# Question for you Dangerosa **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 27, 2017, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990 "2017-02-27T22:49:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/241 "2017-03-05T03:19:51Z")
Y’know, BigT mentioned earlier that he’s _lived_. I’d like to know more. How long were you married, how many kids did you have, were any adopted? Step kids, perhaps? Were you adopted, or any of your siblings? Has anyone, in real life, ever pointed out some aspect of your behavior you didn’t see yourself? How did you react? ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/242 "2017-03-05T03:49:47Z")
> [@raventhief](#): > > Y’know, BigT mentioned earlier that he’s _lived_. I’d like to know more. How long were you married, how many kids did you have, were any adopted? Step kids, perhaps? Were you adopted, or any of your siblings? Not to defend **BigT** , but I don’t have any of these things, and yet I have lived. In fact, I am still living. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/243 "2017-03-05T06:29:03Z")
Yeah, I’m not comfortable with defining “real life experience” so narrowly. I am comfortable saying that BigT has very little but doesn’t believe that’s true. ---
**Author:** ![Morbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morbo/32/389_2.png) [@Morbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morbo)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 9:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/244 "2017-03-05T09:07:32Z")
I find my self wondering what **BigT** ’s best-case scenario is when he performs his WTF-WK\* show? We all drop to our knees like when Lyanna Mormont endorsed John Snow? Or is he more like the Nun who just said “Shame” all the time to Cersei? \*Wag-The-Finger-White-Knight ---
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 10:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/245 "2017-03-05T10:41:53Z")
Mods, change the title, the pitting of **Dangerosa** is done. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 10:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/246 "2017-03-05T10:59:04Z")
It’s the Dope’s exclusive Godwin’s law. All pittings turn into Trump or BigT threads. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/247 "2017-03-05T13:48:15Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > Not to defend **BigT** , but I don’t have any of these things, and yet I have lived. In fact, I am still living. > [@Green\_Bean](#): > > Yeah, I’m not comfortable with defining “real life experience” so narrowly. > > I am comfortable saying that BigT has very little but doesn’t believe that’s true. I was aggravated and i don’t define living so narrowly. But i was curious his experience in this particular topic, since he was comfortable enough to jump in and call everyone… what was it- evil shits, and he was so adamant about lines not to be crossed re parenting, etc. I am in no way trying to suggest that’s the only way to define real life. ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/248 "2017-03-05T16:20:20Z")
I think we can all agree married or not, children or not, anyone who posts that [“And I find it very insulting that you guys are telling me to leave [the SDMB]. If you’d read what I wrote: I CAN’T. This is my life…”](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=12466553&postcount=65) does not, in fact, have a life. ---
**Author:** ![JimNightshade](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jimnightshade/32/3354_2.png) [@JimNightshade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JimNightshade)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/249 "2017-03-05T16:35:11Z")
Oh my! Why - I just might faint now. [fanning red hot cheeks] ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/250 "2017-03-05T18:16:15Z")
> [@Fenris](#): > > I think we can all agree married or not, children or not, anyone who posts that [“And I find it very insulting that you guys are telling me to leave [the SDMB]. If you’d read what I wrote: I CAN’T. This is my life…”](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=12466553&postcount=65) does not, in fact, have a life. That was seven years ago. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2017, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/251 "2017-03-05T18:20:36Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > That was seven years ago. Yet it stood the test of time, and is still as applicable as it was seven years ago! That’s some staying power!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Springtime\_for\_Spacers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Springtime\_for\_Spacers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Springtime_for_Spacers)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2017, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/252 "2017-03-06T00:51:15Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > Not to defend **BigT** , but I don’t have any of these things, and yet I have lived. In fact, I am still living. You certainly have lived/do live monstro and you’ve posted enough about it here that we know that. You demonstrate engagement with life “on the outside”. Big T, not so much. I actually think he just wants us all to play nicely and he doesn’t always deserve what gets thrown at him. But, Big T, investing your well being in a message board, this message board, I think you need to question if this is really doing you any good in the long run? ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2017, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/253 "2017-03-06T01:28:27Z")
I do hope that BigT is not quite as invested as he was 7 years ago. As I said, it was not my intent to imply that my suggestions were the sole criteria for really living - I was just irked and felt that if he was going to say he has really lived, before the agoraphobia, than perhaps he could share some actual relevant experience to the topic at hand. I don’t expect anyone to meet some criteria for weighing in, and I think most of the posters on this board have really lived. I am not sure how old BigT is, but in my head he’s like early 30s? if he has been living only (or even primarily) on this board for at least 7 years… then that makes me sad. It was snarky of me, but the real question was at the end - have you ever had someone point out something about you that you didn’t realize yourself? I have, and I am prone to \*excessive \*self reflection. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2017, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/254 "2017-03-06T01:42:42Z")
**raventhief** , no hard feelings (at least from me). I re-read what you wrote and realize that I shouldn’t have responded the way I did since I do have an adopted sibling. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Anconia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@D\_Anconia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Anconia)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2017, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/255 "2017-03-06T01:42:58Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > That was seven years ago. Apparently, nothing has changed in those seven years. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2017, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/256 "2017-03-06T03:24:26Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > **raventhief** , no hard feelings (at least from me). I re-read what you wrote and realize that I shouldn’t have responded the way I did since I do have an adopted sibling. Naw, I was out of line…and very imprecise…with my snark. I was looking at the list of things that seemed to cause a certain resonation in some posters, and expanded on that. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2017, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/257 "2017-03-06T03:37:56Z")
No worries, **Raventhief**. 🙂 > [@Fenris](#): > > I think we can all agree married or not, children or not, anyone who posts that [“And I find it very insulting that you guys are telling me to leave [the SDMB]. If you’d read what I wrote: I CAN’T. This is my life…”](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=12466553&postcount=65) does not, in fact, have a life. You’d think that someone who was so invested in this board wouldn’t go out of his way to annoy the crap out of people like he does. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2017, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/258 "2017-03-06T04:24:53Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > No worries, **Raventhief**. 🙂 > You’d think that someone who was so invested in this board wouldn’t go out of his way to annoy the crap out of people like he does. Word! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990.md?page=12)