# Question for daddies of girls - Guys checking out your daughters **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 5, 2004, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899 "2004-01-05T23:27:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Dread\_Pirate\_Danno](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/858c86/32.png) [@Dread\_Pirate\_Danno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dread_Pirate_Danno)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2004, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/61 "2004-01-10T03:29:54Z")
On the radio today I heard a quote that was supposedly from Bruce Willis. When he was asked about what he would do when his daughter started dating, his response was “Kill the first one and hope the word spreads.” ---
**Author:** ![Napier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ce73a5/32.png) [@Napier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Napier)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2004, 1:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/62 "2004-01-10T13:12:59Z")
Mine’s in her late 20’s. There’s no avoiding it - she’s a head turner. She takes it in stride, but it bothers the hell out of me. I want to protect her. As far as I can tell, reason has nothing to do with it. ---
**Author:** ![burundi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3ec8ea/32.png) [@burundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burundi)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2004, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/63 "2004-01-10T20:45:12Z")
So, all you protective papas out there, do you want your daughters to be eternally single? Nuns? Maybe lesbians? (Hey, if it works for you, no skin off my nose.) I can understand being sad that your little girl is growing up, but threatening potential dates with bodily harm? That’s just pitiful. ---
**Author:** ![orygun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@orygun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/orygun)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2004, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/64 "2004-01-10T21:13:37Z")
My daughters have their own minds. They were taught values, compassion, respect, understanding and tolerance. They were taught to think and evaluate and to make sound decisions. Others were not taught such basics. These are the ones that I direct my comments upon. It isn’t that I wish to do bodily harm to my daughters’ friends, but that they reflect upon their actions prior to acting them out on my children. A deterrent, if you must. This will discourage most of the cowards looking to do harm. Let them look. If you wish to touch, be prepared. Be very prepared. ---
**Author:** ![Mephisto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/48db29/32.png) [@Mephisto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mephisto)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2004, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/65 "2004-01-11T01:23:42Z")
Well, I think **Cartooniverse** is probably correct that threatening a boy, explicitly or otherwise, won’t usually do much to deter the course of the teenage sex drive. I know I dealt with a couple fathers who adopted a threatening–and in one case down right belligerent–attitude with me when I was a horny fifteen-year-old. A couple dads intimidated me a little, but that didn’t stop me from . . . you know. Especially when it was initiated by the girl (not that I was a teenage stud or anything, mind you, but even I got lucky once and a while). As for **burundi** ’s post: nunhood is a perfectly acceptable career choice. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![compton\_homie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ea924/32.png) [@compton\_homie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/compton_homie)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2004, 1:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/66 "2004-01-11T13:37:11Z")
Did the dads in here think they wouldn’t be psycho before they saw it through a fathers eyes? ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2004, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/67 "2004-01-11T14:15:15Z")
My father trusts his daughters. They are mainly surrounded by fairly decent people. When my youngest (17) sister started dating her current SO, we were all a bit cautious, as she had not exhibited the best taste in guys. And for a while he was more than slightly immature. I was alerted (by my mother, not my father; my father knows my sister has sharp knees) that my, ah, services might be needed. I figured if my sister felt something needed doing she’d do it herself, but I figures it couldn’t hurt to know she had backup. Turns out a semester at college away from the teeming throng of guys (as opposed to gentlemen) was enough to make a decent individual out of this guy. He still annoys me at times, but then the things about him that annoy me are the same things I do with B in public that annoy other people (PDAs are not my thing when other people do them, but I could not care much less what other people think when I do them with B in public). My other sister … well, has bigger knees:D ---
**Author:** ![Archergal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c89c15/32.png) [@Archergal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Archergal)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2004, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/68 "2004-01-11T17:19:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by burundi \* > \*\*So, all you protective papas out there, do you want your daughters to be eternally single? Nuns? Maybe lesbians? (Hey, if it works for you, no skin off my nose.) I can understand being sad that your little girl is growing up, but threatening potential dates with bodily harm? That’s just pitiful. \*\* I’ve wondered this myself. Why are dads so worried about their daughters having sex or being sexual people? Just curious. ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2004, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/69 "2004-01-11T18:29:35Z")
As the father of a son who will be teenaged very soon, who is smart and funny and the very model of a strapping youth, much as his father once was, I can tell you fathers of teenaged girls that if my son checks out your daughter, the way you should feel is … Flattered. Got that? Good. ---
**Author:** ![Ilsa\_Lund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a6a055/32.png) [@Ilsa\_Lund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ilsa_Lund)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2004, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/70 "2004-01-11T18:36:38Z")
> [@](#): > > As the father of a son who will be teenaged very soon, who is smart and funny and the very model of a strapping youth, much as his father once was, I can tell you fathers of teenaged girls that if my son checks out your daughter, the way you should feel is … > > Flattered. > > Got that? Good. CAN I GET AN AMEN BROTHER!!! ---
**Author:** ![ZebraShaSha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/eada6e/32.png) [@ZebraShaSha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZebraShaSha)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2004, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/71 "2004-01-11T19:33:14Z")
I have a question for you Dads that is a slight hijak, if you do not mind… Do you always think like this?! I am 15, male, in love with quite a beautiful girl, but I have yet to ever feel women as something sexual. I say she is beautiful because she has the most charming personality in the world. We also have a harmonious relationship. But I have yet to ever want to have sex with or and the thought has never even crossed my mind. In fact, I do not like sex period. So my question for you is this: Do you just assume that the guy wants to have sex with your girl? If so, how far does this go? Would you ever allow a guy to cuddle/hug your girl? Anything may help with this slight hijak… but I just wanted to reverse it for a second… ---
**Author:** ![SuperNova](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SuperNova](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuperNova)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2004, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/72 "2004-01-12T05:30:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Aries28 \* > \*\*My Daddy is an avid gun collector…not a hunter…never hunted a day in his life… > > Anyway, first time a boy came to pick me up for a date (at age 15) my Daddy was downstairs in his “gun room”. I went down to say goodbye to him and he looked at my date and said, > > “See this gun? It would blow a little bity hole in you. Now this beauty over here…this would blow a great big huge hole in you. You kids have fun. You’ll be home by ten, right?” 😉 > > And the first time **Sauron** came over to meet him? Mind you, I was a 23 year old divorced mom myself at this time…first thing I think my Dad said to him was, “Has Aries ever told you about my gun collection? Come on down…let me show you around a bit.” > > My Daddy rocks. 😃 \*\* This sounds like my girlfriend’s dad. Not too fun to face a shotgun wielding, 6’2", 230-pound protective father. I don’t think I’ll ever earn complete trust. Doesn’t mean I’ll stop trying. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2004, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/73 "2004-01-15T21:59:42Z")
> [@Archergal](#): > > I’ve wondered this myself. Why are dads so worried about their daughters having sex or being sexual people? > Just curious. I’m not at all. So, don’t speak with such broad generality. I think I made it clear from my previous post, that she will be taught how to handle herself, and how to make the best judgement calls she possibly can. Not that I’m leaving her out there alone, I’ve got her back. However, she will become a sexual person at some point and that’s a healthy part of being an adult. Why should that worry me? ---
**Author:** ![Declan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecae2f/32.png) [@Declan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Declan)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2004, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899/74 "2004-01-16T00:19:40Z")
> [@maggy](#): > > Uh oh…well, might as well jump…we tend to be a little more mild mannered opposed to indecisive. Plus we generally don’t have the weapon stash to be decisive about. AFter all, as you may have heard, all our bad guys have to register their guns! > > God, I know this is going to come back and kick me in the ass! Sigh.:smack: Sorry , all the dads I met in Toronto , all had a variety of “tools” from the chrome plated shotgun , to an amazing collection of pistols. Then there was the dad who introduced himself as a former marine , who served in Viet Nam , had quite a converstion about that , far as I know the girl was mighty pissed to be second placed for a bit. Declan [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-daddies-of-girls-guys-checking-out-your-daughters/222899.md?page=3)