# Questioning Sexual Orientation - Need Website **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 16, 2003, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816 "2003-10-16T17:56:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/1 "2003-10-16T17:56:48Z")
I don’t know if there is such a monster out there or not, but my friend has called me all in a tizzy. Her 25 yr old daughter thinks she is bi-sexual or a lesbian or maybe none of the above. She is really confused. It’s causing her much anxiety. Is there a website that helps guide confused individuals to find their true identity? Thanks ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/2 "2003-10-16T18:31:50Z")
I don’t think a website would be capable of that. My 2 cents ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/3 "2003-10-16T18:51:03Z")
Googling “gay youth resources” turns up lots of links. I didn’t review all of them but these appear to be supportive and free of propaganda: > **[365DaysReview](https://365daysreview.com/)** > > 365daysreview comprises of a professionals team who have knowledge regarding product reviews. We listing with the most reliable products such as home, kitchen, outdoor and others. [http://www.youth.org/](http://www.youth.org/) [http://www.outproud.org/](http://www.outproud.org/) [http://www.microweb.com/rogm/gay-youth-resources.html](http://www.microweb.com/rogm/gay-youth-resources.html) And for Mom: [www.pflag.org](http://www.pflag.org) ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/4 "2003-10-16T18:59:16Z")
Thanks Otto. I will gladly pass on the sites you linked but I will forgo the PFLAG for the mom. She is a strong Christian and is against the idea of homosexuality and when I viewed that site, it seemed as though it was in strong support of gay & lesbian children. ---
**Author:** ![LifeOnWry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/96bed5/32.png) [@LifeOnWry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LifeOnWry)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/5 "2003-10-16T19:03:44Z")
**Isabelle** - PFLAG is a great organization. Don’t discount them for your friend. I’m sure many parents there have been uncomfortable with their children’s sexuality, but it’s a wonderful resource and if your friend’s daughter is indeed gay or bisexual, they can help her come to terms with that WITHIN the realm of her own religious beliefs. ---
**Author:** ![kung\_fu\_lola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f4b2a3/32.png) [@kung\_fu\_lola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kung_fu_lola)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/6 "2003-10-16T19:08:11Z")
**Isabelle** , if your friend’s mother doesn’t believe in support for gay and lesbian children, getting yourself involved in this situation might be a bad idea. It sounds like a bloodbath waiting to happen. I’d back away slowly if I were you. ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/7 "2003-10-16T19:24:02Z")
> [@](#): > > I’d back away slowly if I were you. Yes maybe I should. I just hate to see people struggling. ---
**Author:** ![White\_Ink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c0e974/32.png) [@White\_Ink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/White_Ink)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/8 "2003-10-16T19:37:07Z")
who is confused, the woman or her mother? I feel bad for families that have to confront these circumstances. My father’s best friend is a religious man. This man has three sons, the youngest is gay. The father & his wife warmly accept & welcome the wives & families of their older sons. The youngest son (who is now at least 40 yrs old) never has an easy time of it when he wants to visit and bring his partner with. His dad feels like the son is shoving his “lifestyle choice” in his face. The son just wants to feel accepted and loved for who he is and in the same measure as his sibs. Sucks all around. **Isabelle** If your friend’s daughter is a lesbian, your friend is going to have a really rough time. I know that there are Christian organizations out there that support gays, lesbians and their families. PFLAG is great, but might be over the top for your friend, esp at first. I’d see if I could find any contact info for those Christian resources. ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/9 "2003-10-16T19:50:26Z")
The daughter is the one confused. She doesn’t know exactly what her orientation is. The mother is upset because she is a Christian and is against homosexuality and doesn’t want her daughter to be anything more then straight. I couldn’t find any Christian support groups. Maybe because Christianity (to my knowledge) doesn’t embrace this lifestyle. I know my church has a club (for lack of better word) for “recovering homosexuals” Those who once lived the lifestyle as a gay or lesbian but have seen the light and now want to live on the straight and narrow road. ---
**Author:** ![Dinsdale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/97f17d/32.png) [@Dinsdale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dinsdale)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/10 "2003-10-16T19:58:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Isabelle \* > \*\*I know my church has a club (for lack of better word) for “recovering homosexuals” Those who once lived the lifestyle as a gay or lesbian but have seen the light and now want to live on the straight and narrow road. \*\* Man! Even tho I know it’s not funny, since reading this gem I haven’t been able to wipe the grin off my face. Praise the lord and pass the Playboys! ---
**Author:** ![NotWithoutRage](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/22d042/32.png) [@NotWithoutRage](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NotWithoutRage)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/11 "2003-10-16T19:59:05Z")
[Youth Guardian Services](http://www.youth-guard.org) is a great site that has email lists to support questioning youth. (I believe that it does go up to 25 years). Also, one site that really deals well with the Christian/gay disparity is [Bridges Across](http://www.bridges-across.org) ---
**Author:** ![LifeOnWry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/96bed5/32.png) [@LifeOnWry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LifeOnWry)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/12 "2003-10-16T20:02:47Z")
Wait… is this woman trying to help her daughter sort out her own feelings, or is she trying to find a way to convince her daughter that her feelings are wrong? Somehow I suspect I’m not going to be happy with the answer here. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/13 "2003-10-16T20:07:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Isabelle \* > \*\*I know my church has a club (for lack of better word) for “recovering homosexuals” Those who once lived the lifestyle as a gay or lesbian but have seen the light and now want to live on the straight and narrow road. \*\* Ee—_yikes!_ The best thing you can do is get that poor girl onto the SDMB as soon as possible. She will get good advice here from straights, gays, atheists _and_ Christians. ---
**Author:** ![Horrifying\_Howler\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/df788c/32.png) [@Horrifying\_Howler\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Horrifying_Howler_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/14 "2003-10-16T20:19:59Z")
> [@](#): > > I know my church has a club (for lack of better word) for “recovering homosexuals” Those who once lived the lifestyle as a gay or lesbian but have seen the light and now want to live on the straight and narrow road. I have never wanted to use the roll eyes smiley before reading this quote. Yeesh. ---
**Author:** ![Dinsdale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/97f17d/32.png) [@Dinsdale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dinsdale)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/15 "2003-10-16T20:20:49Z")
**Eve** - do I sense resentment that you simply haven’t found the right church? Let us pray together. I know it’s evil of me, but dammit I’m still smiling! ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/16 "2003-10-16T20:26:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LifeOnWry \* > \*\*Wait… is this woman trying to help her daughter sort out her own feelings, or is she trying to find a way to convince her daughter that her feelings are wrong? > > Somehow I suspect I’m not going to be happy with the answer here. \*\* Well it is a little more complicated then I have explained thus far. My friend gave her daugher (Morgan) up for adoption when she was born. So my friend has not had any influence on Morgan while growing up and so you are now dealing with the pain & suffering of a mother who was torn from her child coupled with the guilt of not being able to be there and support her and offer her religious bringing up. Now throw in the mix that they just met a year ago. The mother is trying to bond/fuse and freely love this 25 yr old. This is very traumatic without throwing in the mix that the daugher has now confessed that she doesn’t know what her orientation is. To a strong Christian this is terrible news. Although I haven’t asked her if she is trying to “convince” Morgan she is straight I strongly suspect that she is leaning in that direction. The mother has asked me to please pray for Morgan. ---
**Author:** ![Dinsdale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/97f17d/32.png) [@Dinsdale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dinsdale)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/17 "2003-10-16T20:34:24Z")
Goodness, **Isabelle** but you certainly live quite the soap opera! I can’t wait for next week’s plot developments. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/18 "2003-10-16T20:41:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Isabelle \* > **My friend gave her daugher (Morgan) up for adoption when she was born. So my friend has not had any influence on Morgan while growing up and so you are now dealing with the pain & suffering of a mother who was torn from her child coupled with the guilt of not being able to be there and support her and offer her religious bringing up.** Morgan is one lucky, lucky young woman. ---
**Author:** ![belladonna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/9fc29f/32.png) [@belladonna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/belladonna)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/19 "2003-10-16T20:45:11Z")
My thoughts exactly, **Eve**. ---
**Author:** ![White\_Ink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c0e974/32.png) [@White\_Ink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/White_Ink)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2003, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816/20 "2003-10-16T20:47:20Z")
Egads. My official diagnosis of this situation is trainwreck. Personally, I’d be praying for compassion, and Christian love to overcome diversity, and asking God to show me how to love those who’s views I don’t agree with. I’d also be polishing my running shoes for the quick departure. We all know how this play ends, right? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/questioning-sexual-orientation-need-website/207816.md?page=2)