorts everything a little, so certain traits need to be exaggerated just to look right. Wow, a 10 lb-plus penis; I’ll be in my bunk. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/48 "2010-09-03T17:39:55Z")
> [@descamisado](#): > > > [@tdn](#): > > > > I think that the “identifying with the guy” explanation is the most plausible one I’ve read so far. But I think there might be another reason: A big penis just “reads” better on screen. Just like (legit) actresses need to be super thin just to look normal, because the camera adds 10 pounds. Video is not reality, and distorts everything a little, so certain traits need to be exaggerated just to look right. > > Wow, a 10 lb-plus penis; I’ll be in my bunk. And I’ll be in therapy. ---
**Author:** ![mhendo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mhendo/32/3159_2.png) [@mhendo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mhendo)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/49 "2010-09-03T18:37:10Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > I think that the “identifying with the guy” explanation is the most plausible one I’ve read so far. But I think there might be another reason: A big penis just “reads” better on screen. Just like (legit) actresses need to be super thin just to look normal, because the camera adds 10 pounds. Video is not reality, and distorts everything a little, so certain traits need to be exaggerated just to look right. I think this is crap. Actresses don’t “need” to be super thin just to look normal. In fact, it’s very clear to me, when i see them on TV, that plenty of actresses are seriously on the skinny side. I can’t count the number of times i’ve seen popular, successful actresses on TV or in a movie and thought, “Jesus, she could do with putting on a few pounds,” or “Her arms are so damn skinny.” ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/50 "2010-09-03T19:55:34Z")
> [@mhendo](#): > > I think this is crap. I didn’t say that there are no actresses on TV who look skinny. But it’s often said that the camera adds 10 pounds, and whether or not that’s true, I’m quite sure that some things read in different ways onscreen than they do in real life. I’ve seen some porn in which the guy probably had a pretty average sized penis but becuse of the medium he came off as practically castrated. ---
**Author:** ![heathen\_earthling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/13edae/32.png) [@heathen\_earthling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/heathen_earthling)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/51 "2010-09-03T21:15:29Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > It’s hard to explain why they turn me on but they do. I don’t consider myself bi because I don’t have any desire to actually play with one, and I have zero attraction what the penis is attached to (I prefer to never see a male pornstar’s face during a scene), but I do enjoy watching a big cock at work. Evolutionary hypothesis: Getting a bit turned on makes your own penis bigger, which in caveman social world may have allowed you to more effectively defend your own status/mate in the presence of such big-penised competitors. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/52 "2010-09-04T01:50:04Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > I think a lot of it is imagining yourself having that big of a dick, but also, a lot of straight guys (myself included) are turned on by seeing big cocks. Dan Savage calls it being “gay from the waist down” or something like that. . > > It’s hard to explain why they turn me on but they do. I don’t consider myself bi because I don’t have any desire to actually play with one, and I have zero attraction what the penis is attached to (I prefer to never see a male pornstar’s face during a scene), but I do enjoy watching a big cock at work. > > I’ve heard this is pretty common and is a big reason why porn movies for straight men feature so much cock. My pet theory on this (and I could be wrong, it’s just my explanation) is thus: In many animals species (not just mammals but others like reptiles, birds, fish, etc.) the males engage in displays that are directed not just towards females but also towards other males. The male-to-male displays are not (in heterosexual males) meant to solicit sex, of course, but they are integral to courtship and mating. They are associated with states of arousal. Could it be that human males also, to some degree, engage in sexual displays not only towards females but also towards other males? And that, prior to civilization and lots of clothing, the penis was part of those displays? It would certainly explain some of the oneupmanship and dick-measuring contests that go on. So, men displaying their penises may be arousing to other men not because they want sex with men but because of the strong association of penises with YAY HAPPY FUN TIME ORGY SEX SEX SEX. When the penises come out men are going to get some! Yay! So it’s exciting the same way having guys suit up for football on your team is - not because you’re going to be tackling your teammates, but because you’re all about to go tackle someone else. You’re all on the same team. And when it comes to sex, you want to be on the Big Penis Team, right? Right? ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2010, 7:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/53 "2010-09-04T07:53:35Z")
I think the average size looks quite average myself. Although that’s not the part of the porn I pay attention to. But really, the actors themselves must do some self-selection. If you have a small dick, you’re less likely to be considering porn as a career. No? ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2010, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/54 "2010-09-06T07:46:42Z")
Ah, my first post on The Straight Dope, and I think I picked a good one. I am no porn expert, however, I have been watching some with my lover lately, quite enjoyable and entertaining I must add…and yes, I noticed that most, if not all men have larger than average cocks. I really didn’t give it much thought passed that though. I think it would put a damper on things to start analyzing such trivial matters while I’m in the moment. Astro, I must comment on your post. Talking from experience and having had small, medium and large, I TRULY believe that it’s what a man does with it and how imaginative he is as a sexual partner that counts and what makes sex great or just…OK. Size (to me at least) has little - no pun intended…relevance. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2010, 8:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/55 "2010-09-06T08:08:07Z")
> [@lacortadora](#): > > Ah, my first post on The Straight Dope, and I think I picked a good one. I am no porn expert, however, I have been watching some with my lover lately, quite enjoyable and entertaining I must add…and yes, I noticed that most, if not all men have larger than average cocks. I really didn’t give it much thought passed that though. I think it would put a damper on things to start analyzing such trivial matters while I’m in the moment. I’ll have you know that penis size is no trivial matter. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2010, 10:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/56 "2010-09-06T10:57:10Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > > [@TriPolar](#): > > > > And what kind of woman would be sexually attracted to a small penis? Is this one of those gag threads? > > Internet rule #34 - I am certain there is a group of people with small penis fetish out there. > > More commonly, though, I’d guess that it is something _else_ in the man the woman is attracted to and a small penis is just part of the overall package Plus many women are not necessarily attracted by small dicks, but are revolted by overlarge ones. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2010, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/57 "2010-09-06T19:04:51Z")
Not having read the whole thread… I am straight, married, and like porn. I enjoy seeing a woman’s vagina somewhat stretched, or at least looking “filled” by a thick penis. Dunno why, it’s a visceral reaction. It’s the look of the vagina as the penis is being withdrawn that I like best. Did I really post that? Joe ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2010, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/58 "2010-09-06T19:45:10Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > I think a lot of it is imagining yourself having that big of a dick, but also, a lot of straight guys (myself included) are turned on by seeing big cocks. Dan Savage calls it being “gay from the waist down” or something like that. . > > It’s hard to explain why they turn me on but they do. I don’t consider myself bi because I don’t have any desire to actually play with one, and I have zero attraction what the penis is attached to (I prefer to never see a male pornstar’s face during a scene), but I do enjoy watching a big cock at work. > > I’ve heard this is pretty common and is a big reason why porn movies for straight men feature so much cock. Also, all the phallic architecture. Seriously, I’m not sure there’s much more to this than men being obsessed with cock. The more, the merrier. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2010, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/59 "2010-09-06T20:04:52Z")
> [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](#): > > I’m hoping for a reasonably sized and/or feasibly sized porno backlash. I find these huge dongs a bit disconcerting and end up making silly jokes and can’t take it seriously. I’m more of a nice and easy than an ouch and squeezy kind of girl and it seems no one is catering to my reasonably sized fetish. Of course there is a huge variance here between each woman and what she’s attracted to, but for me? Turning on a porno and seeing a guy with a 4 or 5 inch cock causes the same reaction it does in RL— let down. Is that fair of me? Na. Do I think porn has to have 10 inch cocks to be sexy? No. But the reality is that I think that given the choice, most women would happily choose a nice thick 7 or 8 inch cock over the 5 inch average any day. I lean more toward 8 or 9, personally, but whatever. > [@kanicbird](#): > > I would WAG it has something to do with a subtle form of putting down women, they just have to accept anything being put into them no matter how big and like it. I’ve never felt put down any time I’ve fucked guys with big dicks. YMMV of course. Oh, and to the OP: I’m sure it’s part visual thing, but also- as mentioned- a filming thing. Fact is, fucking a big dick allows for more positions and withdrawl from the orifice partially for camera shots. Hell, even in RL, being on top is more fun with a bigger dick, just because it isn’t constantly flopping out. Come to think of it, I hate that in porn-- when the guy has a smaller dick (porn smaller, of course heh) and constantly is having to stick it back in while he’s furiously humping. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2010, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452/60 "2010-09-07T17:48:01Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > … > > > [@kanicbird](#): > > > > I would WAG it has something to do with a subtle form of putting down women, they just have to accept anything being put into them no matter how big and like it. > > I’ve never felt put down any time I’ve fucked guys with big dicks. YMMV of course. > > … I’ve never felt anything but \*\* blissfull \*\* and as soon as I read that post, before I even saw who posted it, I though, “Only a male would say something like that.” Umm … it feels good when it’s big, dude. I never thought I’d have to point that out. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-question-i-may-regret-asking/552452.md?page=4)