# Proposed People of the ‘Dope: Did you talk to your "intended" about marriage, before you actually did the proposal? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 20, 2026, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proposed-people-of-the-dope-did-you-talk-to-your-intended-about-marriage-before-you-actually-did-the-proposal/1026867 "2026-01-20T22:09:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 39
**Author:** ![phs3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8491ac/32.png) [@phs3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phs3)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2026, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proposed-people-of-the-dope-did-you-talk-to-your-intended-about-marriage-before-you-actually-did-the-proposal/1026867/39 "2026-01-21T19:31:17Z")
Hmm, two threads about proposals in two weeks. I’ll point you to my previous answer, which seems trenchant: > [@Married Men of the 'Dope: Did you ask your future wife's dad for permission to marry her?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-of-the-dope-did-you-ask-your-future-wifes-dad-for-permission-to-marry-her/1026433/77): > > Are you kidding? I barely asked her. We’d known each other six weeks, were having a conversation about a piece of jewelry I said I wanted to buy her, and all of a sudden she said, “Was that a marriage proposal?” and I had to think “Wait, what did I just say? Oh, right, ‘…and I want to spend the rest of my life with you’.” My uber-articulate response was something like “Um, I guess so?” We’re 38.5 years in, so we’re thinking it might work out. We did call her parents afterward, woke her mother … --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/proposed-people-of-the-dope-did-you-talk-to-your-intended-about-marriage-before-you-actually-did-the-proposal/1026867)._