# Proper age for a women to marry? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 31, 2003, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365 "2003-03-31T03:54:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/21 "2003-04-01T02:32:09Z")
38 seems to have been the magic number for this woman. ---
**Author:** ![racinchikki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eada6e/32.png) [@racinchikki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racinchikki)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/22 "2003-04-01T03:55:17Z")
I’m 20. He’s 21. We’re engaged. I’ve been to college and changed my mind about it; I’ll be going back (to a different one) within the next 18 months. He’s graduating in May. I know how to cook. I’ve been self-sufficient enough to live on my own since I was 16, when I used to relish the times my parents would go on long trips together so I could do my own grocery shopping and look after the house by myself. I had my own place in college. I pay my own bills now, even though I live in my parents’ house. I’m moving out to be on my own in July. But he’s not done any of those things, and while he’s emotionally ready to commit to marrying me, we’ve both decided that we’re going to wait to jump the broom until at least 2005, barring unforeseen trips to Vegas. ---
**Author:** ![Spiff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiff/32/9852_2.png) [@Spiff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiff)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/23 "2003-04-01T15:00:46Z")
13, and she should be your cousin. Or so says Jerry Lee Lewis. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/24 "2003-04-01T15:33:35Z")
i’ll be 21 in two weeks, better give irishfella a call… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Mariachi\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@Mariachi\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mariachi_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/25 "2003-04-01T15:47:23Z")
A big AMEN out to Goo for saying when she’s ready. I’m 32 and not married. I’ve only recently begun to feel like maybe, someday, perhaps I’d like to find someone who could become my husband. At 21 I was a totally different type of Mariachi Kitty than I am now. In those 11 years I’ve gotten a couple of grad degrees, lived in five different states and had a series of progressively better (professionally & personally speaking) jobs. But, then again, I’ve told my parents since middle school that if I married before 30 or had kids before 35 they should consider themselves lucky. I started telling them this so they wouldn’t bug me about doing either. They got the message & have never asked those annoying questions. ---
**Author:** ![Kewk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7ab992/32.png) [@Kewk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kewk)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2003, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/26 "2003-04-02T00:12:39Z")
I got married at 19. My wife had our daughter at 21 and we are still happily married at 28 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Nimsay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5e9695/32.png) [@Nimsay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nimsay)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/27 "2003-04-03T03:57:34Z")
Well, I think “proper age” is referring to when a women is married, ect… But, those ages vary. ---
**Author:** ![Nimsay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5e9695/32.png) [@Nimsay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nimsay)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/28 "2003-04-03T03:58:47Z")
When a woman is ready\* ---
**Author:** ![Dogface](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9d8465/32.png) [@Dogface](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogface)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/29 "2003-04-03T04:12:29Z")
The right age is the right age. It’s a matter of the individual woman AND her culture and society. In a society that cuts off a married couple from all clan support, an older age is a better idea. In a society where a young bride can count on a clan to support her, youth is less a handicap. ---
**Author:** ![Pixelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ad7895/32.png) [@Pixelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixelle)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2003, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365/30 "2003-04-03T14:10:24Z")
People still actually bother to get married??? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proper-age-for-a-women-to-marry/165365.md?page=1)