# Porn....what is it good for? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 1, 2006, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814 "2006-08-01T01:21:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/21 "2006-08-02T00:33:37Z")
Ignore robardin. There are those like me who have massive collections and others who have a few favorites. My roommate and I are both picky about the types of porn we like and we have very different viewing habbits. If I download a porn video, I will watch it like I would a regular movie. If it appeals to me, I will keep it, if not, then I will delete it. Most of the stuff I come across does not appeal to me, so I don’t bother keeping it. Why keep stuff I’m never going to watch again? My roommate will skip around when watching her videos. She will download a video, skip through out it, maybe watching a minute of an hour+ video. If she likes what she sees, then she will keep the video to watch at a later date, if it doesn’t appeal to her, then she will just delete it. It’s perfectly normal to view porn, even while having a healthy sexual relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/96bed5/32.png) [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patty_O_Furniture)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/22 "2006-08-02T00:45:56Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#): > > Proper use of porn involves using every bit of it. Even the squeal. You misspelled “sequel”. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/23 "2006-08-02T00:50:15Z")
> [@Larry Mudd](#): > > Anyway, my GF asked to borrow some porn a while back, so I made my small but rather specialized collection available to her. If anything in there comes up in the bedroom at any point in the future, I will laugh my _ass_ off. (Hmmm, maybe this comment is better suited to the “fantasy vs. real-life desires” thread…) This strikes me as mean. What if she watched and was trying to please you and wore a similiar outfit or did something she saw on your porn? Why is that fuel for laughter? Unless you’re porn deals with such far out stuff (no, no, don’t share it with us!) that it would be implausible to replicate in RL. I have never tried to emulate any woman I’ve seen in a porn film, but seriously, how is this different than you wearing that cologne she gave you because she thinks it smells nice or similiar? laugh at her? and you want to get intimate? I don’t get it. It strikes me as mean–and a bar to intimacy and /or sex. I prefer erotica, not porn(written, not filmed) but sometimes, depending on my energy level and my self esteem, I struggle with my husband’s porn. I’ll never be into it–a tolerance is all I can muster. Strangley enough, I always like to read the Penthouse Forum as a teen–but the pics, meh. That’s just personal preference. To the OP, I say ask him about it, if you can in a way that doesn’t create defensiveness. And, as you’re sick of hearing by now–try to make sex fun again for the two of you. Sorry, lecture over. Good luck with all of this. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![SmartAleq](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smartaleq/32/163_2.png) [@SmartAleq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmartAleq)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/24 "2006-08-02T06:20:03Z")
Eh, all guys check out porn–it means they’re alive. I only get pissy about it when I can’t listen to Pandora and all MY downloads are choking out because HE’s got fifteen different DVD length midget fourteen year old bondage cheerleader anal creampie videos downloading. Hey, have your habits by all means, dude, but DON’T step on my goddamned bandwidth! When stuff like this occurs I go right on over to his computer and hit “delete torrent AND data” which usually gets the hint across. If the files are more than 85% complete it just drives the nail home with greater firmness. I’m gone all day at work, and when I get home I expect some wide open cablemodem action, baybee! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Uzi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/91b2a8/32.png) [@Uzi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uzi)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 7:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/25 "2006-08-02T07:11:26Z")
> [@Lady Venom](#): > > He doesn’t hide stuff from me. Hehe…HeheHAHAHA\HAHAHAHAHAhehehe…hehe…\Oh, Mercy! ---
**Author:** ![Lady\_Venom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9fc348/32.png) [@Lady\_Venom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lady_Venom)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 11:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/26 "2006-08-02T11:03:03Z")
Thanks for all the responses everyone. I talked to him about it last night on the way home from work “Were you downloading something big last night?” I asked. “Yea, porn” We talked a little about it, and ended up having some nice hot sex. 🙂 I was just in a mood and it bugged me. And Uzi…I’m not sure why you’re laughing about me saying he doesn’t hide stuff from me. I don’t know if you have ever been in a happy relationship, but he’s an honest, loving man who doesn’t lie or keep stuff from me. Of course, I offer him the same respect. ---
**Author:** ![Uzi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/91b2a8/32.png) [@Uzi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uzi)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/27 "2006-08-02T11:50:57Z")
> [@Lady Venom](#): > > And Uzi…I’m not sure why you’re laughing about me saying he doesn’t hide stuff from me. I don’t know if you have ever been in a happy relationship, but he’s an honest, loving man who doesn’t lie or keep stuff from me. Sorry, I think I’ve said more than I should have… ---
**Author:** ![D\_Odds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/d_odds/32/2882_2.png) [@D\_Odds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Odds)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 12:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/28 "2006-08-02T12:16:17Z")
> [@SmartAleq](#): > > … fifteen different DVD length midget fourteen year old bondage cheerleader anal creampie videos downloading… Links please… j/k Ok, not really, gimme the links ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/29 "2006-08-02T12:38:06Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#): > > Proper use of porn involves using every bit of it. I heard that’s what the Native Americans do with their porn. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 1:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/30 "2006-08-02T13:24:00Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > This strikes me as mean. What if she watched and was trying to please you and wore a similiar outfit or did something she saw on your porn? […] laugh at her? and you want to get intimate? I don’t get it. It strikes me as mean–and a bar to intimacy and /or sex. I think you misunderstand. I’m not talking about derisive laughter – I’m talking about straightforward laughing because something is _funny_. (Don’t you laugh in the bedroom?) Erm – my porn is mostly Japanese stuff featuring hyper-submissive women that inexplicably have infantile voices. If she adopted the same physical attitude and started talking to me in that high voice she uses in conversation with the cat, I know damned well I would lose my shit. It cracks me up just to hear her squeak “Vousez c’est gross chat-twa!” or whatever – if it was directed at me in bed, it would simply be too funny. There’s nothing mean in laughing at that – it’s a simple acknowledgement that the fantasy convention that works for me is just absurd and nowhere near as sexy as the three-dimensional human being that I love. Come on, porn conventions are hilarious, if you put them in the context of actual sex. I was with a girl once who (out of the blue, long after we were totally comfortable in the bedroom) started imitating that north-american style “angry” porn, grimacing and going “Ooooh, baby, your cock is so biiiiiiiiig!” Damn straight we laughed! That shit is _funny._ 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/31 "2006-08-02T13:25:03Z")
They always say, a couple who can laugh in the bedroom will last a long time and go far. Sex is downright silly when you think about it. ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/32 "2006-08-02T14:59:33Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > They always say, a couple who can laugh in the bedroom will last a long time and go far. Sex is downright silly when you think about it. I don’t think I’ve managed to have a single sex session with my boyfriend during which we haven’t dissolved into giggles. Never laughing _at_ each other, but oh boy do we laugh. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/33 "2006-08-02T15:47:53Z")
> [@Larry Mudd](#): > > I think you misunderstand. I’m not talking about derisive laughter – I’m talking about straightforward laughing because something is _funny_. (Don’t you laugh in the bedroom?) > There’s nothing mean in laughing at that – it’s a simple acknowledgement that the fantasy convention that works for me is just absurd and nowhere near as sexy as the three-dimensional human being that I love. I get it now. Your comment really threw me for a loop, but I can see your point (I’d laugh too). 🙂 I am much more upset about the fact that I used “you’re” instead of “your” in my post to you–the horror! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Lady\_Venom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9fc348/32.png) [@Lady\_Venom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lady_Venom)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2006, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/34 "2006-08-02T17:10:22Z")
> [@Uzi](#): > > Sorry, I think I’ve said more than I should have… Meaning? ---
**Author:** ![Uzi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/91b2a8/32.png) [@Uzi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uzi)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2006, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/35 "2006-08-03T03:24:11Z")
> [@Lady Venom](#): > > Meaning? Meaning that if you are happy it is not up to me to throw my 2 cents in and jam up the works. I’m just a stranger on the internet. What the hell do I know about your situation? Nothing other than what you’ve written. I shouldn’t have made my original comment. ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2006, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/36 "2006-08-03T03:43:21Z")
> [@SmartAleq](#): > > Eh, all guys check out porn–it means they’re alive. I only get pissy about it when I can’t listen to Pandora and all MY downloads are choking out because HE’s got fifteen different DVD length midget fourteen year old bondage cheerleader anal creampie videos downloading. Hey, have your habits by all means, dude, but DON’T step on my goddamned bandwidth! When stuff like this occurs I go right on over to his computer and hit “delete torrent AND data” which usually gets the hint across. If the files are more than 85% complete it just drives the nail home with greater firmness. Funny, it seems like it’d take longer to drive the nail home and with _less_ firmness… (Yes, I do have the sense of humor of a 12-year-old…and I’m not giving it back!) ---
**Author:** ![SmartAleq](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smartaleq/32/163_2.png) [@SmartAleq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmartAleq)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2006, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/37 "2006-08-03T04:12:26Z")
> [@Gozu Tashoya](#): > > Funny, it seems like it’d take longer to drive the nail home and with _less_ firmness… > > (Yes, I do have the sense of humor of a 12-year-old…and I’m not giving it back!) Watch it there, neighbor, we’re in our forties and jokes about driving nails with less firmness are seldom considered funny 'round these parts! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2006, 5:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/38 "2006-08-03T05:53:35Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > I get it now. Your comment really threw me for a loop, but I can see your point (I’d laugh too). 🙂 Women _always_ laugh when they see my point. I’m used to it. ---
**Author:** ![Uzi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/91b2a8/32.png) [@Uzi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uzi)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2006, 6:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814/39 "2006-08-03T06:13:59Z")
> [@Larry Mudd](#): > > Women _always_ laugh when they see my point. I’m used to it. Hehe, I always say to friends that my wife’s nickname for me is ‘Pony boy’… Of course it could be because she considers me full of horseshit. They don’t have to know that, though! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/porn-what-is-it-good-for/366814.md?page=1)