# Pregnancy is not a joke, not a magic fairyland, and you're an idiot **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [January 9, 2006, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pregnancy-is-not-a-joke-not-a-magic-fairyland-and-youre-an-idiot/339160 "2006-01-09T15:36:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pregnancy-is-not-a-joke-not-a-magic-fairyland-and-youre-an-idiot/339160/61 "2006-01-16T17:52:49Z")
Why borrow trouble? She isn’t pregnant yet and you can hope she won’t be. Seems to me there is plenty of handwringing to do over the young women who are pregnant out of wedlock or already have kids. (Sampiro’s friends little screwed up sister comes to mind). One of my friends wives had sex without birthcontrol regularly and indiscriminately from 13 to getting married at 20. Somehow, she managed to do this without once getting knocked up. When her and her husband decided to have a child, it did take them a few years of trying (and, I suspect, medical intervention). Even if she does get knocked up, there is always the chance that she will miscarry. One can hope that she remains pregnant long enough for Studly to prove his mettle, then have the unfortunate wake up call that might involve her catching the clue bus. ---
**Author:** ![inkleberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f17d59/32.png) [@inkleberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/inkleberry)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pregnancy-is-not-a-joke-not-a-magic-fairyland-and-youre-an-idiot/339160/62 "2006-01-16T19:13:59Z")
why not send her a link to [www.plannedparenthood.org](http://www.plannedparenthood.org)? useful advice & info about sex, contraception, etc, without embarassment. Plus she can find out how to get some free and confidentially. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pregnancy-is-not-a-joke-not-a-magic-fairyland-and-youre-an-idiot/339160/63 "2006-01-16T19:19:22Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > She isn’t pregnant yet and you can hope she won’t be. Ah, use the same strategy _she’s_ using. > [@](#): > > One of my friends wives had sex without birthcontrol regularly and indiscriminately from 13 to getting married at 20. Somehow, she managed to do this without once getting knocked up. When her and her husband decided to have a child, it did take them a few years of trying (and, I suspect, medical intervention). > > Even if she does get knocked up, there is always the chance that she will miscarry. One can hope that she remains pregnant long enough for Studly to prove his mettle, then have the unfortunate wake up call that might involve her catching the clue bus. Yes, let’s hope one of these scenarios plays out if she does get pregnant. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pregnancy-is-not-a-joke-not-a-magic-fairyland-and-youre-an-idiot/339160/64 "2006-01-16T19:37:34Z")
> [@bup](#): > > Ah, use the same strategy _she’s_ using. > Yes, let’s hope one of these scenarios plays out if she does get pregnant. Yes, but its HER body and HER life and she has to take responsibility. What good does your worrying about it do? Why waste your energy worrying about a girl who may not get pregnant. It sounds like the people around her have done what they can, given her information, pointed out the flaws in her logic. When she does get knocked up, I’ll commisserate with you - I’ll feel sorry for both her and the child. Meanwhile, she is making the same stupid choices as thousands of young girls before her - and many of those girls manage to dodge the bullet of single motherhood through some odd portion of luck. And some who don’t still manage to make it work out by some sort of weird luck. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pregnancy-is-not-a-joke-not-a-magic-fairyland-and-youre-an-idiot/339160/65 "2006-01-16T19:53:24Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > This is a trainwreck that even Slyvia Browne could see coming in advance. This guy treats her very dismissively in public; she hangs on him like he’s Elvis and Jesus rolled into one. > > I knew there were dysfunctional people like this in the world – after all, I reasoned, Jerry Springer’s guests had to come from SOMEWHERE. But this girl is a good person — she’s just crippled by some much she doesn’t know and a vision of herself as worthless. > > I wish I knew a way to open her eyes. > > . Bricker you’re gallant and you mean well, but IMO your assumption that she is confused and borderline retarded re the risks involved in her decisions and actions is somewhat naive. When women do this sort of thing it’s often with some goal in mind, and it’s quite possible that on an emotional level she very much _wants_ a baby with this man and has calculated the risks and rewards involved in unprotected sex. This is one of the reasons women (specifically mothers), who know how other women think, are often not particularly predisposed to be charitable when their son’s girlfriends “accidentally” get pregnant and suspect more cunning than carelessness is involved in these scenarios. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pregnancy-is-not-a-joke-not-a-magic-fairyland-and-youre-an-idiot/339160.md?page=3)