# Posting the "Forbidden Phrase" in PM **URL:** \ **Category:** About This Message Board\ **Created:** [November 9, 2016, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134 "2016-11-09T05:30:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/1 "2016-11-09T05:30:50Z")
We’re allowed to do that, right? Posting “F You” in PM to people? As long as we don’t do it on the public boards? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/2 "2016-11-09T06:07:04Z")
Hey, back atcha! ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/3 "2016-11-09T06:07:20Z")
Obviously the mods can give you the yes or no on that, but keep in mind PMs can be reported and there’s nothing stopping anyone from posting your PM to them on the public board. It’s ‘private’ in name only. ---
**Author:** ![Smapti](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smapti/32/17938_2.png) [@Smapti](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smapti)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/4 "2016-11-09T06:33:34Z")
Tubel-Cain. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/5 "2016-11-09T06:34:11Z")
After the events of tonight, actually being banned may be preferable to watching the Usual Suspects gloat for the next four years. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/6 "2016-11-09T06:47:32Z")
That’s exactly what I’m thinking. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 8:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/7 "2016-11-09T08:02:41Z")
> [@jayjay](#): > > After the events of tonight, actually being banned may be preferable to watching the Usual Suspects gloat for the next four years. They’re gonna be gloating for a few months, and crying for 3.x years. ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 8:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/8 "2016-11-09T08:12:46Z")
**Moderator Note** I know emotions are running high right now, but let’s keep the comments about the election out of ATMB. For those, there’s the Elections forum, or the Pit, if you prefer. Private Messages haven’t been regulated historically on the SDMB since we previously had no way of seeing anything that was sent in a PM. These days, if someone reports a PM, we get a copy of the PM as it was sent and now can act on it. The overall rule of “don’t be a jerk” is applicable. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 10:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/9 "2016-11-09T10:50:40Z")
I’d suggest that it would be better to make liberal use of the ignore feature. Few people who regularly contribute here beyond sniping actually supported Trump, so I would assume you could easily ignore these people without having to lose out on any conservative viewpoints or the like, or worry about conversations not making sense. Yeah, having a place where you could tell them “fuck you” would be nice. Og knows I’ve wanted to (and actually did once before the PMs were moderated). But I think it’s probably better to not let them in your head. And, if you need to say something, there are plenty of vocabulary words to get you around the language restrictions in the Pit. And you know that they will be in there, looking for people to attack. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 10:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/10 "2016-11-09T10:58:24Z")
PM sent. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/11 "2016-11-09T15:47:35Z")
Didn’t we discuss this in an ATMB thread recently and wasn’t the ruling that non-Pit rules apply to PMs? I could be wrong, but somehow that is my recollection. ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/12 "2016-11-09T16:46:40Z")
From the FAQ: > [@](#): > > Since they are treated as postings, the rules of conduct for private messages are the same as those of the general forums of the Straight Dope Message Board, starting, but not ending, with our most basic rule: Don’t be a jerk. FAQ - Guidelines and Etiquette on the SDMB > **[FAQ - Guidelines and Etiquette on the SDMB](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=384745)** > > This thread lists the guidelines and etiquette on the Straight Dope Message Boards. Infraction of these guidelines is not as serious as rules violations, these basically reflect what we’d call “good manners.” Please read the companion threads FAQ -... ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2016, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/13 "2016-11-09T23:01:54Z")
Maybe a new forum could be made so we can get away from the Trump supporters where they would not be allowed to post in. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2016, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/14 "2016-11-10T04:43:47Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![salmo89](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbce88/32.png) [@salmo89](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salmo89)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2016, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/15 "2016-11-10T05:17:42Z")
Hi all! Someone can help me here please?? :smack:[http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=19768711#post19768711](http://hiphopstyle.freeforumzone.com/d/11326297/Testo-Salmo-Don-Medell%C3%ACn-Hellvisback-Platinum-/discussione.aspx) Thank you!! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2016, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/16 "2016-11-11T05:08:26Z")
> [@jayjay](#): > > We’re allowed to do that, right? Posting “F You” in PM to people? As long as we don’t do it on the public boards? May I suggest the more cromulent and amusing alternative of “Trump you!” instead? It’s really quite an amazingly useful substitute and perfectly stands in for all of the F-word’s various uses. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2016, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/17 "2016-11-11T06:18:05Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > Maybe a new forum could be made so we can get away from the Trump supporters where they would not be allowed to post in. Apart from your grammatical errors, what the hell are you talking about? You’ve been a Trump-Apologist in every damned thread I’ve seen your name in over the last couple of days FFS. Go get drunk Drunky, when come back be sober. :D:D ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2016, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/18 "2016-11-11T17:00:50Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > PM sent. So is this now a euphemism for “fuck you”? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2016, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/19 "2016-11-11T17:15:07Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > So is this now a euphemism for “fuck you”? 😃 😃 Check your inbox. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2016, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134/20 "2016-11-11T18:57:43Z")
F… I mean, I PM’ed you too. 😉 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/posting-the-forbidden-phrase-in-pm/771134.md?page=2)