# Rejected by eHarmony...again! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 16, 2006, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892 "2006-04-16T18:03:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![ultrafilter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/3d9bf3/32.png) [@ultrafilter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultrafilter)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/21 "2006-04-17T14:40:13Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > You people are _determined_ to make me feel bad about not being rejected by them, aren’t you? ☹ Hey, I didn’t get rejected either, so it must not be so bad. I did get some matches this morning, so I’ll check them out after work and report back. ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/22 "2006-04-17T14:51:52Z")
I figured this would happen, but I tried anyway. Imagine a school district blocking an internet dating site. Sheesh. ---
**Author:** ![the\_PC\_apeman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ac8455/32.png) [@the\_PC\_apeman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_PC_apeman)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/23 "2006-04-17T14:55:26Z")
After hearing Dr. Neil Clark Warren [interviewed](http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=4803877) by Terry Gross, I know I would be rejected. Gays and lesbians need not apply. ---
**Author:** ![Grossbottom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ba8739/32.png) [@Grossbottom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grossbottom)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/24 "2006-04-17T14:57:01Z")
What we really need is an eDiscord service. “We specialize in hooking you up in shallow relationships with wildly inappropriate people that your friends and family will despise,” have some pornstar in a devil costume do the commercial, fade to black with this adorable couple screaming baseless accusations at each other. Rejection criteria will be anyone with a shred of optimism as regards dating or the opposite sex. This could totally be a hit. I’d pay for those matches. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/25 "2006-04-17T15:00:21Z")
> [@Grossbottom](#): > > What we really need is an eDiscord service. “We specialize in hooking you up in shallow relationships with wildly inappropriate people that your friends and family will despise,” have some pornstar in a devil costume do the commercial, fade to black with this adorable couple screaming baseless accusations at each other. Rejection criteria will be anyone with a shred of optimism as regards dating or the opposite sex. > > This could totally be a hit. I’d pay for those matches. Heh. I basically already had that, in the form of some well-meaning friends who, being unable to bear my singleness, shoved any fool they could find at me. Maybe they could start the service. ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/26 "2006-04-17T15:41:54Z")
I’m proud to announce I’m part of the “unmatchable” club. By the way, I was completely unconvinced by my personnality analysis, and, though better, I didn’t find that Eharmony’s definition of my ideal match was very good. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/27 "2006-04-17T15:59:55Z")
A word of warning. Maybe two or three years ago there was a similar thread. I was still married at the time and I filled out the profile to see if I would be rejected or not. At the very end they ask if you are single, separated, divorced, widowed, etc. I checked “separated” and they told me that separated people aren’t allowed. The fucking back button was disabled and I couldn’t redo it. I spent half an hour on their god damned survey and I couldn’t get the result. I guess you could say that it served me right because I had no intention of using the service but still… ---
**Author:** ![Savannah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b3f665/32.png) [@Savannah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Savannah)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/28 "2006-04-17T16:29:36Z")
Man, that’s a long test. ---
**Author:** ![Savannah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b3f665/32.png) [@Savannah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Savannah)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/29 "2006-04-17T16:40:05Z")
A really long test. ---
**Author:** ![Savannah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b3f665/32.png) [@Savannah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Savannah)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/30 "2006-04-17T16:43:36Z")
…and: > [@](#): > > Unable to Match > > eHarmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive research with married couples. One of the requirements for successful matching is that participants to fall within certain defined profiles. If we find that we will not be able to match a user using these profiles, we feel it is only fair to inform them early in the process. > > We are so convinced of the importance of creating compatible matches to help people establish happy, lasting relationships that we sometimes choose not to provide service rather than risk an uncertain match. > > Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time. > > You can still receive your free Personality Profile by clicking here. It’s not just you. ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/31 "2006-04-17T16:44:27Z")
I didn’t get rejected. Boo. Their description of my best match started out promising–described to a tee my current honey, in fact–but subsequent pages just seemed middle of the road. “Your ideal match is neither +X nor -X…” over and over. Its description of me had some statements that were wildly inaccurate, but the overall jist–you are a capable, competent kind of gal–was what people keep telling me. _Sniff_ I wish I wasn’t so competent. I want help. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/32 "2006-04-17T16:47:18Z")
Screw eHarmony. I tried it once years ago, and I got rejected too. So this year when I hit the dating circuit I tried Match to unbelievable success. No problem finding people to date there… ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/33 "2006-04-17T16:54:54Z")
> [@Google ad](#): > > Broken Heart? Heartache? > Strategies to get your lover back, even if he/she is unwilling. Hee! ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/34 "2006-04-17T17:17:38Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > Screw eHarmony. I tried it once years ago, and I got rejected too. So this year when I hit the dating circuit I tried Match to unbelievable success. No problem finding people to date there… Speak for yourself… Stranger ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/35 "2006-04-17T19:32:33Z")
> [@Stranger On A Train](#): > > Speak for yourself… > > Stranger Sorry. I’m just saying there’s no need to fret because eHarmony rejects you. I tried Yahoo! Personals and the Onion Personals and got very little attention or response. I copied the exact same profile to Match, and I had four dates with different girls consecutively, and all led to a second date. I’m just saying, if one service doesn’t work, try another one. I don’t know why, but with both Yahoo and the Onion, perhaps 5% of the girls I wrote to wrote me back. I had no luck with them. With Match, it was closer to 33%. However, other friends of mine had the opposite results. It seems that different types hang out on different sites, so just check around. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/36 "2006-04-17T19:46:02Z")
I was rejected about 10 months back in a different way from them. I used humor in my profile…not realizing they’d see it as lying as they have a “NO LYING” rule in their policy. I had gone the whole opposite route. Like reverse psychology. I think I had in my proflie something like: “Don’t pick me. I’m ugly. I’m hideous. Seriously. I make warts on a pig’s butt look attractive. I have no life, I talk to my cats as if they were people, eye kant spel. Why would you ever want to be matched up with me?” The entire thing was much more exaggertated than that. It was to the point where you could tell I was being funny…or at least trying to. But two days later I received an email from them saying they were deleting my account due to some kind of “Lying and Deceit Clause” or something like that. So I said, “ah well…screw 'em”. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2006, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/37 "2006-04-17T21:11:13Z")
Ladies, if you’re feeling bad about being rejected by eHarmony, I suggest you try eTdn. Far better. Send a picture and a list of ticklish spots. ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2006, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892/38 "2006-04-18T00:15:20Z")
> [@Mr Bus Guy](#): > > I figured this would happen, but I tried anyway. Imagine a school district blocking an internet dating site. Sheesh. My company blocks Myspace as an internet dating site. WTF? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rejected-by-eharmony-again/352892.md?page=1)