# Pray for my S.O. please **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 19, 2001, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007 "2001-08-19T13:30:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![pipefitter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/97f17d/32.png) [@pipefitter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pipefitter)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/1 "2001-08-19T13:30:31Z")
My S.O. went to the doctor’s the other day for a female problem that she was having. Found out that she has a few tumors (don’t know what kind though) in her that was causing them (the doc did an ultrasound). Friday she goes for an MRI to find out exactly where they are, and then she will have to schedual a surgery to have them removed and biopsied. She is very worried, and so am I (what a better way to throw a wrench into a relationship). She did have a good cry last week because of it (she usually holds things in, because she never had anyone to share her feelings with), and I did tell her that I will be there for her (I will even be there when she goes for her surgery, and during her recouperation (though I will most likely have to take my vacation for this, but it will be well worth it). I am very worried that I am going to lose her before I even get to know her, so I am asking all you dopers out there to please put your thought energies together to help me and my sweetie over this large bump in the road. Will keep all of you informed as to the progress of this. Thanks, Lou ---
**Author:** ![purrplebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/90ced4/32.png) [@purrplebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purrplebear)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/2 "2001-08-19T13:42:27Z")
Of course, you’re both in my prayers. I will hope for a swift, non serious outcome for her. Do keep us informed, dear. {{{{{{Lou}}}}}} {{{{{{Lou’s sweetie}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Duality](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mr.duality/32/4098_2.png) [@Mr.Duality](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Duality)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 1:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/3 "2001-08-19T13:49:09Z")
Try to maintain a positive attitude. The mind is a marvelous thing. Attitude can have quite an influence on the outcome of these things. ---
**Author:** ![pipefitter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/97f17d/32.png) [@pipefitter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pipefitter)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 1:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/4 "2001-08-19T13:51:27Z")
Mods, Goofed on the spelling of pray on the subject line, could you plese change to correct spelling for me…Thanks ---
**Author:** ![Spider\_Woman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cdc98d/32.png) [@Spider\_Woman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spider_Woman)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/5 "2001-08-19T13:52:52Z")
I hope everything will be fine, and it probably will. There are lots of cysts and fibroid tumors that turn out to be nothing more than a nuisance (according to what my doctor of a few years ago told me). ---
**Author:** ![Eutychus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Eutychus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eutychus)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/6 "2001-08-19T13:58:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pipefitter \* > \*\*Mods, > Goofed on the spelling of pray on the subject line, could you plese change to correct spelling for me…Thanks \*\* Not a problem … and of course we’ll keep you and your SO in our best thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Persephone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@Persephone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Persephone)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/7 "2001-08-19T14:44:36Z")
(((Lou & SO))) I’ll be thinking of you, my friend. Love, Cristi ---
**Author:** ![Serendipity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f17d59/32.png) [@Serendipity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serendipity)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/8 "2001-08-19T15:00:03Z")
You and your sweetheart will be in my thoughts and prayers. I hope everything turns out for the best. (((((((((((Lou and Lou’s sweetie)))))))))) ---
**Author:** ![Una\_Persson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/una_persson/32/346_2.png) [@Una\_Persson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Una_Persson)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/9 "2001-08-19T15:06:44Z")
I don’t think this throws a wrench into the relationship. You will learn a lot about each other in this time of stress and worry, and when you both come safely out the other side, you’ll be able to see the strength of the other. The important thing is that you guys know about the problem, and now you can start helping her with a plan of action for getting through it. I wish her, and you, the best. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ecccb3/32.png) [@Lord\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Jim)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/10 "2001-08-19T16:10:53Z")
**Lou** , you and your SO are in my thoughts. Be strong for her, but sensitive to her needs. And take care of yourself, she’s going to need you for a while. I’m hoping for the best. Jim ---
**Author:** ![Ayesha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c0e974/32.png) [@Ayesha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ayesha)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/11 "2001-08-19T16:39:31Z")
\*\* pipefitter \*\*, I will be praying. I know this kind of thing is frightening and I’m sorry y’all are going through it. ---
**Author:** ![Elenfair](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/cc9497/32.png) [@Elenfair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elenfair)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/12 "2001-08-19T16:43:46Z")
Lou, Hang in there… take things one day at a time. ((((Lou & Lou’sSO))))) You’re in my thoughts and prayers. Elly & the Service Dawgs ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/13 "2001-08-19T16:49:17Z")
If you go to any Dr.'s appointments with your SO, ask her if it’s okay to write down on paper what the Dr. says to her, which words he/she uses, which medicines he/she percribes. When I’m nervous, I forget what the Dr. says and then wonder what is happening. This might help your SO feel more involved in her care and recovery. I hope you get to know and appreciate each other, but if she can’t share this very personal experience with you just now, please remember how much stress she’s under and if she’s used to going things alone, she may feel more comfortable doing this by herself. If she lets you help her, as I kind of hope she will, be ready to focus on her needs as they occur—they can change minute by minute. Good luck to you both and you have my prayers. ---
**Author:** ![MysterEcks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f475e1/32.png) [@MysterEcks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MysterEcks)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/14 "2001-08-19T17:01:07Z")
My best wishes to you and your SO, **pipefitter**. ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/15 "2001-08-19T17:09:48Z")
Good luck and God Bless ---
**Author:** ![Zyada](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zyada/32/3028_2.png) [@Zyada](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zyada)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/16 "2001-08-19T17:12:11Z")
Pipefitter - it’s quite possible that these are uterine fibroid tumors, a benign tumor that is fairly common in women starting in the early to mid 30s. They tend to cause “female problems”. I just received treatment for fibroids in May, and my life is so much better now. If this is what she has, have her email me and I can share some things with her. If she would like to talk to me, I’d be happy to do that as well, just ask and I’ll email my phone number to you. Best wishes to your sweetie. ---
**Author:** ![Nocturne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/9fc348/32.png) [@Nocturne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nocturne)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/17 "2001-08-19T17:25:32Z")
pipefitter: Prayed for you and your SO today in Mass, and I will continue to do so. Best wishes. ---
**Author:** ![omni-not](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8dc957/32.png) [@omni-not](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/omni-not)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/18 "2001-08-19T20:33:43Z")
> [@](#): > > (I will even be there when she goes for her surgery, and during her recouperation (though I will most likely have to take my vacation for this, but it will be well worth it). Have you checked your collective agreement on that point? Maybe a few days could be made available for such a purpose (I’m thinking about the surgery, not necessarily the recuperation period, but who knows?). Keep thinking positive thoughts. Can’t hurt. There’s always time to worry, if it comes to that. All the best to you and your sweetie. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_griffin-kentzel/32/14787_2.png) [@Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Griffin-Kentzel)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/19 "2001-08-19T20:45:38Z")
Positive vibes coming your way, **pipefitter** and SO. ---
**Author:** ![Scotticher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Scotticher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scotticher)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2001, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007/20 "2001-08-19T22:31:02Z")
You and your love are in my thoughts and prayers, honey. This is so frightening for her…I am so glad she has you to support her through it, no matter how it turns out. She is a lucky girl in the ways that count. **(((((((Lou and Lou’sLove)))))))** Much Love, Cheri [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pray-for-my-s-o-please/77007.md?page=2)