# Question for you Dangerosa

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990>\
**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [February 27, 2017, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990 "2017-02-27T22:49:43Z")\
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**Author:** ![Banquet\_Bear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/banquet_bear/32/373_2.png) [@Banquet\_Bear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Banquet_Bear)\
**Post date:** [March 3, 2017, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/159 "2017-03-03T00:16:25Z")

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> [@Sarahfeena](#):
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> Whatever, you don’t have to let it concern you if you don’t want it to. I’m asking Dangerosa if she knows she does this, and asking her why. I’m not the only one who has noticed this as a pattern, but I haven’t been stockpiling examples as I never thought I would get to this point of asking her in a pit thread. The original post of Green Bean’s addresses a more recent example, which spurred all of this. So, it’s not just one from 2014, it’s as I said a pattern of comments…often small…that add up to a bigger picture. I can’t possibly paint it for you but it’s something many of us have noticed.

…you haven’t shown a pattern of comments. If it existed you could point to some examples. I simply don’t believe you. I’ve asked several other people to show me this pattern in this thread and they can’t show anything either. You started this pit thread. Don’t give me the excuse that you can’t show a fucking pattern because its too fucking hard. You started this pile-on. Take ownership of it.

This was the comment that prompted Green Bean’s question in the other thread:

> [@re: the Myth of Gender-Neutral Parenting (letter to the editor)](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/re-the-myth-of-gender-neutral-parenting-letter-to-the-editor/780640/25):
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> Timely.
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> My daughter is currently doing a paper on “why the gender binary needs to go” where she argues similar things to the letter writer. I’ll forward this on to her - paper is due Monday so it might not get in.
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> And, there is hope for the future. Part of the paper was a presentation. What was supposed to be five minutes of presentation and a few question went for most of the hour because the discussion and questions were so very good. And respectful. For a lot of the students this was the first time they were introduced to the concept in a broad and yet detailed way - something bigger than bathrooms.

Why the fuck would this comment prompt Green Bean to ask about Dangerosa’s son? It wasn’t fawning praise of her daughter. It wasn’t a condemnation of her son. This doesn’t fit your pattern of “sharing his troubles many many times” that you claim in the OP. She only commented on it when she was asked about it.

You aren’t asking Dangerosa a question. You’ve pitted her. She isn’t going to respond to you here. There isn’t enough nuance in the world to be able to respond properly to incredibly personal questions in an environment like the pit. If you really cared you would have ignored the moderators suggestions to open a pit thread and taken it to PM’s instead. But I don’t think you actually care at all.

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