# Raising Sons v. Raising Daughters

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/raising-sons-v-raising-daughters/477912>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [December 19, 2008, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/raising-sons-v-raising-daughters/477912 "2008-12-19T15:28:44Z")\
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**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\
**Post date:** [December 20, 2008, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/raising-sons-v-raising-daughters/477912/21 "2008-12-20T00:23:52Z")

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We also have one of each. My daughter is a loud tomboyish type who devours books like they’re going out of style and can intelligently discuss the Ohio State Buckeye starting football lineup with you, to the point that teachers who are Wolverine fans have thrown up their hands in defeat. She had to be told quite sternly that no, she couldn’t do judo for a week while her knee healed. She wanted to suck it up and keep going.

My son is more laid back, more into computers than sports. He likes to read but can’t seem to find enough time, and recently got into archery…he strung his own bow and wants arrows and a quiver for Christmas.

Bottom line is, don’t raise them by gender. Raise them based on their personality. Love them love them love them, and instill a passion for reading at an early age. After that, it’s pretty much learn as you go.

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**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\
**Post date:** [December 20, 2008, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/raising-sons-v-raising-daughters/477912/22 "2008-12-20T00:28:35Z")

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> [@ivylass](#):
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> Bottom line is, don’t raise them by gender. Raise them based on their personality. Love them love them love them, and instill a passion for reading at an early age. After that, it’s pretty much learn as you go.

**ivylass** , I couldn’t have said it any better. Thank you. 🙂

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**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\
**Post date:** [December 20, 2008, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/raising-sons-v-raising-daughters/477912/23 "2008-12-20T00:40:14Z")

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Thanks. The thing is, you’re going to fuck up. Every parent does. But being able to apologize to your children at the time of said fuck up (not years later, when they’re adults) I think helps too.

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**Author:** ![Critical1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3e96dc/32.png) [@Critical1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Critical1)\
**Post date:** [December 20, 2008, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/raising-sons-v-raising-daughters/477912/24 "2008-12-20T02:09:17Z")

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just teach her how to tell her right from her left

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