# Rate Your Spouse/Lover/Partner **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 11, 2011, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550 "2011-11-11T00:36:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![brittekland](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aeb1de/32.png) [@brittekland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brittekland)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/1 "2011-11-11T00:36:07Z")
Rate Your Spouse/Lover/Partner: 1. I found my [destined soul mate](http://img195.imageshack.us/img195/7588/46048c9f8b6fa509568498f.jpg) 2. I did fantastic: I’m blessed 3. ``` [Perfect Match](http://img638.imageshack.us/img638/7154/justlittlethingstumblr.png): I’m satisfied. ``` 4. Sane, normal and lovely 5. I’m content; I can’t do any better 6. Slightly eccentric 7. Just slight temper 8. Eccentric 9. [Little Weird](http://img708.imageshack.us/img708/1350/chemicallyattachedtumbl.jpg) 10. Pretty Weird 11. Bad temper 12. Borderline crazy 13. Crazy 14. Insane 15. Clinically Insane 16. [Evil](http://img221.imageshack.us/img221/2425/tumblrlm1xewxgyl1qc6pwz.jpg) 17. Other (explain) A poll to follow. EDIT: Ooops, I forgot to click on the poll option. NO POLL! ---
**Author:** ![brittekland](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aeb1de/32.png) [@brittekland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brittekland)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/2 "2011-11-11T00:51:51Z")
:rolleyes: Well, I did figure out how to add the poll but I screwed up yet again by forgetting to include “Evil” option… that was the reason I had one extra option left over… so I added "I take 5th option. :rolleyes: Sorry for the mess. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![flatlined](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/eb9ed0/32.png) [@flatlined](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flatlined)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/3 "2011-11-11T03:53:16Z")
I couldn’t find the poll but I understand how that happens. I understand how guys can not get things up 🙂 If there was a poll, I would have voted other. Bill isn’t my soulmate. I’m not his. We are both agreed that we are a port in the storm and when our life storms move back to sea, we will look for other ships. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/4 "2011-11-11T04:07:37Z")
1. I have found my eternal soulmate, and I am a very blessed woman. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 12:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/5 "2011-11-11T12:57:53Z")
Another eternal soulmate here. It’s crazy how well we fit together. I couldn’t have asked for a better companion. ---
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 1:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/6 "2011-11-11T13:29:40Z")
I voted for option 2 - I don’t believe in soul mates, or “perfect matches”, but I couldn’t happier with the man I’m spending my life with. ---
**Author:** ![Acid\_Lamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Acid\_Lamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acid_Lamp)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/7 "2011-11-11T14:29:21Z")
I did fantastic. **Nashiitashii** is a genuinely wonderful human being, and there just are not too many of those floating around. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/8 "2011-11-11T16:02:34Z")
I don’t believe in destiny, much less a single destined soul mate. As a wise woman once said, “The ‘one’ isn’t a man; it’s a relationship.” I do, however, think that I’m lucky to run into one of my possible perfect mates. We complement each other so well, he often seems to understand what I really need long before I do. ---
**Author:** ![perfectparanoia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a5b964/32.png) [@perfectparanoia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/perfectparanoia)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/9 "2011-11-11T17:06:59Z")
The options are not mutually exclusive, I want to be able to choose more than one! ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_Neville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Anne\_Neville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anne_Neville)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/10 "2011-11-11T17:53:19Z")
Other: He’s eccentric and not normal, and that’s good. A non-eccentric, normal person would run away screaming from me within a week. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/11 "2011-11-11T18:17:41Z")
> [@flatlined](#): > > If there was a poll, I would have voted other. Bill isn’t my soulmate. I’m not his. We are both agreed that we are a port in the storm and when our life storms move back to sea, we will look for other ships. This descibes my situation pretty well. We really like each other and have the best times, but it’s clear that it’s not permanent. ---
**Author:** ![cjepson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a9adbd/32.png) [@cjepson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cjepson)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/12 "2011-11-11T18:27:16Z")
> [@perfectparanoia](#): > > The options are not mutually exclusive, I want to be able to choose more than one! I was going to say that. It’s a very strange set of options. I could pick about six. ---
**Author:** ![Soliloquy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5ac83/32.png) [@Soliloquy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soliloquy)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/13 "2011-11-11T18:30:49Z")
I don’t think I believe in soul mates, but friends who do say he and I are the real thing. Single friends look at my relationship with my man and tell me it gives them hope that love exists and can be found. If there is a perfect person in this world for me, he is that person. There may be another person with whom I could be happy, but I’ll never know because I’ll never be looking. It took us 17 years and a lot of heartbreak on both our parts to realize that we belonged together. We’re done now. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/14 "2011-11-11T20:21:00Z")
I don’t believe in soul mates, so I picked the 2nd option. ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/15 "2011-11-11T21:34:47Z")
I found what I needed instead of what I (thought I) wanted. Not sure where that fits in your poll. Roddy ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/16 "2011-11-11T21:57:00Z")
> [@perfectparanoia](#): > > The options are not mutually exclusive, I want to be able to choose more than one! This. I want to pick 1-6, and a little of some of the others. ---
**Author:** ![JustinC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/justinc/32/8083_2.png) [@JustinC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JustinC)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/17 "2011-11-11T22:22:08Z")
I tend to be drawn to slightly eccentric women, even though I’ve had relationships with fantastic normal partners. I think this allows me to be a bit weird and not feel like I’m the odd one. ---
**Author:** ![brittekland](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aeb1de/32.png) [@brittekland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brittekland)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2011, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/18 "2011-11-12T23:53:37Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > This. I want to pick 1-6, and a little of some of the others. Yeah, I think I could’ve/should’ve done a multi choice poll, in hind sight. The poll choices are essentially based on what I felt as \*\*\* the one thing that stands out\*\*\* in my relationships… as for the negative ones, they are the ones that can “break the horse’s back”, aside from infidelity, like “temper”. If I’m really in love I’d say to myself I can deal with this one uncalled-for out burst of temper… then there would be another one and so on and eventually I would find that I cannot. ---
**Author:** ![gracer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@gracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gracer)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2011, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/19 "2011-11-13T01:34:57Z")
Soulmate, no question. He is also fairly normal (I’m the weird one) & stunning & romantic & lovely. But why didn’t you make the option “he is my soulmate & I love him, but sadly my soulmate turns out to be an incompetent fool, despite having an IQ of about 5 billion”? That would work for me. ---
**Author:** ![brittekland](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aeb1de/32.png) [@brittekland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brittekland)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2011, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550/20 "2011-11-13T02:01:00Z")
> [@gracer](#): > > why didn’t you make the option "he is my soulmate & I love him I figured, why wouldn’t you be in love with your “soul mate”. I didn’t think about anyone’s soul mate being an incompetent fool though… what fate! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rate-your-spouse-lover-partner/602550.md?page=2)