# Question for you Dangerosa **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 27, 2017, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990 "2017-02-27T22:49:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 194
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2017, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990/194 "2017-03-03T15:38:32Z")
> [@Banquet\_Bear](#): > > I actually think that **Sarahfeena** is trying to help. > > But **Sarahfeena** started this pit thread. **IvoryTower** has made claims about another poster here in this pit thread. Asking them to back up their claims is not unreasonable in the slightest. Well, Sarahfeena declined so maybe you could pit her. > [@](#): > > BigT stood up for Dangerosa and look what happened to him. This is the pit. Don’t start something here if you want to run away from the consequences. I get the impression that BigT dishes it out all the time. I don’t really read his posts because the tone generally turns me off but he’s not getting shit here in this thread just because of his actions here. > [@](#): > > Can you show me the posts that lead you to believe **Dangerosa** ’s family has a “golden child?” Did you know that you can’t actually search for only “son”? It would take hours and hours to find the actual cites, but as someone pointed out, that wouldn’t satisfy you anyway. However, it’s not just one thread. > [@"Enjoy Your Kids While They're Young" - bah!](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/enjoy-your-kids-while-theyre-young-bah/616113/32): > > As to ages, I liked my son, who is now thirteen, best when he was three and four. He was really a good natured, easy kid. He was a little too independent, wandering off by himself. My daughter at that age was a demon possessed child who threw incredible tantrums and needed her own way on EVERYTHING. He is now an uncooperative, uncommunicative sullen teenager pushing boundaries who I’m tempted to sell into child slavery - well, maybe not since we don’t actually ever SEE him unless he needs money or a ride - he is out with friends or hangs in his room and as far as I can tell, only talks in monosyllables when we do see him, she is now a lovely, considerate twelve year old. I suspect they will both turn out fine in the end, but he’s going to be a challenging teenager, something I would have never expected when he was four. She is going to hit hormonal here and enter the non-human stage, but I think compared to her toddler and pre-school years, she’ll be easy. Obviously she is far too good of a mother to actually believe this, it’s hyperbole, but that is so jarring to read these things contrasted to the praise she – justifiable – lavishes on her incredible daughter. Her daughter wanted to go into girl scouting. She couldn’t find a troop so she lead it herself. Her son wanted to join boy scouts and she wouldn’t let him because he’s an agnostic and for her that was more important to stand up to that then let him join. She and her husband missed the meeting for football and decided, without asking the coach about it, that the policies didn’t match their family family based on what another parent’s reports. She and her husband regularly go and fight with the school for her daughter’s rights. She didn’t sign her son up for hockey because it “takes commitment.” She thinks her son dresses “thugish.” Those are hard words, IMHO for a child and even if she doesn’t use them with him – which I presume that she doesn’t – thinking them could have an influence. You can easily find a lot of praise for her daughter. > [@](#): > > My daughter is “gifted” and needs gifted education. Not in order to become a cancer curing researcher, but because she requires the challenges and social stimulation provided in a gifted classroom. Gifted education is just a different type of special education - or as they call it in my kids school “intervention.” She – understandable – values education and sounds disappointed that her son is likely headed for trade school. It’s all small stuff and if there were just a few of them then I don’t think people would have paid attention. It’s just that the difference between the praise for her daughter and the lack of it for the son is noticeable. > [@](#): > > The reality is that you have no clue what she is going through. You’ve read a handful of her posts on a messageboard. Did you miss all of the “if’s” in my post? There are a bunch of people here certain of what is happening, but I’ve clearly stated that I don’t know. > [@](#): > > We all go through shit. If, one day, (and I hope it doesn’t) when your kids are no longer young and they start having problems: I hope that you don’t slip up, say something that maybe you shouldn’t have on a messageboard and then three years later people start to lecture you on how to be a parent. If **IvoryTower** , **Sarahfeene** or a few other posters whom I really respect tell me that they think I need to reflect on what I post, then I will. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-for-you-dangerosa/780990)._