# Possibly getting Divorced: Need advice **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 29, 2024, 9:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice/1003483 "2024-06-29T09:25:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 39
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2024, 11:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice/1003483/39 "2024-06-30T11:46:56Z")
> [@Ryan\_Liam](#): > > but now I see it all slipping away from me and the last 8 years have been for nothing. The sunk-cost fallacy is alive and well in all of us. The only thing worse than wasting the last 8 years is wasting the next 8 as well. Here is a different fellow struggling with a different relationship problem no less severe than your own. You might learn something from his plight. The thing I most learned from participating in those threads was how dedicated the OP was to rejecting the one and only solution that would actually solve his problem; namely separating from this woman. The parallel to your current situation (and my own previous situation) is quite obvious to me. It does not yet seem obvious to you. His original thread from ~3 months ago: > [@Struggling with relationship difficulties, as wedding approaches…needing advice/support](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/struggling-with-relationship-difficulties-as-wedding-approaches-needing-advice-support/999114): > > So, I’ve been a long-time lurker (but occasional poster) here, and I apologize in advance for the long post, but I am feeling really stuck in between a rock and a hard place and am struggling with knowing how to best move forward and handle things. I have been reading some of the various relationship/family distress-related posts here lately and have been blown away by the amazing responses of support, advice and encouragement shared here. I am struggling with my own relationship and family righ… A follow up thread from ~ a month later: > [@What does "following your gut" feel like to you? How did you learn to "trust your gut"?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-following-your-gut-feel-like-to-you-how-did-you-learn-to-trust-your-gut/1000103): > > As the title said, I am curious how folks have “gone with their gut intuition”, especially in circumstances where they are faced with tough decisions or life-altering changes. Some thoughts/prompts for discussion: What does your “gut” feel like to you? How do you reconcile differences between your “gut feeling” and what your brain is thinking/telling you? How do you get to the point where you decide to “go with your gut”? Can you share examples of when you went against your brain, and followed… I wish you well whatever you choose. Him too. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/possibly-getting-divorced-need-advice/1003483)._