# Regrets **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 21, 2017, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325 "2017-11-21T22:12:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Rago](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b2d939/32.png) [@Rago](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rago)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2017, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/1 "2017-11-21T22:12:22Z")
My gf moved to my country and I shifted with her in a home but my family pressurized me a lot and I had financial issues too so I asked her to go back your country and give me 3 months to resolve these issues so she said I can’t go back to my home I can only stay at my ex home she visited before too and when I started relationship with her they lived in a same home cause both were students and she said to me by herself my roommate was my bf before but I don’t have any relationship with him now… so I was comfortable with this idea now she staying at his place but she not feel comfortable and blaming me it’s me who sent her there… now I feel so bad … ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2017, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/2 "2017-11-21T22:15:02Z")
Reported for forum change. ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2017, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/3 "2017-11-21T22:23:24Z")
**Moderator Action** Welcome to the SDMB, **Rago**. Please note that the General Questions forum is for questions with factual answers. Since this seeks advice and opinions, I will move it to our In My Humble Opinion forum for you. Moving thread from GQ to IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![Rago](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b2d939/32.png) [@Rago](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rago)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2017, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/4 "2017-11-21T22:41:16Z")
I used first time this site so I don’t know about it… yes you can move Thank you ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2017, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/5 "2017-11-21T22:42:45Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Reported for forum change. To where, Runonsentenceberg, Whogivesashitistan? **Rago** , we _all_ feel bad. See what you’ve done? It’s all _your_ fault. ---
**Author:** ![Jack\_Batty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jack_batty/32/3201_2.png) [@Jack\_Batty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jack_Batty)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2017, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/6 "2017-11-21T22:48:39Z")
> [@Rago](#): > > My gf moved to my country and I shifted with her in a home but my family pressurized me a lot and I had financial issues too so I asked her to go back your country and give me 3 months to resolve these issues so she said I can’t go back to my home I can only stay at my ex home she visited before too and when I started relationship with her they lived in a same home cause both were students and she said to me by herself my roommate was my bf before but I don’t have any relationship with him now… so I was comfortable with this idea now she staying at his place but she not feel comfortable and blaming me it’s me who sent her there… now I feel so bad … The world’s first incidence of the rare 132 bar blues. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2017, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/7 "2017-11-21T22:53:08Z")
3 months isn’t really a long time to ride things out. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2017, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/8 "2017-11-21T23:06:29Z")
I think his grasp on English might be lacking. I am willing to cut him a break, sounds as though he’s in a pickle. Dude, grow apair and tell your family," This is who I want to be with"! If GF goes home you may not ever get together again. You are taking a huge gamble. IMHO ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/9 "2017-11-22T01:06:41Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > To where, Runonsentenceberg, Whogivesashitistan? > > **Rago** , we _all_ feel bad. See what you’ve done? It’s all _your_ fault. This sounds like a personal attack. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/10 "2017-11-22T01:09:23Z")
…I’ve had a few… ---
**Author:** ![Ulfreida](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ulfreida/32/8014_2.png) [@Ulfreida](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ulfreida)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/11 "2017-11-22T01:28:45Z")
In English, sentences which are not divided up with commas between clauses, and periods at the ends of complete thoughts, will be so hard to read that few will try. This forum is more literate than most and will be even less apt to try. Also, this forum has a larger percentage of sarcastic smart asses than average. My serious advice is to learn to use punctuation. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/12 "2017-11-22T01:34:50Z")
> [@cochrane](#): > > This sounds like a personal attack. Puh-lease. It was commentary on the total lack of grammar in the OP. For all I know the Op is a veritable Prince Among Posters, yea a Bodhisattva of the Intrawebs. We should all wait with bated breath to see what further communications the Chosen One makes with us. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/13 "2017-11-22T01:38:07Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > Puh-lease. It was commentary on the total lack of grammar in the OP. For all I know the Op is a veritable Prince Among Posters, yea a Bodhisattva of the Intrawebs. We should all wait with bated breath to see what further communications the Chosen One makes with us. I didn’t mean to post that. My apologies. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/14 "2017-11-22T01:42:37Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > To where, Runonsentenceberg, Whogivesashitistan? > > **Rago** , we _all_ feel bad. See what you’ve done? It’s all _your_ fault. > [@Ulfreida](#): > > In English, sentences which are not divided up with commas between clauses, and periods at the ends of complete thoughts, will be so hard to read that few will try. > > This forum is more literate than most and will be even less apt to try. > > Also, this forum has a larger percentage of sarcastic smart asses than average. > > My serious advice is to learn to use punctuation. > [@silenus](#): > > Puh-lease. It was commentary on the total lack of grammar in the OP. For all I know the Op is a veritable Prince Among Posters, yea a Bodhisattva of the Intrawebs. We should all wait with bated breath to see what further communications the Chosen One makes with us. Enough, folks. Your heartfelt advice about the OP’s sentence construction has been given. Now either address the actual content of the post, or stay out of the thread. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/15 "2017-11-22T01:55:33Z")
What’s done is done. Focus on what you need to do to fix the situation. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/16 "2017-11-22T02:13:46Z")
What is your home country, Rago? Here in the U.S., I know quite a few exes who live together because they can’t afford housing otherwise. ---
**Author:** ![dstarfire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dstarfire/32/5762_2.png) [@dstarfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dstarfire)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/17 "2017-11-22T03:26:48Z")
WHat specifically are you upset about? There are two things I would worry about in your situation. 1. You and your girlfriend made plans to live together. Your girlfriend spent a lot of effort to come live with you. You are no longer able to follow those plans. You’ve discovered she can’t go home. The only place she can stay is with an ex-boyfriend. You feel bad about breaking your promises and putting her in an uncomfortable situation. 2. You’re worried that she’ll resume dating the ex-boyfriend while you straighten out the problems that are holding you back. I have no advice for the first problem. If it’s the second problem (jealousy), think about why she broke up with that person. Usually people leave a relationship because something about their partner was unpleasant or bothersome. He may have realized he made a mistake and changed his behavior, but it’s unlikely (people generally don’t change dramatically in this short a time). However, if she left her previous BF simply because you’re a better choice, than she may go back to him. Either way, your best course of action is to put every effort into solving your problems as quickly as possible (the problems that made you send her away). ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/18 "2017-11-22T04:09:19Z")
Regrets are the only thing I have left. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/19 "2017-11-22T04:59:25Z")
Regrets. I’ve had a few. But then again, too few to mention. I did what I had to do, and saw it through without exemption. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2017, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325/20 "2017-11-22T06:43:01Z")
Regrets and sadness are what I survive on. If it weren’t for that I’d probably be happy or something. Ick!! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/regrets/802325.md?page=2)