# Preparations for anal sex **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [October 10, 2010, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710 "2010-10-10T19:19:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Askance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askance/32/8281_2.png) [@Askance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askance)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2010, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/21 "2010-10-11T03:27:59Z")
No preparation needed here. Would like a link to that post that claimed it needed planning. > [@panache45](#): > > > [@Chronos](#): > > > > Don’t forget about the Barry Manilow music, candlelight, and home-cooked meal. > > And you can multitask the candles. Wicked you are, wicked! ---
**Author:** ![Critical1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3e96dc/32.png) [@Critical1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Critical1)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2010, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/22 "2010-10-11T04:48:15Z")
for someone who has never had anything poked up their butt start small, use lube and GO SLOW for the more experienced I would say the same thing but how slow is really up to them ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2010, 6:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/23 "2010-10-11T06:28:24Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > 1. It doesn’t matter whether the “insert **ee** ” is male or female. > 2. The hole should be clean, inside and out. If necessary, use an enema. > 3. Always use lube. > 4. Anything inserted must be clean and free of sharp edges (e.g. fingernails). > 5. If a penis is being inserted, and if said penis has “been around,” a condom is necessary. Plus lube. Pretty good list. I would only say: I’m not sure about #1. While I _DO_ have a female friend who was initially only able to be pleased anally, in general, males do have a somewhat unique anatomy in that regard, with pleasure from stimulation of the prostrate. While I imagine females can also access pleasure from the act, I doubt it works exactly the same, mechanically speaking. I think female viewers should chime in with regard to anatomical differences. WRT #2: Should be clean yes. Although how much effort is put into securing that depends on not only the squikyness of the inserter but also the ahem quality of the digestive powers of the insertee. If they generally have very dry poop and regular movements, not all that much hygienic effort needs be involved. OTOH if they tend to have irregular bouts of distressing trips to the bathroom, than a preshower might be more regularly warranted (yay detachable shower heads!). #3: Depending on the couple, spit might be enough. Sometimes, the butt’s own lubrication might even be enough. Really depends on the people involved. Sometimes, no lube is enough. Someone who is supertight or has a overly sensitive area (or mentality) or hemorrhoids just won’t be helped by lube. #5: Condom is necessary unless there’s a super trustworthy long time monogamous relationship, hopefully with mutually aware pretesting. But in general, on dates where I thought I might happen to feel get slutty, I’ve prepared with a shower head (just in case) and lube/condom buying, but in a long term relationship, in close to ideal situations, there have been times where no preparation at all was needed. Anyway, it’s TV. Which if you believed, all women would cover their boobs with a separate bedsheet after sex. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2010, 7:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/24 "2010-10-11T07:01:10Z")
> [@Askance](#): > > No preparation needed here. Would like a link to that post that claimed it needed planning. > > > [@panache45](#): > > > > And you can multitask the candles. > > Wicked you are, wicked! So are the candles. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2010, 8:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/25 "2010-10-11T08:04:36Z")
I could have sworn I read that, due to the risk of getting illnesses from the digestive waste and the risk of tearing, all male inserters should wear a condom, whether they are experienced or not. ---
**Author:** ![Lee\_Vining](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c67d28/32.png) [@Lee\_Vining](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lee_Vining)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2010, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/26 "2010-10-11T12:15:15Z")
I do my wife this way sometimes and use a 50 - 50 mix of KY and hand sanitizer as a lube. Otherwise I get a urinary/NSU infection. The hand sanitizer mixed apparently seems to prevent this. I can’t use a condom, and don’t want too either. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2010, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/preparations-for-anal-sex/556710/27 "2010-10-11T22:21:27Z")
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