# Realization - I don't like the long hair look on guys **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 27, 2005, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682 "2005-05-27T00:00:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![chaoticbear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f07891/32.png) [@chaoticbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chaoticbear)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/1 "2005-05-27T00:00:59Z")
Period. I don’t know what it is. It’s not just hair down the back either. I also hate the look that is in among men right now to have it down to their chin, and have it be tousled at the ends. Hair extending to the ears is OK, but I’d prefer my men with short hair. Like very short. Like, if you can see your hair without looking in a mirror, it’s too long kind of stuff. Preferred is if it’s short enough that it could be done with buzzers. I’m sorry, my long-haired brothers. I don’t have anything else to add. ---
**Author:** ![MagicEyes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@MagicEyes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MagicEyes)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/2 "2005-05-27T00:31:58Z")
That’s okay–more long-haired men for the rest of us! I like men with long hair–not really long, just over the collar’s enough. Enough to run my fingers through. Mmmmm, nice. But use conditioner! Long, dry hair just looks bad. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/3 "2005-05-27T01:17:40Z")
In general, I tend to be attracted to guys with short hair (especially with some facial hair), but there certainly have been exceptions. What I really can’t stand are guys who are bald on top, with either combovers or “Bozo” hair or ponytails. Do these guys ever look in a mirror? ---
**Author:** ![pasunejen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/58956e/32.png) [@pasunejen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pasunejen)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/4 "2005-05-27T03:20:58Z")
I’ve liked the shoulder-length hair look on guys for a long time, but in the past couple years I’ve realized that I just don’t find it attractive on people I’m actually thinking of being in physical contact with. I like anything between a normal short haircut and a longish shaggy short cut (if that makes any sense outside my head). Buzz cuts and really long hair on guys both bother me. The former doesn’t give me anything to bury my fingers in; the latter is too much, and too prone to looking icky even if it’s well taken care of… ---
**Author:** ![chaoticbear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f07891/32.png) [@chaoticbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chaoticbear)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/5 "2005-05-27T04:05:54Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > In general, I tend to be attracted to guys with short hair (especially with some facial hair), but there certainly have been exceptions. > > What I really can’t stand are guys who are bald on top, with either combovers or “Bozo” hair or ponytails. Do these guys ever look in a mirror? Yes, facial hair too. I feel the same way about it. I LOVE facial hair if it’s trimmed. There’s nothing better than a man with a buzz cut and a trimmed beard. Just… don’t let it grow out too far. It looks icky then. ---
**Author:** ![Licentious\_Ectomorph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@Licentious\_Ectomorph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Licentious_Ectomorph)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 12:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/6 "2005-05-27T12:20:27Z")
I’m with you, **chaoticdonkey**. To me, long hair = feminine. Nothing is a bigger turn-off. I like my men with short, masculine haircuts. If I wanted someone with long hair, I’d be straight and date a woman. Even touching the ears or collar is pushing it. People who lust after Sawyer on _Lost_ are welcome to him; I find him repellant. Even the doc, who has little more than stubble on his head, doesn’t work for be because I’ve _seen_ him with long hair. To me he’s still that grungy guy on _Party of Five_, and I can’t get past that. (Now Charlie is a different story altogether. :D) Fortunately most of the gay community seems to be on the same page with regard to long hair. It is exceedingly rare to see a gay man with hair even approaching “long” – at least in this area, where there’s a high incidence of professional/government types. Not sure about the rest of the country but I imagine the standard is pretty universal. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/7 "2005-05-27T13:21:26Z")
I think long hair is pretty no matter whose head it’s on. However, many long haired men fall into one of two camps: they neglect it and let it get scraggly, or they’re constantly preening themselves before the mirror. Please, find middle ground. ---
**Author:** ![chaoticbear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f07891/32.png) [@chaoticbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chaoticbear)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/8 "2005-05-27T13:57:19Z")
> [@Licentious Ectomorph](#): > > I’m with you, **chaoticdonkey**. Yay! ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/9 "2005-05-27T15:05:07Z")
My observation is the vast majority of men with long hair don’t take nearly the care of it they should… it’s split endy and gross looking. I know a few men who keep good care of their long hair and it’s not repulsive, although not really my thing. Short hair all the way babeeeee! ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/10 "2005-05-27T15:10:37Z")
As a rule, I don’t like the look of long hair on men either. I’m a Republican, though, so technically I’m not supposed to. ---
**Author:** ![Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hey_It_s_That_Guy)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/11 "2005-05-27T15:15:48Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > In general, I tend to be attracted to guys with short hair (especially with some facial hair) > [@chaoticdonkey](#): > > Yes, facial hair too. I feel the same way about it. I LOVE facial hair if it’s trimmed. There’s nothing better than a man with a buzz cut and a trimmed beard. How YOU ladies doin’? ---
**Author:** ![susan\_foster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@susan\_foster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan_foster)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/12 "2005-05-27T15:20:41Z")
Some guys can do long hair well. Some have it really greasy, though. Don’t know why, but it seems that long hair for guys is more likely than long hair on girls to be greasy. Susan ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/13 "2005-05-27T15:31:34Z")
I’ve only preferred two guys with long hair: Ian Astbury of The Cult, and Anthony Kiedis of The Red Hot Chili Peppers (it really doesn’t help that when he got his hair cut shorter, he chose a really awful cut. Bleah.). Every other man, especially if it’s about shoulder length, I just…no. Every time I see Johnny Damon on TV, I yell, “Get a haircut!” **UncleBill** keeps his hair in an almost military cut, which I love. I really enjoy running my hand over that short fuzz at the back, and of course there’s all that wonderful neck to kiss. _happy sigh_ ---
**Author:** ![pasunejen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/58956e/32.png) [@pasunejen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pasunejen)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/14 "2005-05-27T15:49:15Z")
> [@Geobabe](#): > > Every time I see Johnny Damon on TV, I yell, “Get a haircut!” He can’t get a haircut! Sure, his hair looks better short, but scruffy hair mojo is what allowed the Sox to win the World Series last season. (I feel compelled to mention that the Sox were made over for the first episode of the new season of Queer Eye. Apparently they let him keep the hair, since he’s still got it.) ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/15 "2005-05-27T17:50:51Z")
I’m actually trying to see how long I can grow my hair. Not really “rock star” hair. Basically on the Lost hair scale: Locke Jack Boone Charlie Sawyer Sayid I’m about mid-way between Charlie and Sawyer. The general consensis is that it looks better that way. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/16 "2005-05-27T17:55:51Z")
It’s… Locke Jack **Jin** Boone Charlie Sawyer Sayid **Hurley** … if you want to be picky. ---
**Author:** ![fifty-six](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@fifty-six](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fifty-six)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/17 "2005-05-27T18:22:51Z")
I keep my beard slighty longer than my hair. I have been cutting my hair shorter and shorter every couple years for about 6 years now. I now cut it with a #1buzzer and let it grow out to about 1.5 inches or so before its time to cut again. I use to have somewhat long hair and now I love having it short I cant seem to cut it shor enough. I tell my wife that I cant wait till all my hair falls out. She doent think its funny. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/18 "2005-05-27T19:49:42Z")
I"ve never had mine much beyond the shoulders. I’ve been thinking I should see if I like it down to mid-back, just to try it once. I bet it would look really cool if I grew it out that long once it turns grey-white 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![DrLoveGun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@DrLoveGun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrLoveGun)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/19 "2005-05-27T20:15:45Z")
At one time I had hair half-way to my ass. I was all heavy metal. But one day I decided that it was too hot, too much like work to keep it looking nice. So on my lunch break I just cut it off. All of it. Which lead to my boss walking up to my desk and asking if he could help me. Very funny when he realized it was me he was talking to. So now its short and spiky, not to short, but short enough. Sometimes I tip it in blonde, sometimes not. It all depends. And I keep my goatee short enough to match. Its so much easier that it was when I was long and scraggly. And I was long and scraggly. Think Brad Pitt in Legends of the Fall. Now it’s like Brad Pitt in Oceans Eleven, just made spiky. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2005, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682/20 "2005-05-27T20:15:57Z")
> [@Big Bad Voodoo Lou](#): > > How YOU ladies doin’? Who you callin’ a lady? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realization-i-dont-like-the-long-hair-look-on-guys/305682.md?page=2)