# Question for the ladies: How long does it take you to orgasm? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 6, 2005, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669 "2005-02-06T17:10:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2005, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/41 "2005-02-09T16:33:49Z")
Cold start, about a minute. Riled up, under a minute. With or without toys. I like to drag it out when I can, but if I need it _right now_, I can pretty much give it to myself _right now_. Anywhere, anytime. As for falling asleep… I can’t go to sleep unless I’ve orgasmed two or three times first, at least! With or without hubby’s help, I’ll get it or I won’t sleep. Even if I’m just going to take a nap. I have to be really sick with a stomach flu or something that keeps you down for me to sleep without pleasure first. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2005, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/42 "2005-02-09T16:58:39Z")
> [@Anastasaeon](#): > > Cold start, about a minute. Riled up, under a minute. With or without toys. I like to drag it out when I can, but if I need it _right now_, I can pretty much give it to myself _right now_. Anywhere, anytime. Are we allowed to swear in this forum? 'Cause I’m fucking _jealous_. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2005, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/43 "2005-02-09T17:22:33Z")
> [@Anastaseon](#): > > I can’t go to sleep unless I’ve orgasmed two or three times first, at least! Now, see, I’m always multi-orgasmic when I’m having sex with my husband, but alone, once is always enough. I dunno why. ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2005, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/44 "2005-02-09T17:51:15Z")
I’m multi-orgasmic no matter what way. Hubby can evoke some pretty deeply felt ones (sure, pun intended, why not 😃 ) and he can keep 'em coming (oh, heck, there’s another pun, whee). I’m just very… er… sensitive to that sort of thing. Some exes who couldn’t keep up have suggested I have a problem and need counselling… however, even hubby can’t always keep up, though Og bless him, he does try - but it hurts no one, it doesn’t leave the house (well… er uh… maybe in special circumstances, but what I mean is that I’m not an exhibitionist), it’s monogamous, and hubby likes it. **I** like it! And I still get things done. I once experimented, and I’ve been able to orgasm 46 times in one hour. Granted, they got weaker and weaker as time went on, but there they were. And an hour later, I called hubby in for a few more. You know, so I could sleep. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2005, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/45 "2005-02-09T23:13:05Z")
> [@Anastasaeon](#): > > And an hour later, I called hubby in for a few more. You know, so I could sleep. 😛 Penis ensued? ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2005, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/46 "2005-02-09T23:21:17Z")
> [@iampunha](#): > > Penis ensued? I wouldn’t have it any other way 😃 ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2005, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/47 "2005-02-10T02:23:58Z")
Hmmmm. I rarely go it alone–I prefer company. So, I suppose anywhere from 5-20 minutes would be accurate; like the others, there are tons of intervening variables. I have tried vibrators, and I think they are too much–it’s like I’m bombarded with too much sensory stimulus. I do orgasm frequently from dreams, though, strangely enough. But again, IMO, the biggest sex organ is the brain. I too have said forget it, and went to sleep–how refreshing to hear that! Strange that the one poster said the pregnancy “neutered” her–I found that true when I was pregnant with my daughter, but with both sons, I was rabid for sex (didn’t know the sex of the babies until birth) at least untl the start of the 3rd trimester-then all bets were off! I speculate that it was the extra testoterone circulating… ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2005, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/48 "2005-02-10T03:02:29Z")
How long does it take me to get an orgasm? Well, I just walk up to the bar and order one. So…under a minute. What? ---
**Author:** ![inkleberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f17d59/32.png) [@inkleberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/inkleberry)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2005, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/49 "2005-02-10T06:07:33Z")
3-5 minutes, regardless of whether with a partner or by myself. Except when receiving oral- then it’s close to 10. ---
**Author:** ![NajaNivea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/22d042/32.png) [@NajaNivea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NajaNivea)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2005, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/50 "2005-02-10T15:12:41Z")
> [@rabbit](#): > > In order to keep it honest/real, if you plan on answering, please do so BEFORE you read anyone elses answer, Im not interested in contests, just facts. > Thanks lots for those who participate. It is very appreciated. I wouldn’t know. It happens so rarely I haven’t been able to find a pattern ☹ I masturbate pretty frequently, and have since I was pretty young, but I’ve never been able to orgasm easily. ---
**Author:** ![Anaptyxis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/anaptyxis/32/3171_2.png) [@Anaptyxis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaptyxis)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2005, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669/51 "2005-02-10T16:32:46Z")
> [@rabbit](#): > > (And to answer the question asked, she has apparently never been able to do it by hand, although I attribute that to her ridiculous impatience, … There’s impatience, and then there’s trying to hammer a nail with a muffin, if you get my drift. I have never been able to orgasm by myself w/my own hand. I need power tools or it’s not happening. With so many of us ladies describing giving up on the task, it becomes clear that in many cases a hand is often not enough! Okay, I am actually typing this at work. Time to clear the web cache and history… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-the-ladies-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-orgasm/288669.md?page=2)