# Relationship Moving Fast...How Do I Tell?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationship-moving-fast-how-do-i-tell/395845>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [March 14, 2007, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationship-moving-fast-how-do-i-tell/395845 "2007-03-14T03:46:40Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![Yeeter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/96bed5/32.png) [@Yeeter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeeter)\
**Post date:** [March 16, 2007, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationship-moving-fast-how-do-i-tell/395845/21 "2007-03-16T16:38:42Z")

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**Roboto** you overestimate my “support system.” Since I moved back to KC, I haven’t made too many new friends and my old friends from high school are married with children so they don’t get out much (read: at all). Though, I do miss some “alone time” which I’ll be getting this weekend since she is going out of town for a badminton thing.

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**Author:** ![SCSimmons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e495f1/32.png) [@SCSimmons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SCSimmons)\
**Post date:** [March 16, 2007, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationship-moving-fast-how-do-i-tell/395845/22 "2007-03-16T19:52:42Z")

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Just to chime in: I proposed to my wife two weeks to the day after our first date, and less than four weeks after we first met. That was eighteen-and-a-half years ago.

No doubt this is the exception rather than the rule. But it’s worked (so far!) for us …

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**Author:** ![Not\_a\_Platypus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d26b3c/32.png) [@Not\_a\_Platypus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Not_a_Platypus)\
**Post date:** [March 17, 2007, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationship-moving-fast-how-do-i-tell/395845/23 "2007-03-17T04:15:15Z")

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It’s moving faster than I’d be comfortable with. Purchasing furniture for someone I’ve been dating for a month? No thanks, but then I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for going on 3 years, so obviously everyone’s mileage varies. I certainly don’t have to worry about anyone moving in too soon 🆒

Really, if you’re cool with it and aren’t just getting shoved into a situation you don’t like, then go for it, man. You (and her) are the only one that knows what’s right for you.

ETA: I would advise against rushing into this because you lack a support system elsewhere. If you’re looking to get serious with this gal just because she’s there, I’m not sure it’ll work out well.

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