# Possibly getting Divorced: Need advice (issue in op resolved in 2026)

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**Created:** [June 29, 2024, 9:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice-issue-in-op-resolved-in-2026/1003483 "2024-06-29T09:25:37Z")\
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**Post date:** [June 29, 2024, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice-issue-in-op-resolved-in-2026/1003483/26 "2024-06-29T21:01:19Z")

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I suspect that we may be going into the thread with different social assumptions (if this is the same relationship):

> [@Getting Married in Vietnam](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-married-in-vietnam/806253):
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> Hi guys, So I am getting married in Vietnam end of the month, the documents they VN government requested I have and they have been legalised by my government, but I am running out of time for them to be legalised by the VN embassy here, is there any way in which I can get married in Vietnam without having to do this?

I do NOT presume to speak for the marriage and cultural assumptions of that culture and nation, and wouldn’t be surprised, rather, I would _expect_ that it be rather different from what I consider the “norm” here in the US, which in it’s own rights, has hugely different assumptions across economic/social and religious groups.

Speaking entirely anecdotally, about some of my wife’s friends of Taiwanese and Saudi extraction (Not remotely the same, but to illustrate the differences) the gulfs of understanding when all parties try to communicate the norms left both sides shocked between expectations regarding living conditions, children, deference owed in-laws.

In other words, using the term marriage is correct, so many of the assumptions, responsibilities and roles were entirely different despite the similarities at the base.

So I’ll leave it to the OP to try to clear up the assumptions and responsibilities in their relationship across the board (especially with the earlier mentioned family issues) before I given even my ham-handed advice.

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