# Preparations for anal sex **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [October 10, 2010, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710 "2010-10-10T19:19:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Laudenum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7993a0/32.png) [@Laudenum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Laudenum)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/1 "2010-10-10T19:19:30Z")
Odd question. Really, really odd. So odd. In another thread a few weeks ago, another poster complained about how tv made anal sex between gay partners seem like a commonpace, everyday thing, instead of something taking a long time to prepare for, needing careful planning. I have no experience in this area. At the risk of being disgusting, what ‘preparations’ are needed prior to anal sex that makes it such a huge undertaking? ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/2 "2010-10-10T19:29:17Z")
Not gay but that does not leave me out. No preparations. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/3 "2010-10-10T19:36:13Z")
Need answer fast? 😉 Really, though, is there just tons and tons of gay anal sex on TV these days? I must’ve missed it. ---
**Author:** ![An\_Gadai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@An\_Gadai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Gadai)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/4 "2010-10-10T19:48:04Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > Need answer fast? 😉 > > Really, though, is there just tons and tons of gay anal sex on TV these days? I must’ve missed it. You need Channel 4. ---
**Author:** ![elucidator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8edcca/32.png) [@elucidator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elucidator)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/5 "2010-10-10T19:51:53Z")
For a second there, I thought this was about the midterms. ---
**Author:** ![NOLA\_Cajun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ea666f/32.png) [@NOLA\_Cajun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NOLA_Cajun)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/6 "2010-10-10T20:06:57Z")
I’m not gay either and don’t even like anal sex with women. It just doesn’t seem like a good place to put my penis no matter how much precaution or prep work is taken. Aslo, it just doesn’t turn me on. That being said, I did try it a few times and I would have to say the 2 things that come to my mind would be use a condom and the person should really have an enema to clean the pathway. I’ve had shit on my dick and it was totally nasty. But hey, whatever floats your boat. If it’s your thing then those are the two things I can see that would be important. ---
**Author:** ![Laudenum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7993a0/32.png) [@Laudenum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Laudenum)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/7 "2010-10-10T20:29:58Z")
> [@NOLA\_Cajun](#): > > I’m not gay either and don’t even like anal sex with women. It just doesn’t seem like a good place to put my penis no matter how much precaution or prep work is taken. Aslo, it just doesn’t turn me on. That being said, I did try it a few times and I would have to say the 2 things that come to my mind would be use a condom and the person should really have an enema to clean the pathway. I’ve had shit on my dick and it was totally nasty. > > But hey, whatever floats your boat. If it’s your thing then those are the two things I can see that would be important. No interested in it tbvfh, but just kinda curious. ---
**Author:** ![Gil-Martin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Gil-Martin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gil-Martin)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/8 "2010-10-10T20:31:51Z")
Lube? ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/9 "2010-10-10T20:33:04Z")
Not gay but I’m no stranger to anal sex. No preparation. I guess it depends on the couple. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/10 "2010-10-10T20:59:39Z")
1. It doesn’t matter whether the “insert **ee** ” is male or female. 2. The hole should be clean, inside and out. If necessary, use an enema. 3. Always use lube. 4. Anything inserted must be clean and free of sharp edges (e.g. fingernails). 5. If a penis is being inserted, and if said penis has “been around,” a condom is necessary. Plus lube. ---
**Author:** ![boytyperanma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4491bb/32.png) [@boytyperanma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boytyperanma)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/11 "2010-10-10T21:24:28Z")
> [@Laudenum](#): > > Odd question. > > Really, really odd. > > So odd. > > In another thread a few weeks ago, another poster complained about how tv made anal sex between gay partners seem like a commonpace, everyday thing, instead of something taking a long time to prepare for, needing careful planning. > > I have no experience in this area. > > At the risk of being disgusting, what ‘preparations’ are needed prior to anal sex that makes it such a huge undertaking? In my experience as a gay man who has had lots of anal sex, anal sex between gay partners is commonplace and was an everyday thing(well as everyday sex was occurring) . It is not commonplace in all relationships however, some gay men never have anal sex with their partners. It isn’t some complicated physical undertaking that prevents anal sex from occurring, as that poster may be professing. Sometimes people just don’t want to or don’t like to do it so don’t. Shower, lube, condoms. A little bit of time fingering to loosen them up if needed and apply lube. Preparation to me I wouldn’t consider it an ordeal. I call it foreplay. ---
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/12 "2010-10-10T21:32:44Z")
> [@Laudenum](#): > > At the risk of being disgusting, what ‘preparations’ are needed prior to anal sex that makes it such a huge undertaking? Preparation H? ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/13 "2010-10-10T21:37:39Z")
I think it depends on the couple, and one’s threshold for exposure to shit. If a streak doesn’t bug you, dive right in. If shit freaks you out and you need absolute cleanliness, there are some preparations you can undertake. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/14 "2010-10-10T21:48:30Z")
> [@John\_DiFool](#): > > Preparation H? I suspect that in that case, the preparation is “waiting for the hemorrhoids to heal”. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/15 "2010-10-10T21:52:43Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > I think it depends on the couple, and one’s threshold for exposure to shit. If a streak doesn’t bug you, dive right in. If shit freaks you out and you need absolute cleanliness, there are some preparations you can undertake. I would advise against “diving right in,” because of the risk of disease transmission. You really don’t want shit finding its way into your urethra. Rather than an enema, some guys prefer to urinate afterward, but it’s better not to be exposed in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![NOLA\_Cajun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ea666f/32.png) [@NOLA\_Cajun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NOLA_Cajun)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/16 "2010-10-10T22:41:16Z")
What is tbvfh? Now I’m curious. ---
**Author:** ![Kal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9de053/32.png) [@Kal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kal)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/17 "2010-10-10T22:46:39Z")
> [@NOLA\_Cajun](#): > > What is tbvfh? Now I’m curious. To be very fucking honest. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2010, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/18 "2010-10-10T22:54:58Z")
Don’t forget about the Barry Manilow music, candlelight, and home-cooked meal. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2010, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/19 "2010-10-11T01:46:25Z")
> [@Chronos](#): > > Don’t forget about the Barry Manilow music, candlelight, and home-cooked meal. And you can multitask the candles. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2010, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/20 "2010-10-11T02:59:00Z")
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