# Question for Gay Men: Does Size Matter? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 19, 2005, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969 "2005-04-19T00:06:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Tybalt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Tybalt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tybalt)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/1 "2005-04-19T00:06:17Z")
Do gay men care about size in regards to anal sex? Also, what happens when the sex is over? Does the sperm dry up inside of the person on the receiving end, or do they have to fart/poop it out? Inquiring minds want to know. šŸ˜• ---
**Author:** ![Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/96bed5/32.png) [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patty_O_Furniture)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/2 "2005-04-19T00:14:28Z")
It matters to some. Too big and itā€™ll be painful. Iā€™ve always said if itā€™s more than a mouthfull, itā€™s too big for either end. The babies come out with the condom. Those who donā€™t use condoms probably take a dump before showering, otherwise it leaks out if you just go about your daily business. Arenā€™t you glad you asked? ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/3 "2005-04-19T02:59:54Z")
As long as it is average, Iā€™m not complaining. Mega sub average(read: needle dick, the bug fucker), is very difficult to deal with on many levels. ---
**Author:** ![ouryL](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ouryl/32/6067_2.png) [@ouryL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ouryL)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/4 "2005-04-19T03:54:06Z")
Erectiblity is more important than size. ---
**Author:** ![FilmGeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@FilmGeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FilmGeek)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/5 "2005-04-19T03:58:48Z")
> [@Patty O'Furniture](#): > > The babies come out with the condom. Those who donā€™t use condoms probably take a dump before showering, otherwise it leaks out if you just go about your daily business. > > Arenā€™t you glad you asked? Iā€™m not a gay man, but I concur with this _ass_essment. (translation: gay men arenā€™t the only ones who have anal sex. Itā€™s kind ofā€¦ slimy. Thatā€™s why itā€™s called Santorum. ---
**Author:** ![JohnBckWLD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d6d6ee/32.png) [@JohnBckWLD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnBckWLD)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/6 "2005-04-19T22:09:22Z")
> [@Tybalt](#): > > What happens when the sex is over? Does the sperm dry up inside of the person on the receiving end, or do they have to fart/poop it out? Inquiring minds want to know. šŸ˜• Paging the asshole who came up with the phrase _ā€˜thereā€™s no such thing as a stupid questionā€™_ā€¦Paging the asshole who came up with the phrase _ā€˜thereā€™s no such thing as a stupid questionā€™_ā€¦ I have a bone to pick with you ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/7 "2005-04-19T23:09:28Z")
Apropos of nothing, **Tybalt** is my catā€™s name. What are you doing on the computer? Youā€™re supposed to be chewing on the corner of the rub and licking your empty ball sack. Get back to work! ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/8 "2005-04-19T23:10:57Z")
Erā€¦ the corner of the ā€œrug.ā€ :smack: ---
**Author:** ![chaoticbear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f07891/32.png) [@chaoticbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chaoticbear)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/9 "2005-04-20T03:00:19Z")
This may be more appropriate for another thread, but speaking of condoms, are there statistics that show condom use for gay males? It just seems so damn sensible to me to wear them (well, not _me_ wearing them, but them being worn _for_ me or something like that), that it surprises me that there are still so many people obsessed with barebacking. I know that ā€œprevious generations had to see people die of AIDS, etc etc, and I didnā€™t, and so I donā€™t care and drugs are coming out to fix things and etcā€¦ā€ mentalities exist, butā€¦ I just donā€™t get it. So, in the end (no pun intended), Gay Dopers: Condoms or no, and does situation matter? ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/10 "2005-04-20T13:22:43Z")
I wouldnā€™t even think of anal sex without a condom. Just too many risks and what ifs involved not too. **cd** Iā€™m glad to see you understand and make use of condoms. Lot of younger guys seem to not use em these days. As far as size goes, ACBG (the current squeeze) and I are both ā€œaverage.ā€ Neither of us has complained yet. šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/11 "2005-04-20T14:17:24Z")
IANA gay man, just an observer of human emotion, but it seems that much of the pleasure and turn on from sex comes from oneā€™s mind. It might be that while a big penis doesnā€™t necessarily make for better anal sex and, in fact, might even be a hinderance, nevertheless it might be for some a visual turn on and, therefore, make for a more satisfying encounter overall. Again, just a very uneducated guess. ---
**Author:** ![WeRSauron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f19dbf/32.png) [@WeRSauron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WeRSauron)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2005, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/12 "2005-04-22T05:36:00Z")
Wouldnā€™t, at some level, size matter when it comes to anal sex? For example, if a personā€™s member is shorter than average, wouldnā€™t it make penetrating oneā€™s partner a bit difficult? And would it not also mean that if penetration occured the prostate might not be stimulated, which stimulation is where the receptive partner derives most of his pleasure from? I have never had anal sex either way, so I am totally ignorant in this matter. WRS ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2005, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/13 "2005-04-22T05:39:04Z")
> [@WeRSauron](#): > > Wouldnā€™t, at some level, size matter when it comes to anal sex? For example, if a personā€™s member is shorter than average, wouldnā€™t it make penetrating oneā€™s partner a bit difficult? And would it not also mean that if penetration occured the prostate might not be stimulated, which stimulation is where the receptive partner derives most of his pleasure from? > > I have never had anal sex either way, so I am totally ignorant in this matter. > > WRS I am not a man but I can testify from personal experience that you donā€™t have to have a prostate to enjoy receptive anal sex. So reaching that organ may not necessarily be an issue. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2005, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/14 "2005-04-22T05:41:06Z")
> [@](#): > > Paging the asshole who came up with the phrase ā€˜thereā€™s no such thing as a stupid questionā€™ā€¦Paging the asshole who came up with the phrase ā€˜thereā€™s no such thing as a stupid questionā€™ā€¦ > > I have a bone to pick with you I donā€™t see how this is a stupid question. ---
**Author:** ![WeRSauron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f19dbf/32.png) [@WeRSauron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WeRSauron)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2005, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/15 "2005-04-22T05:47:12Z")
> [@Harimad-sol](#): > > I am not a man but I can testify from personal experience that you donā€™t have to have a prostate to enjoy receptive anal sex. So reaching that organ may not necessarily be an issue. Thanks! Iā€™m confused: where does the pleasure come from, then? (Hmmm, maybe I should try it and find out for myself, no?) Does being shorter than average affect the ability to penetrate? WRS ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2005, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/16 "2005-04-22T05:57:57Z")
> [@WeRSauron](#): > > Thanks! > > Iā€™m confused: where does the pleasure come from, then? (Hmmm, maybe I should try it and find out for myself, no?) > > Does being shorter than average affect the ability to penetrate? > > WRS Well, I personally just rather like penetration, but for a woman, itā€™s a sort of back way to the g-spot, which is analogous (feeling-wise, anyhow) to the prostate. Also, there are lots of nerve endings back there, and stimulating them feels very good, no matter whether one reaches special spots or not, or what kind of special spots one has to reach. In my experience, having only had anal sex with one person, certain positions can be a little better than others for anal penetration, just like they would be for any other kind of sex. My partner was average, but I would think that someone shorter than average would just have to approach, so to speak, the receptive partner from a slightly different angle. Experimentation is key, and darned fun, too. And yes, I highly recommend that you try it. It might not turn out to be your kind of thing, but then again, it might. Iā€™ll skip out for now and let the guys have this one. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2005, 8:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-gay-men-does-size-matter/299969/17 "2005-04-22T08:28:57Z")
> [@WeRSauron](#): > > Thanks! > > Iā€™m confused: where does the pleasure come from, then? IIRC, the anus itself has a ton of nerve endings of the same type that provides the penisā€™s sexual pleasure.