# Possibly getting Divorced: Need advice (issue in op resolved in 2026)

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [June 29, 2024, 9:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice-issue-in-op-resolved-in-2026/1003483 "2024-06-29T09:25:37Z")\
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**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\
**Post date:** [October 11, 2026, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice-issue-in-op-resolved-in-2026/1003483/142 "2026-10-11T22:15:21Z")

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> [@Ryan\_Liam](#):
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> Yes, I should have mentioned that my viet side of the family said that

Back up a minute here. You’re saying your _ **Vietnamese** _ in-laws remarked on how non-Asian their grandchild/niece/cousin appears? Are they happy, dismayed or non-commital about how they feel about this?

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**Author:** ![Ryan\_Liam](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ryan_liam/32/3965_2.png) [@Ryan\_Liam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ryan_Liam)\
**Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice-issue-in-op-resolved-in-2026/1003483/143 "2026-10-12T07:14:56Z")

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Just surprised in a neutral way

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**Author:** ![ricepad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b38774/32.png) [@ricepad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ricepad)\
**Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 7:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice-issue-in-op-resolved-in-2026/1003483/144 "2026-10-12T07:40:51Z")

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In what world can you say “white passing” and have it be neutral? I can’t think of any possible way.

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**Author:** ![doreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/858c86/32.png) [@doreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doreen)\
**Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 11:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice-issue-in-op-resolved-in-2026/1003483/145 "2026-10-12T11:49:50Z")

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“White passing” might not have been a direct quote. If someone had told me my kids looked a lot like my husband , they would have meant that my kids appeared to be white. Because they looked like me and the only part of their appearance that resembled him was their eyelids. And I’m sure lots of our families were surprised by that - we sure were.

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**Author:** ![Ryan\_Liam](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ryan_liam/32/3965_2.png) [@Ryan\_Liam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ryan_Liam)\
**Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 12:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice-issue-in-op-resolved-in-2026/1003483/146 "2026-10-12T12:05:14Z")

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Pretty much this

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**Author:** ![hogarth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hogarth/32/1773_2.png) [@hogarth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hogarth)\
**Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 12:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice-issue-in-op-resolved-in-2026/1003483/147 "2026-10-12T12:35:41Z")

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> [@ricepad](#):
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> In what world can you say “white passing” and have it be neutral? I can’t think of any possible way.

I have often heard Chinese people say that they find mixed-race white/Chinese people to be attractive. They didn’t use the term “white passing”, though.

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