# Rate your overall attractiveness to the opposite sex **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 19, 2010, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250 "2010-11-19T19:07:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/1 "2010-11-19T19:07:37Z")
Attraction meaning the whole package, not just looks. Two questions. Rate yourself. Rate your partner wrt to yourself. For example if you are a 7 and your partner is a 10, his/her rating is a +3 ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/2 "2010-11-19T21:16:29Z")
So hard to rate myself- in the mirror I think I’m reasonably attractive, but in photographs I’m always thinking “_that’s_ what I really look like?!?!” I think my wife blows me away in some areas, but loses ground in some others. Overall, I think we’re pretty evenly matched. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/3 "2010-11-19T23:07:40Z")
Experience suggests I must be fairly low, 3 or 4. No partner, so couldn’t answer that part. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Odds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/d_odds/32/2882_2.png) [@D\_Odds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Odds)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/4 "2010-11-19T23:20:03Z")
Assuming a bell curve, I’m right in the middle. When we first got together, my wife would have been about +2. Years have been kinder to me…now we’re both right in the middle. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/5 "2010-11-19T23:25:11Z")
I’m not particularly ugly - some people think I’m good looking - but I’m very fat, so I gave myself a 4. My wife is very pretty, but also very fat, and I know that people would not consider her as attractive as I do. I voted us even. Were we both of average weight, I’d give her an 8 or 9, and myself a 7, for a +2 to her. ETA : Aw, shit, I just based it on looks. We’re both very smart, with great senses of humor, so maybe bump us each up a point. Joe ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/6 "2010-11-19T23:25:57Z")
This one is hard for me, as what would lower my rating as it pertains to the majority of people (namely, having an excess of curves and pounds), really really attracts my partner. I’m pretty sure, no shitting, he’d put me as a 9, whereas most people would say 6 or 7. Myself, I’d choose a 7 on average self-esteem days, with a foray into an 8 if I really work at it. He’s a lovely, lovely person, but not terribly objective in this area. Which suits me just fine! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![gladtobeblazed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/85f322/32.png) [@gladtobeblazed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gladtobeblazed)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/7 "2010-11-19T23:28:05Z")
I’ve had a few women tell me that I’m a beautiful man, but I’ve gained a bit of weight since then. They also said I was easily lovable and a great lover. If I got back into shape I’d probably be an 8 or 9. I don’t think I could ever be a 10 because I don’t have a lot of ambition, I can be a bit shy and I only have an average size penis. So right now I guess I’m around a 7. All the partners I’ve had were probably in the 6-9 range. ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/8 "2010-11-19T23:36:15Z")
I’d say I’m a 7 or an 8. I’m nearly 40, I could lose 10 pounds, but my nights out with the girls vary between “several numbers given and requests for dates” and “beating them off with a stick”. Probably on average I’m 40% first choice and 60% second behind some 25 year old who rejected them. 🙂 My partners have varied from “Holy crap, you go girl!” to “Really? That guy?” A guy either does it for me or he doesn’t, and it’s mostly not about looks. I feel like this should be a picture thread. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/9 "2010-11-19T23:51:30Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > So hard to rate myself- in the mirror I think I’m reasonably attractive, but in photographs I’m always thinking “_that’s_ what I really look like?!?!” I have the same reaction! It’s hard to rate myself. I’ve always thought that the people I’ve dated have been more attractive than me but who knows, maybe they felt the same thing. According to OkCupid’s MyBestFace I’m like a 6.5 (or a 5.5, depending which picture we’re basing it on). So I’ll go with that. Edit: After voting I see that the scores are weighted just like video game scores: Toward the 7 instead of the 5. ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/10 "2010-11-19T23:58:07Z")
Oh wait… whole package? 23. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/11 "2010-11-20T00:13:10Z")
I honestly, sincerely do not have a CLUE as to my attractiveness. Whatever it is, I consider my SO significantly more attractive than I am, so, I would probably rate him as a +4, at least. He’s one of those guys who gets hit on a lot, even when I’m with him (hello, I’m standing RIGHT HERE), and never even notices. Which makes him even more attractive to me 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/12 "2010-11-20T01:09:34Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > Experience suggests I must be fairly low, 3 or 4. No partner, so couldn’t answer that part. Similarly, the paucity of relationships in my life suggests I’m maybe a 4 in totality. A very few times, though, I’ve dated, and these women were significantly more attractive than myself. ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/13 "2010-11-20T01:13:00Z")
I said I was a 6. I don’t think I am classically attractive by beauty mag/fashion model standards, but I have an interesting and expressive face, curves where they should be, and a good smile. So I figure that puts me to just a hair above average. Mr. Whatsit, on the other hand, is a rock star. I honestly don’t know what he sees in me. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/14 "2010-11-20T02:36:14Z")
**Robot Arm and Sunspace** , I think you’re both being unnecessarily hard on yourselves. I went and looked at your pictures, because I don’t recall either of you being hosebeasts, and you’re not. I can’t answer this question, either; I have no idea how attractive I am to the opposite sex. Attractive enough to attract a man who I think is gorgeous, so attractive enough, I guess. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/15 "2010-11-20T02:53:26Z")
Opposite sex I don’t know or really care (being gay), but to the same sex about a 7 based on how often I get hit on or have been able to pick up who I wanted. My partner I said plus one, but he’s probably more a plus 2 in many people’s eyes. ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/16 "2010-11-20T03:53:28Z")
I’d say my husband and I score the same, on the raw materials of looks and personality. He scores a +1 on me for being physically fit, whereas I can’t be bothered to get the extra poundage off. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/17 "2010-11-20T03:59:58Z")
Atractiveness how? The extent to which they are inclined to fall in love with me? The extent to which they are inlined to find me cute amusing adorable delicious and beddable? The extent to which they find me buff, shapely, visually desirable? Something else entirely? Is 1 good and 10 is bad or vice versa? Oh, and which partner? Do you want an average? ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/18 "2010-11-20T07:55:40Z")
I’m still single, which speaks for itself. However, I’ll let the ladies [rate](http://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r139/quartz-quill/SDMB/overbite.jpg) [me](http://s143.photobucket.com/albums/r139/quartz-quill/SDMB/?action=view¤t=DSC00033.jpg) based on my photos and my posts. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 8:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/19 "2010-11-20T08:59:26Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > So hard to rate myself- in the mirror I think I’m reasonably attractive, but in photographs I’m always thinking “_that’s_ what I really look like?!?!” Wow, I have that experience too. Video is even worse. I’ll be feeling OK about myself, then see a pic or a vid of myself and feel miserable for a week afterwards. Anyway, physically a few months ago I’d have rated myself as a 1 or a 3 on a good day, but I’ve lately been doing CBT for the above-mentioned very low opinion of myself. And the therapist has forced me to look at the evidence of my life: with one or two exceptions, I’ve always been involved with women I’d put in the 7-10 bracket. My ex wife is stunning; the girl I went out with after her is not only one of the best-looking women I’ve ever had the pleasure with, she’s one of the best looking women I’ve ever met in the flesh (in face and body she looks just like [Lucy Pinder](http://www.google.co.uk/search?q=lucy+pinder&um=1&hl=en&biw=1366&bih=653&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&tab=iw) - two-click rule observed); my current girlfriend is a dark-eyed Italian cutie. And those, and several others with whom I’ve had one-night stands, are just the ones who have persisted with me. There have been many other very attractive girls, up to 20 years younger than me, that I now realise in retrospect were giving me signals, but I remained too underconfident in my physical attributes to give those hints any credence - instead assuming I was misinterpreting what was going on. So either I must be “one charming motherfucking pig”, that all these babes are making +6 or +7 attractiveness-disparity decisions about me, or I am in fact better looking than I think. When I look back on old photos, I safely conclude that in my early twenties I was definitely a solid 9 drop-dead handsome (for my height bracket anyway - I’m 5’6" but that doesn’t seem to have mattered to my much-taller exes), yet I _still_ felt about myself as underconfident then as I do now. So despite an extra 15 lbs and 20 years of hard living since then, I’m finally being forced to conclude that I must be a 6-7 for my height and age - or perhaps a little lower but with a lot more charisma than I give myself credit for. ---
**Author:** ![AnalogSignal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/analogsignal/32/1085_2.png) [@AnalogSignal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnalogSignal)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2010, 9:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-overall-attractiveness-to-the-opposite-sex/561250/20 "2010-11-20T09:07:27Z")
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