Question for the ladies - work and gender

I’ve usually been one of the few women - and I’ve liked that environment. The last job I had it was an all female team, and horrible…but I don’t think that was solely due to gender.

I’d take a bunch of mature women - or a bunch of mature men. When it comes to immature idiocy, I find (stereotypical) immature male behavior amusing and (stereotypical) immature female behavior infuriating. (and maturity does not necessarily come with age, nor is age a necessary condition for maturity).

I would rather work in an all or nearly all female workplace. I have noticed that many men if you develop any sort of familiarity or friendship with them, they stop respecting boundary lines. With women it tends to be much easier, a simple “I’m not a lesbian,” only needs to be said once.

WhyNot and FairyChatMom pretty much summed up my position - I prefer mixed or mostly male workplaces. I just don’t get the female gossipy back-stabbing intrigue, despite being female myself. I just want to show up, do my job, and go home. I’ll try to be as pleasant as possible to everyone around me, hope they do the same, and absolutely do not want to play bullshit psychological games.

The idea that men don’t gossip is absolutely hilarious to me. It depends on the man, just as it depends on the woman.

My choice is mixed. I like members of both sexes enormously.

That’s so true. Men never posture or try to make themselves look more noble or refuse to answer questions asked or to choose among the options given.

This is exactly how I would answer. I hope you do not mind me stealing from you. :slight_smile:

Hmmm… I’ve asked this in other forums before and never got responses like these. Thanks for all the feedback. Any more?

Ive tended to work in male dominated environments, until the last few years. Now I am working with nearly exclusively women, but in a men’s prison, and the officers are primarily male.

The female administrative environment, for me, would be boring as hell at another place of work, I am pretty sure. I do really enjoy doing support work in riskier than average environments, keeps me awake and interested. So on that level, working with men has been a lot more interesting for me.

Buti have actually learned a lot in this female environment. I am not much of a girly girl, even in the office I wear biker boots and clothing more suited to the yard than an office. And a good many of the women dress to kill every day, and I mean 6 inch heels in a job that isnon your feet as much as at a desk. While thats something I just could never do, ive learned to appreciate, well…women…all types…a lot more than I ever have before. This is a very chummy area, and that may have something to do with it, because it all ends up feeling like family, up to and including who isnt talking to who this week, lol.

and its nice to know that , when I do dress up for work, its noticed and the compliments are sincere. Its a nice feeling :slight_smile:

So I dont know what my answer would be now, but I feel more comfortable and huggy feely than I did before this job, so maybe my answer now is Anything Goes.:slight_smile:

I prefer an even mix. In the mostly male environment, I got really sick of the boys acting like boys. Neverending constant pissing contests; it got really boring. Mostly women and you get the backbiting cat-fighting thing going on with the few Mean Girls who seem to perpetuate that shit. If it’s balanced and about half and half, I think both genders tend to behave with more respect toward one another. IOW, when there isn’t a disparity between the majority and the minority, we all tend to treat each other as people. But when there is an “in” group and and “out” group, there’s always bullshit.

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WhyNot and FairyChatMom pretty much summed up my position - I prefer mixed or mostly male workplaces. I just don’t get the female gossipy back-stabbing intrigue, despite being female myself. I just want to show up, do my job, and go home. I’ll try to be as pleasant as possible to everyone around me, hope they do the same, and absolutely do not want to play bullshit psychological games.
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Another vote for mixed or mostly male.

I’ve worked in male-dominated environments for most of my life and overall get along better with men at work. Less bullshit, less gossiping and intrigue and drama.

I spent a year volunteering one day a week at an all-female office (YWCA domestic violence shelter) and while everyone working there was competent, efficient and genuinely nice and caring individuals, the constant behind-her-back gossiping and hurt feelings and pissing contests (women do that too) really got to me after a while, especially since I was only there once a week and wasn’t that invested in the whole office culture of the place.

I realized a long time ago that my close female friends all pretty much acted like guys and that’s why we get along.

In order of preference: mixed, male, female.

I get along well with men and I’ve found it easier to get them to be direct with their responses, which I appreciate. Women are more likely to be people pleasers and that can lead to difficulties identifying issues in the workplace.

This is another good point and as a woman who’s many times been in a supervisor position over up to a dozen or so people, it’s something I’ve been called out on. I’m more likely to say “So, do you want to go do X, now?” than say “Go do X. Now.”

It’s something I have to watch in myself, because the latter is so much more clear and unequivocal than the former and I know this, but still I have to check my tendency to want that people like me, instead of simply doing what I say.

I’ve got to agree with jsgoddess here. Some men might claim that they don’t gossip and backstab and try to manipulate their way around the office, but in my experience, that’s utter crap.

I tend to prefer mixed gender offices and teams.

I don’t really care. I’ve worked in mostly-male offices, and mostly female, and I don’t think genitals make much of a difference.

I think the gossipy-backstabby-stupid female idea is a harmful stereotype. Most the women I’ve worked with have been sharp, on-task and fun to work with.

So, if women act in a way you think is good, they are “acting like guys.” Why aren’t they acting like women who act in a way you think is good?

Mostly men because every time I’ve worked with mostly women it has been nothing but stupid drama, bitchiness, and backstabbing (my current job especially). I used to like my current job and now I detest it to the point that I only work one day a week and even that’s more than I can deal with most weeks. Every female dominated job I’ve had has been like this.
My male dominated jobs have been so much better.

Good question - women act in many good ways and I alluded to that in my post. Hell I am a woman and I act very well in many capacities.

However, the OP was in regards to work and gender, and I framed my answer in response to that. And my response is in IMHO, for what it’s worth, But I do stand by what I said, (IMHO.)

I’ve asked many women this question and most say they would prefer men and many say they love being the only female. One interesting one was I when asked the woman behind the counter at a UHaul rental and she said “Hell Yes all men!. Men are so much easier to work with. They dont try to be your friend or expect you to listen to their problems.” She went on to say “I hate even the women customers who come in because the whine so much. Men just maybe flirt a little and pay up and leave”. Granted she was a little extreme.

Another woman I was working with said she felt women were much better organizers and better at record keeping while the men were better at coming up with ideas and doing the grunt work.

Now granted I’ve mostly worked in computers or maintenance and there are few women in those areas.

I once asked this question to a woman in sales and she admitted when she does sales calls she treats male and female clients differently. She said that with men they mostly talk sports and with women they mostly talked family.

So being a good salesman she tried to keep up with sports and have family anecdotes to share.

Ahem.