# Relationships: What kind of "Not Cheater" are you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 15, 2016, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationships-what-kind-of-not-cheater-are-you/757468 "2016-06-15T22:00:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2016, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationships-what-kind-of-not-cheater-are-you/757468/61 "2016-06-29T12:47:30Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > I’m between relationships now but when I am it’s group A. He’s the most interesting monogamist in the world. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2016, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationships-what-kind-of-not-cheater-are-you/757468/62 "2016-06-29T14:05:03Z")
> [@Allthegood](#): > > Other: I am polyamorous. “Polyamorous” does not necessarily equal “can’t cheat”. Virtually all relationships have rules, even if it’s as basic as “screw who you want, you don’t need permission or need to tell, but don’t bring home any diseases”. Breaking the rule means cheating. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2016, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationships-what-kind-of-not-cheater-are-you/757468/63 "2016-06-29T14:06:07Z")
I don’t often find myself sexually attracted to people I know in real life. Occasionally, but most of the time I’m attracted to fantasy. People I know online sometimes. Celebrities, a lot. But they are just a fantasized version of the man - most celebs, when you see them day-to-day, look ordinary or just a bit above average. I rarely flirt in my professional world, but I had a sweet little moment a few weeks ago that I didn’t expect. I was out on a social evening with a group of people. One of the people there was a man about my age. We got to talking and really hit it off. Some other people joined our little group, and we were all talking together, when one of them gestured to the man and said, “How long have you and your fiancé been together?” Taken aback, I said, “Oh! He’s very cute, but he’s not mine!” Almost at the same moment that he said, “If she was my fiancée I’d certainly remember that!” It was a sweet moment of harmless connection I think we both enjoyed. But other than that I am careful to keep my demeanor extremely professional! Oh, and I tell my husband all the time when I find someone cute. Our new lawn maintenance guy is _extremely_ hot, and I keep telling my husband that the guy should mow the lawn shirtless. But in that I feel like any other 40 YO woman - isn’t that what lawn maintenance guys are _for_? I feel sorry for the neighbors down the street who have a fat dumpy guy doing their lawn. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![zimaane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a3d4f5/32.png) [@zimaane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zimaane)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2016, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationships-what-kind-of-not-cheater-are-you/757468/64 "2016-06-30T14:33:57Z")
Group A, male I may be on a diet, but I still read the whole menu! ---
**Author:** ![zimaane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a3d4f5/32.png) [@zimaane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zimaane)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2016, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationships-what-kind-of-not-cheater-are-you/757468/65 "2016-06-30T14:35:01Z")
Quote: Originally Posted by Loach View Post I’m between relationships now but when I am it’s group A. He’s the most interesting monogamist in the world. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e47c2d/32.png) [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hershele_Ostropoler)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2016, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationships-what-kind-of-not-cheater-are-you/757468/66 "2016-07-02T01:14:32Z")
I’m surprised “other” isn’t doing better. What does “temptation” mean in this context? ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2016, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationships-what-kind-of-not-cheater-are-you/757468/67 "2016-07-02T02:41:53Z")
> [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](#): > > I’m surprised “other” isn’t doing better. What does “temptation” mean in this context? Meaning, the opportunity to have sex with someone other than your SO, who also happens to be what you find physically attractive presents itself. You decline for reasons A or B? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/relationships-what-kind-of-not-cheater-are-you/757468.md?page=3)