# Question: May I post about a non-member here,please **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 26, 2015, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660 "2015-11-26T18:50:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_King_of_Soup)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/1 "2015-11-26T18:50:44Z")
Her name was Virginia, and she was my daughter. She was 22, was going to be a theater designer, and she loved reading, drawing, spicy food, and a nice boy named Will. If this could go in the Memoriam column, I’d appreciate it. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/2 "2015-11-26T19:45:03Z")
Um… what happened and I’m sorry to hear this is all past tense? My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Merneith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/57b2e6/32.png) [@Merneith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merneith)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/3 "2015-11-26T19:52:06Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, King. ---
**Author:** ![The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_King_of_Soup)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/4 "2015-11-26T20:01:09Z")
She was going to the bookstore, on her scooter after dark, and a car coming the other way made a left turn right through her. She had the good grace to keep her heart beating until those closest to her could say goodbye. She died one day short of the first anniversary of the death of her grandmother, having had barely a glimpse of the world I once told her was hers. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/5 "2015-11-26T20:04:19Z")
I am very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/6 "2015-11-26T20:29:48Z")
I’m so sorry to hear about her, **The King Of Soup**. ---
**Author:** ![Sailboat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sailboat/32/461_2.png) [@Sailboat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sailboat)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/7 "2015-11-26T20:40:44Z")
[Heart’s Needle](http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/heart-s-needle/). ---
**Author:** ![The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_King_of_Soup)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/8 "2015-11-26T20:42:33Z")
It has been nearly twenty years since I posted regularly here. But I have no religion and few friends. So complete strangers will have to know, however fleetingly, of a young woman who was loved by her family, her fellow students, ALL her co-workers at Sam’s Club Tire Center who came to her memorial, an hour away, in defiance of an order not to miss work, and dozens of others. Her name was Virginia, and she contained many stories, all good ones. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/9 "2015-11-26T20:59:04Z")
I’m so, so sorry for your loss **The King of Soup**. It’s one of those ‘rules’ of life that our children are not meant to pass before us, but a rule all too often broken by illness or tragedy. May you and your family find solace. kam ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/10 "2015-11-26T21:12:49Z")
I’m very sorry to learn of your loss…and the loss to all of humanity. Virginia’s potential was limitless. Remember her well. ---
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2015, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/11 "2015-11-26T21:22:19Z")
I’m sorry for the loss. It sounds like she was a good person and, while I’d have liked to meet her, I don’t have to in order to know that she wouldn’t want you to suffer too much in her absence. ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2015, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/12 "2015-11-27T00:57:55Z")
I am so sorry for your loss, **The King of Soup**. What a horrible thing. ---
**Author:** ![Walken\_After\_Midnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b487fb/32.png) [@Walken\_After\_Midnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Walken_After_Midnight)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2015, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/13 "2015-11-27T02:35:59Z")
My deepest sympathies. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2015, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/14 "2015-11-27T02:56:33Z")
> [@The\_King\_of\_Soup](#): > > It has been nearly twenty years since I posted regularly here. That’s quite a while. But I did recognize your username right away - I remember some of your posts about being involved in the game design industry, I believe it was. What you’re going through right now has to be unbearably difficult. I can’t even imagine the pain you are in. I wish I could write something that would somehow make it better. ---
**Author:** ![Fiveroptic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fiveroptic/32/8257_2.png) [@Fiveroptic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fiveroptic)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2015, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/15 "2015-11-27T03:01:56Z")
I’m so sorry. Virginia sounds like a wonderful young woman. ---
**Author:** ![Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slow_moving_vehicle/32/291_2.png) [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slow_Moving_Vehicle)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2015, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/16 "2015-11-27T03:07:24Z")
You sound poetic when you speak of her. I’m so sorry for your loss. Children are _not_ supposed to die before their parents. I hope you will find some peace. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2015, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/17 "2015-11-27T03:17:49Z")
Oh, King, your post breaks my heart. I am so , so sorry. Virginia will not be forgotten. ---
**Author:** ![Napier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ce73a5/32.png) [@Napier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Napier)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2015, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/18 "2015-11-27T03:26:59Z")
I’m so sorry, you sound so heartbroken, I’m so sorry. I’m glad you posted again and hope we can be something good for you. Please, tell us anything and everything you like. I really want to hear more. ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2015, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/19 "2015-11-27T03:27:21Z")
I would’ve like to have met her. Sorry, King. You are not alone in your grief. ---
**Author:** ![Leo\_Bloom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leo_bloom/32/10377_2.png) [@Leo\_Bloom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leo_Bloom)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2015, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660/20 "2015-11-27T03:51:09Z")
She has blessed you, you know that. That’s what’s keeping you together now. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/question-may-i-post-about-a-non-member-here-please/738660.md?page=2)